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Hello to all,
Although I seldom post here anymore, I do follow this wonderful forum and try and keep up with some great, sober friends I've made here.
I turned 71 years of age last March and first came here in late 2009 after struggling with alcoholism for much of my life. I had my last drink on November 15, 2009 and can't ever imagine having another one.
When I look back over the last nine years it is amazing how many changes had occurred.
I have divorced and been in a new relationship for almost 6 years, I have suffered the death of a daughter by suicide on Christmas Eve of 2016. I have also become a great-grandfather twice and while my overall health is good there have been recent challenges in that area.
I still struggle with mild bi-polar illness but medication helps and for the most part it's not a big problem.
Life is short, sometimes difficult, complicated but such an interesting adventure. I will try to get some thoughts together and post more later.
Great to hear from you again, Rex. What a wild trip sobriety has been!
Just another quick heads-up to say Judy has posted that Rex will be having surgery again tomorrow.
All love and strength to you, Rex.
Thank you Mary, we’ve checked in at University of Chicago hospital and are awaiting my name to be called for prep. We are trying to get at the cause of the numerous life-threatening blood infections I’ve been getting. Hopefully this surgery to my cystic bile duct will help.
On another note, I will pass my ninth year of sobriety on Thursday, November 15. I could not have done it without the help of you folks here. Many are no longer here from when I started but you and a couple of other mainstays have been a pillar of my recovery.
Love and peace to you Mary.
Nine years already? Time flies ... and congratulations for tomorrow's anniversary, Rex. And good luck with the op and healing properly, I'll be watching for FB posts.
You're in my thoughts and my secularish prayers, all love to you and Judy.
Good luck Rex, I'll be thinking about you.
Good Morning All,
It's the day before our Thanksgiving Day holiday here in the U.S. Although it's been a challenging year in many ways, I still have much to be thankful for.
I am at work today, although I limit myself to about 16 hours a week. It gives me purpose and structure which I really need in my life and it gives me a chance to spend time with my two surviving kids who are actually running our family company. My daughter is handles sales, quoting and purchasing and my son runs the shop. I come in and offer advice and handle the Quickbooks system. So mostly I sit in front of my computer and observe them interacting with each other and making virtually all the decisions.
We really have not solved anything yet about my mysterious bouts with blood infections (sepsis) which can definitely be life threatening. I am still on antibiotics while the my team of specialists try to figure out our next move. I will soon be 72 and I cannot keep having these. I have more appointments coming up with a biliary surgeon and a hematologist. Most of the time I feel fine but when one of these episodes occur I am liable to be rushed to the emergency room and spend 1-2 weeks in the hospital fighting off the infection.
I observed my ninth sober anniversary on Thursday of last week. I cannot ever imagine going back to a life ruled by alcohol. It just seems so foreign to me now. There is just so much to live for and I'm sure if I had not gotten sober i would not be alive today.
I made a decision over this past summer which was seconded by my partner Judy and I sold my last motorcycle. I decided it was just time. It was solely my decision and I'm comfortable with it. We did take an eight day trip to the Hot Springs, Arkansas area early this summer and rode through through the beautiful Ozark Mountains which I've done many times but always enjoy. I've ridden a motorcycle through 47 of the United States (if I remember correctly) and i believe 10 Canadian Provinces from Nova Scotia to British Columbia. That's probably enough for me.
About three years ago I took an interest in vintage, classic and hot rod cars. I purchased a 1938 Dodge Brothers Touring Sedan that is completely original except for the paint. I have shown the car at several local car shows over the last three years and it has shown well and won many awards in the process. There is always plenty to do to keep an eighty year old car on the road.
Late this summer I purchased a 1961 Studebaker Lark from a Studebaker collector who was building in it as an "old school hot rod". I have gutted the interior and plan to attempt my first interior rebuild. I took it to the paint shop earlier this week and I'm sure he'll have it for a good part of the winter. It's getting pretty much of a complete repaint except for the hood and deck lid which has some beautiful "old skool" pinstriping that I want to retain as part of the history of the car.
Judy and I continue our regular ballroom dance lessons with the local Arthur Murray Studio. We participate in individual lessons, group lessons and dance parties on a regular basis. For the past few months we have concentrated on the american rumba, cha-cha, hustle and single swing but we dabble in waltz, fox-trot and tango to a much lesser degree. We both enjoy it, have made several new friends through dancing and although it is an expensive hobby we both feel it is very beneficial for our health and balance and is considered a great way to stave off the effects of dementia and/or alzheimers as we age.
So although life is and always will be challenging, I do have so many things to be thankful for and I'm aware of that fact.
I hope all my friends here are well and happy today and I will always be grateful to this forum which had so much to do with my sobriety. Many that I met here have moved on but a few are still here and I love to stop by here and see what's going on in their lives even though they are scattered around the world. I will always be grateful to Lifering and everyone here.
Good to hear all the good news, hope they can figure out the source of the blood infections. Keeping engaged with the world, I think that's the secret no matter how you do it.
I've been offline for a few days, spotty Internet and couldn't log in here. Rex, so good reading you and hearing all about your year -- I loved the pics you posted of some of your trips!
Hoping along with Brian that the medical team works out what is going on and that 2019 is a healthier year.
As always it's great to hear from you. We're still working on a solution to my medical issues but I chuckled last week when I saw a t-shirt which stated:
My Bucket List
1. Keep breathing
Right now that's my main focus. lol
I hope you and yours are well and enjoying springtime. We've have a very cold and snowy November but we'll endure.