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Rex's 2nd Time Around Volume 2   Sobriety/Recovery Journals

Started 8/31/12 by Rex (rcclark99); 27965 views.
Rex (rcclark99)
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From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/2/12

Nancy, no need to admire the way I'm handling things. All of our lives are fraught in different ways. You just keep fighting the good fight and I'll keep doing the same and we'll both come out winners. Love to you.
NCorbett3

From: NCorbett3

9/2/12

Damn, I'll admire you if I want to.  So there.
Rex (rcclark99)
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From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/2/12

Ok Nancy!! Feel free to admire away. lol
je072712

From: je072712

9/2/12

Rex, I have been following your journey from a distance. I had to jump in and tell you that your strength, determination and sobriety through it all is something that we should all aspire to. Thank you for sharing what can be a very tough period in your life.

Jen
Rex (rcclark99)
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From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/2/12

Thank you Jen. Yes, the last few weeks I have discovered that life can be ended qucikly and permanently.

I get up every day and take on the challenges of that day, not worrying about next month or next year. There is no use to worry about days we may never see.

Sobriety is definitely the best gift I can give myself to start each day and it is totally in my control. It doesn't matter how much or how little money I have or if I have a job or not or if I feel great or am deathly ill, sobriety is within my grasp everyday.

  • Edited 9/2/2012 8:22 pm by Rex (rcclark99)
NCorbett3

From: NCorbett3

9/3/12

Rex (rcclark99) says:
Sobriety is definitely the best gift I can give myself to start each day and it is totally in my control. It doesn't matter how much or how little money I have or if I have a job or not or if I feel great or am deathly ill, sobriety is within my grasp everyday.

This is going into my personal journal.  Thanks, Rex.
marylouise50

From: marylouise50

9/4/12

Yes, that is the kind of statement, as Nancy quoted, that  makes such sense to me, something to keep as an aide-memoire of what is possible and within our grasp when so much else is not.

I was thinking about you the other day Rex and  something came back to me from Thomas Moore's book on Dark Nights of the Soul, how  we sometimes step out of character in ways that disconcert or distress others and how we hate ourselves for it, but that underneath it may be deeply necessary that we  change, because something deep down  needs to express itself and  find a voice or a way to  come to consciousness.

And I was reading about Paul Gauguin who ran away from his respectable life, abandoned his wife and five children,  sailed for Tahiti and began clumsily and  amidst teh ruins of his former life to paint -- it was on the surface the  most callous and mad thing for  a man in his later life to do, a kind of selfish craziness -- but I think Gauguin knew it was 'now or never' and that the  artist within needed to break free in order to  be able to  create a vision, that he needed to live differently to be more fully himself and get to know the suppressed self within..
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Rex (rcclark99)
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From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/8/12

"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times" I believe it was said many years ago.

It has been an unbelievable three months as most of you know.

I had a first date with a wonderful lady on May 20th followed by two more in the next week and a half.

I was involved in a really bad motorcycle accident on June 1, near St. Louis, Missouri and spent the next several days in the hospital at the St. Louis University Medical Center. I suffered a really bad concussion, several broken ribs and during CT Scans it was discovered I also had previously undetected kidney cancer.

The cancer has been removed........successfully I am told, and after having cancer for 2-3 years and not knowing it, I am now a cancer survivor.

My concussion has lead to a subdural hematoma which is finally beginning to get smaller after a couple of months of growth and the doctor says in 6 months I should be as good as new, or at least as good as I was on May 31.

The relationship with the lady I met on May 20, has progressed steadily over the last almost four months and we spend 2-3 nights a week at one or the other's home and many wonderful weekends together.

She left last weekend for a two week tour of Italy and I have been missing her greatly which leads to the following:

My last really bad craving for alcohol was over a year ago while I was on vacation on my way to Rae's house...........until three days ago.

I have had thoughts of drinking for the last three days; sometimes intense, sometimes not so much. Last night it was so bad I went to a movie to get away from the thoughts going through my brain.

I'm not sure if it is the relief of appearing to be on the healing path in several parts of my body, the sadness of missing my lover of the last few months or a combination of things. I am having the thoughts again today. I live alone, no one would know I drank but me but since I have vowed to be an honorable man, that doesn't seem like the right way to do things.

I have promised my estranged wife, my new lover and myself that whatever lapses I've had in moral judgement over the last couple of years are a thing of the past and I am working toward that end. But now, just when it looks like everything is aligning itself, the drinking thoughts and craving have reared their ugly head with a vengeance. I'm a little puzzled.

Rex

  • Edited 9/8/2012 10:28 pm by Rex (rcclark99)
Firenailer

From: Firenailer

9/8/12

Hey Rex,

I've been following this and have left you a couple of messages, glad to hear that your starting to feel better.

After everything that you've been through over the last few months, hearing that you're Cancer free, and that the hematoma is beginning to reduce would cause anyone to lower their guard, and just let out a sigh of relief.

Perhaps that was all the opening that the craving needed. It might be time to check out that Mens group you used to talk to, or your therapist. Try to get out of your own head for awhile,

But call someone before you have that first one. Im rooting for you buddy. I just passed 10 months today and you were a big part of that,

Stay well today.

Rae (raeanne51)

From: Rae (raeanne51)

9/8/12

Rex, I'm always taken by surprise when I get those occasional cravings.. sometimes I see the trigger; most times I don't. In your case its likely the combination of things being so unsettled for months and now you're able to relax so your brain is reverting back to the familiar.

Whatever the reason, you know the solution. Remember too, those cravings don't last for long; bit of diversion and it goes away; repeat as necessary.

I don't think you're going to drink.. you didn't go to hell and back for nothing, my friend.

Love you, Rae

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