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Yes, I remember that mindset when personal upsets and tragedies 'justified' drinking, made drinking almost 'mandatory'. It was part on the inner argument that went on every day, to try and prove I could go without or stop at any time, and the desire to 'treat' myself. 'reward' myself, 'comfort' myself, 'take the edge off', 'dull the pain'. The inner conflicts are still there but not that one and not polarised in the same way.
I feel I could have eased my dog's suffering without having to have him destroyed. It may or may not be true. He was suffering and the vet felt it was time. I made the decision and it was probably the best choice in the circumstances. I shall never have such a large dog again and I still have two small dogs. I don't know when I'll be ready for another dog. Working from home means that the companionship is important. If I was to find myself without dogs, I might go out more in the evenings. Because I live with a partner, the grief is shared and the choices about dogs will be made together. If I was staying alone, I don't think I would have had three dogs.
Was Kyla your older dog before Ella? I'm sorry I don't remember.
What always strikes me when I go to meetings out here is the rawness and convoluted rigid thinking of those just getting sober. It reminds me of what drinking and the need to drink did to my mind.
i doubt i ever mentioned Kyla, as i was still drinking when she died, though was doing another sobriety experiment at the time, meaning i had decided to not drink for a few months and then to reconsider whether i thought i had a REAL problem.
i was drinking again when i adopted Ella...she lived a long time. and was here through my entire sobriety.
i find it very strange and a bit unsettling to not be responsible another being's welfare. THAT is missing, also.
yes, the convoluted and rigid thinking of newly sober. i remember. rigidity felt safer than anything more fluid. something to hold on to.
When you are ready for a new dog, I have a friend who is in to hound rescues. He post videos of 2 or 3 month dogs practicing howling that are really wonderful. If I lived where I could have a dog, I would be tempted. If you are ever interested, let me know.
I think you are right, at the beginning of sobriety, rigidity feels safer. I think that may be one of the attractions of AA and the lack one of the harder things to handle with Life Ring.
thanks for the offer, Brian, and i have to laugh...because one of the criteria for any dog of mine is that they not be howling.
my neighbours would kill me:)
Just a quick heads-up for those who aren't on Facebook. Rex has been hospitalised for a week or so with a bad gallbladder/bile duct infection, but seems to be better now and Judy has posted very positive updates.
I'll post more news as updates come in.
Hi Mary! As you mentioned I did recently spend nine days in the hospital but am now home and recovering from a blockage in my bile duct. It was extremely painful and resulted in a blood infection which I'm still taking antibiotics for. This is my third bout with a similar problem. My gall bladder was removed 12 years ago but still is a source of problems for me health-wise from time to time ever since. Every time this problem comes up it becomes life threatening due to sepsis and blood infections which makes my body temperature soar. I've been in intensive-care packed in ice on more than one occasion since then.
But I'm home now and though still very weak and tired, every day seems to be slightly better. Thank you for thinking of me, Mary, I hope you're well and keeping as cool as possible. It seems that our winter is tapering off although I know spring is still a few weeks off. Judy and I were supposed to be on a Caribbean cruise last week and spending a week in Florida this week but obviously that didn't happen. Judy was very disappointed and of course it will be quite costly for us but we really had no choice. Life goes on and as everyone else is, I'm only guaranteed today so I just try to make the most of every one.
oh it sounds like an awfully painful condition all around and i' m glad to hear you are home and okay.
Very happy and relieved to know you're back and recovering, Rex. I wish I could send you some of our heat! Sorry to hear about the cruise but these things happen. And if you had fallen ill on the cruise, that would have been more difficult. Please rest and take it easy as your body heals. All love to Judy.
Thank you margit,
Yes, It was a rough couple of weeks but I'm getting stronger everyday and have just finished with my final round of antibiotics to kill the blood infection. I have a followup doctor visit on Friday so we'll see what my GP has to say.
You have sent us some of your heat! It's supposed to be 53 degrees F today and 58 tomorrow with lots of sunshine.
I did spend several days in the hospital on high doses of dilaudid (hydromorpone) and Norco (hydrocodone). There was no other way to deal with extreme pain. I have no idea how anyone becomes addicted to opioids. They do nothing for me other than make the pain tolerable. I did have a little trouble getting off them (hallucinations etc.) but this has happened to me before after surgeries, of which I've had several.
Yes, there will be other vacations and I should just be thankful to be alive and getting better.
Thank you for thinking of us here.
Hugs to you and your household.