LifeRing Recovery: a self-help alternative for recovery from alcoholism and other chemical dependency. Group support for abstinence from alcohol and “drugs” by empowering the sober self within you. Completely secular: no prayers, Higher Powers or Steps.
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Hello all! New to the forum. I am looking to be more successful in my recovery by finding ways of battling my addict self and letting my sober self have a chance. I am struggling. Hoping to immerse myself in advice and success stories. Glad to be here! Will take any suggestions.
Welcome to the forum, good to see you here. The idea of Life Ring is that there is no one way to stop drinking or using - we all have to find what works for us. But it is worthwhile looking at what others have found helpful - you could start by looking at the journals people have written - sometimes over years.
And maybe let us know a little more about yourself and keep letting us know how you are doing.
Welcome, Michael. I'm not one for advice but I can tell you that sobriety gets easier over time. Are you able to get to any meetings or hang out with sober friends for coffee? I've been sober since 17 March 2007 and it was hard the first year but I had support and stayed away from any place serving alcohol until I felt stronger within.
Thank you guys for your replies Brian and MaryLouise! I am at a point in my life that I could certainly lose my wife and kids if I continue to let that AS voice tell me that I can drink and handle it, or even more of an issue...get away with it. My family life is busy enough where I don't have the leisure to go to a bar, so really it is all about sneaking in the drinks while I am doing domestic life. My AS voice speaks to me all the time and I am ok at shutting it down, but it's almost as if I am looking for excuses to sneak in those drinks. I have been jumping into workouts lately and that has helped. And joining in on the forum is another support strategy. Wow, that was a lot in one message.
I've gone to a local Life Ring meeting. And would like to attend more. Nice group. I need to get together with friends more often, and they understand that I am trying to remain sober. Time for these things tends to be an issue. Great job on being sober since 2007!!
Good to hear from you, Michael!
How could you thwart that 'sneaking'? I found it helpful to ensure there was no alcohol in the house -- something still true and it simplifies everything. If alcohol isn't there, I can't sneak any drinks. You might also ask your family for help -- to make sure they understand how you're struggling with this domestic temptation.
Hoping your week goes well --
I'm happy you found a meeting, Michael. Share as much as you can to get feedback and support for what you're dealing with right now -- LifeRing is very present-focused.
Thank you for your suggestions MaryLouise. My family is not as responsive to why I continue to break their trust as they just want it to stop. I am interested in doing the journal entries on here. What is the best way of doing that?
Hi Michael, I get that -- those close to us often have trouble understanding the stop/start difficulties and the nature of alcoholic compulsion. The good thing is that once we've been sober for a continuous length of time, the trust comes back.
I'm going to check how you might start a journal here -- I think it involves clicking to bring up the journal section and then starting a new thread. Let me see. Brian may also have a clearer and simpler way to put this!
Good to see you popping back here-- posting regularly helped me so much in early years.
Mary's instructions should work for starting a new journal - if you have any problems, let me know.
People who are not alcoholics or addicts - or who have not been around them for a long time - just cannot understand the compulsion that drives addictive behavior. It took my wife years and many relapses on my part for her to understand. That's why I think it helps to join a group, even an AA group - when you are first starting to stop. You don't have to buy into the AA message, but it really does help to be around people who do understand what you are going through.