CWhalley

LifeRing Recovery

Hosted by CWhalley

LifeRing Recovery: a self-help alternative for recovery from alcoholism and other chemical dependency. Group support for abstinence from alcohol and “drugs” by empowering the sober self within you. Completely secular: no prayers, Higher Powers or Steps.

  • 5543
    MEMBERS
  • 92143
    MESSAGES
  • 1
    POSTS TODAY

Discussions

Rex's 2nd Time Around Volume 2   Sobriety/Recovery Journals

Started 8/31/12 by Rex (rcclark99); 28223 views.
Susan (swl755)

From: Susan (swl755)

9/9/12

Just popping in at the tail end of this discussion and glad to hear the cravings are lessening. 

Quite a few people have talked about getting cravings after a period of stress, rather than during.  Rae's description of reverting to [old] normal patterns makes sense to me, all those years we'd come home from a particularly horrible day at work, kick off our shoes, and say, God, I need a drink!  Decompression.

What good news that the subdural hematoma is finally going away.  And good news that you're in a relationship you like so much.  Sounds like things are really looking up for you in all kinds of ways, Rex.  Just one word of advice from this corner:  don't screw it up! 

xx/Susan, ever helpful
Firenailer

From: Firenailer

9/9/12

No worrys or apologies needed. I'll get you on the line soon. It all seems pretty normal to me. You've been through the ringer, and you have to be emotionally shot. Add your friend's going to Italy and some emptyness or lonliness, and the craving isn't so surprising.

Sober 1 year or 30, your still human, and the same things still make you tick. Who wouldn't sit back after all that and not think a drink sure would taste good? But we know it wouldn't be one drink, and it wouldn't be that good, and it's just not worth messing with. Life is just so much easier and better without it. Why F$%k it all up for a drink?

Your friend will be back soon, keep yourself well until she gets home, and reach out to friends when you need to. BUT DON'T DRINK! Now get up, go out to the garage and tinker with the new bike. Change the oil, wash it and wax it, hook up the GPS, whatever....

Just keep yourself moving and busy with everyday life stuff for awhile until this passes.

I'll see you back here in a couple of months when I hit my first year sober!

NCorbett3

From: NCorbett3

9/9/12

Hi Rex
All that matters is that you did the right things - came here and talked about it, went to movies etc.  I totally identify with wanting to drink AFTER getting through some tough period.  Perfectly normal for this alcoholic.  Just take good care of yourself and keep doing what you're doing; staying sober no matter what.
love, nancy xxx
Rex (rcclark99)
Staff

From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/9/12

Just one word of advice from this corner: don't screw it up!

LOLOLOL. Thank you Susan. No reason to beat around the proverbial bush, just come out and say it.

I do not know where this relationship is going but so far it has been very good for both of us, I think.

I'm not sure what caused me to lose my way for the last couple of years in the relationships with the opposite sex arena, but lose my way I did. I was not honorable in dealing with my marriage and others and have hurt people who didn't deserve it.

Besides all the doctors I've dealt with in the last few months, I have continued to see my therapist and belong to a men's group dealing with intimacy. So, I am doing my best not to screw it up. She is a wonderful woman and deserves to have a sober, honest and honorable companion and I'm doing my best to provide that.

Rex (rcclark99)
Staff

From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/9/12

Bob, I am so happy to hear you're doing well and looking at finishing up a sober year. That is wonderful.

Life is just so much easier and better without it. Why F$%k it all up for a drink?

And that is precisely why I won't f*ck it up. I have been sober long enough to know that cravings are no more than thoughts and they will pass. However, damn they can be annoying.

I struggled with them for three days but things seem to be easing up now so onward we go.

I'll be waiting to hear that one sober year announcement. I'm very proud of you. I know it has not always been easy.

Rex (rcclark99)
Staff

From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/9/12

 I totally identify with wanting to drink AFTER getting through some tough period.

I understand why this could happen but just didn't think about it I guess until they hit me. I don't remember having cravings last for most of three days before. They usually go away after a few minutes or a couple of hours. Oh well, things seem more stable today so we will move on forward step by step.

I am taking care of myself Nancy and am physically feeling better than at any time since June 1. It's a process but I'm getting there.

Thank you for your post. Love to you too.

falltrees

From: falltrees

9/10/12

Hi Firenailer

It's good to read your post.  I hadn't noticed that you were in the Forum recently,  and kind of wondered how you were doing.  It sounds like you are doing fine.

Good advice to Rex also.



Nancy
chazdee

From: chazdee

9/19/12

Hi Rex,
Sorry to hear about your problems. I am glad you're feeling better. I come from a family so full disease it's ridiculous and I come from one of the most polluted areas in the world, Southeast Texas (petrochemical). I am now 57 years old and every time I have a pain that lingers too long I think, "this is it, I'm going to go to the doctor and it's going to be cancer". But so far, so good. Take care of yourself.
Charles
In reply toRe: msg 32
Rex (rcclark99)
Staff

From: Rex (rcclark99)

9/23/12

 

Well, tomorrow I need to go to Indianapolis for my one month post-op checkup with my cancer surgeon. And then on Friday it's back to the hospital for a colonoscopy. I haven't had one in three years so it is time. I have had polyps removed everytime I take one so expect this time to be more of the same.

Judy just left to go home after spending the weekend with me. We had a really nice time and spent much of today watching her grandson's Pop Warner football games. One of them is 7 and one is 8. The helmets are almost as big as they are but it was fun to watch.

It was a nice early fall day here with quite a bit of sunshine and a little wind but overall a really nice day for football.

My daughter came up from Tulsa for a few days. Judy and I went out to dinner with her and her boyfriend on Friday evening. Matt, her boyfriend surprised her with a weekend trip to San Francisco, so they left early Saturday morning for a weekend on the west coast. This is not the daughter with the drinking problem but my oldest, who seemingly has very few problems.

Life has always been easy for her, at least from the outside but maybe it's just because she handles everything so well.

The cravings of a couple of weeks ago have slunken back in to the darkness hopefully to remain there for awhile.

 

mkh106
Staff

From: mkh106

9/23/12

Rex,

bet you're sick of hospitals and probings and testings and.....i wish you well for the check-up.

it's always interesting to me how kids can be so different...i see it in my own two daughters frequently. as if they grew up with entirely different parents in entirely different circumstances...

your weekend sounds lovely. i saw both my kids today on my bike-ride, 20 km, perfect temperature and sunny fall-day here too. i'm talking bicycle, of course, when i say bike:)

Margit

TOP