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Rex's 2nd Time Around Volume 2   Sobriety/Recovery Journals

Started 8/31/12 by Rex (rcclark99); 31267 views.
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Rex (rcclark99)

From: Rex (rcclark99)



In a few hours I will conclude my third sober year here on the forum and begin my fourth.

The last time I had a taste of an alcoholic beverage was November 14, 2009. I remember waking up on the 15th and for some unknown reason just decided there had to be a better way....... A better way to live my life than to have it defined by the nature and quantities of alcoholic beverages I poured down my throat.

As some of you know, a lot has happened to me in the past three years. I suppose a lot happens in any three year period of anyone's life.

Early in my new-found sobriety I survived a bout with e-coli bacteria which was being pumped through my bloodstream by a malfunction in my own digestive tract. Unknown to me at the time the ICU people gave me a 50/50 chance to make it through the night as I was packed in ice to lower a 105 degree F fever. But I did and was out of the hospital in a few days.

I have lived through an almost-successful suicide attempt by my youngest daughter. She has survived and today, while still struggling with alcohol from time to time, seems to be in a much better place and seems as happy as I ever remember her. My son also still struggles with alcohol at times despite being an insulin dependant diabetic and suffering a sever head injury in a bar mugging a few months ago.

I have enjoyed several long motorcycle trips in the last three years, including my 17-18 day, 6500 mile trip during August of 2011. I visited several folks on this forum and a few from the Lifering chatroom. Some are still here, some are not.....some are still sober and some are not but I will never forget each and everyone of you/them.

Some have had a profound effect on my life and continue to as I go forward into year four.

In the past several years I believe I have ridden my motorcycle in/through 39 of our 48 continental states.

I also had a Lifering friend from Australia come to the US, purchase a motorcycle in Seattle and ride it across the US alone and she's a girl! Melly will always have my utmost respect.

On June 1 of this year I began a one-day trip from my home outside Chciago to a friends house in Wichita, Kansas. It ended prematurely in the intensive care unit of the St. Louis University Medical Center. I crashed heavily on Interstate 70 in a construction zone and was air-lifted from the scene in an unconcious state.

During the the CT Scans taken to assess my injuries, it was discovered I also had a cancerous tumor on my left kidney. I have been recovering for the last five months from those injuries and from the cancer surgery.

My marriage of 20 years came to an end earlier this year and I now live alone. I had two extra-marital affairs in the last two years and am not proud of that but obviously was searching for something. I have searched for a contented sobriety over the last 25 years and think I might finally be getting there.

Today I am sober, contented for the present, in love with a wondeful woman I met a few months ago and have absolutely no clue what the next three years might bring. I guess I'll just have to stick around and find out.


Brian (BrianB125)

From: Brian (BrianB125)


There is a Chinese proverb - something of a curse - "May you live in exciting times!"  Seems like you've been through it.

If your planning a trip for the summer, think about West Virginia - I can give you a place to stay.

Rex (rcclark99)

From: Rex (rcclark99)


I love riding in WV, really some great roads. What part of the state do you live in Brian. This might be a very real possibility.

From: MaryLouise2


Congratulations Rex on those three years! And thanks too for the masterly resume of the roller coaster. You have been through so many extremes and I  hope that your 4th year is less daredevil and more settled!



Congragulations Rex on your 3 years well done heres hoping you have many more.


Brian (BrianB125)

From: Brian (BrianB125)



If you look at a map and see where the western part of Maryland dips down into WV, we are just below there.  The nearest big (sort of) town is Petersburg.  If you can find the Canaan Valley (lots of ski resorts), we are in the valley just east of there, on the other side of the Dolly Sods and the Allegheny Front.

We have two extra bedrooms so you'd be welcome any time.

Elsie (Elsiek)

From: Elsie (Elsiek)


So it can be done....well done you xxx


From: Firenailer


That's been a heck of a 3 year ride Rex! Here's hoping the next 3 are a little smoother!

Stay well and thanks for always being here to help the rest of us.


From: mkh106


yes, Rex, do stick around and see what the next three years will bring!

congratulations on your three sober years, those very eventful topsy-turvy years!



Susan (swl755)

From: Susan (swl755)


Huge congratulations on three years, Rex!  And what a great summary of it--really quite an inspirational story of getting through life's ups and downs without the crutch/chain of alcohol.

It has been so good to have you as a friend on this journey.