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No worrys or apologies needed. I'll get you on the line soon. It all seems pretty normal to me. You've been through the ringer, and you have to be emotionally shot. Add your friend's going to Italy and some emptyness or lonliness, and the craving isn't so surprising.
Sober 1 year or 30, your still human, and the same things still make you tick. Who wouldn't sit back after all that and not think a drink sure would taste good? But we know it wouldn't be one drink, and it wouldn't be that good, and it's just not worth messing with. Life is just so much easier and better without it. Why F$%k it all up for a drink?
Your friend will be back soon, keep yourself well until she gets home, and reach out to friends when you need to. BUT DON'T DRINK! Now get up, go out to the garage and tinker with the new bike. Change the oil, wash it and wax it, hook up the GPS, whatever....
Just keep yourself moving and busy with everyday life stuff for awhile until this passes.
I'll see you back here in a couple of months when I hit my first year sober!
Just one word of advice from this corner: don't screw it up!
LOLOLOL. Thank you Susan. No reason to beat around the proverbial bush, just come out and say it.
I do not know where this relationship is going but so far it has been very good for both of us, I think.
I'm not sure what caused me to lose my way for the last couple of years in the relationships with the opposite sex arena, but lose my way I did. I was not honorable in dealing with my marriage and others and have hurt people who didn't deserve it.Besides all the doctors I've dealt with in the last few months, I have continued to see my therapist and belong to a men's group dealing with intimacy. So, I am doing my best not to screw it up. She is a wonderful woman and deserves to have a sober, honest and honorable companion and I'm doing my best to provide that.
Bob, I am so happy to hear you're doing well and looking at finishing up a sober year. That is wonderful.
Life is just so much easier and better without it. Why F$%k it all up for a drink?
And that is precisely why I won't f*ck it up. I have been sober long enough to know that cravings are no more than thoughts and they will pass. However, damn they can be annoying.
I struggled with them for three days but things seem to be easing up now so onward we go.
I'll be waiting to hear that one sober year announcement. I'm very proud of you. I know it has not always been easy.
I totally identify with wanting to drink AFTER getting through some tough period.
I understand why this could happen but just didn't think about it I guess until they hit me. I don't remember having cravings last for most of three days before. They usually go away after a few minutes or a couple of hours. Oh well, things seem more stable today so we will move on forward step by step.
I am taking care of myself Nancy and am physically feeling better than at any time since June 1. It's a process but I'm getting there.
Thank you for your post. Love to you too.
Well, tomorrow I need to go to Indianapolis for my one month post-op checkup with my cancer surgeon. And then on Friday it's back to the hospital for a colonoscopy. I haven't had one in three years so it is time. I have had polyps removed everytime I take one so expect this time to be more of the same.
Judy just left to go home after spending the weekend with me. We had a really nice time and spent much of today watching her grandson's Pop Warner football games. One of them is 7 and one is 8. The helmets are almost as big as they are but it was fun to watch.
It was a nice early fall day here with quite a bit of sunshine and a little wind but overall a really nice day for football.
My daughter came up from Tulsa for a few days. Judy and I went out to dinner with her and her boyfriend on Friday evening. Matt, her boyfriend surprised her with a weekend trip to San Francisco, so they left early Saturday morning for a weekend on the west coast. This is not the daughter with the drinking problem but my oldest, who seemingly has very few problems.
Life has always been easy for her, at least from the outside but maybe it's just because she handles everything so well.
The cravings of a couple of weeks ago have slunken back in to the darkness hopefully to remain there for awhile.
bet you're sick of hospitals and probings and testings and.....i wish you well for the check-up.
it's always interesting to me how kids can be so different...i see it in my own two daughters frequently. as if they grew up with entirely different parents in entirely different circumstances...
your weekend sounds lovely. i saw both my kids today on my bike-ride, 20 km, perfect temperature and sunny fall-day here too. i'm talking bicycle, of course, when i say bike:)
Yes Margit, I am sick of hospitals and of being poked and prodded but hopefully I'm headed toward daylight as I move forward.
Yes, I have three children and they are all very different. The two youngest seem to struggle through life with addictions and making one poor decision after another while the oldest daughter just seems to soar through life with the greatest of ease.