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Good luck Rex, I'll be thinking about you.
Good Morning All,
It's the day before our Thanksgiving Day holiday here in the U.S. Although it's been a challenging year in many ways, I still have much to be thankful for.
I am at work today, although I limit myself to about 16 hours a week. It gives me purpose and structure which I really need in my life and it gives me a chance to spend time with my two surviving kids who are actually running our family company. My daughter is handles sales, quoting and purchasing and my son runs the shop. I come in and offer advice and handle the Quickbooks system. So mostly I sit in front of my computer and observe them interacting with each other and making virtually all the decisions.
We really have not solved anything yet about my mysterious bouts with blood infections (sepsis) which can definitely be life threatening. I am still on antibiotics while the my team of specialists try to figure out our next move. I will soon be 72 and I cannot keep having these. I have more appointments coming up with a biliary surgeon and a hematologist. Most of the time I feel fine but when one of these episodes occur I am liable to be rushed to the emergency room and spend 1-2 weeks in the hospital fighting off the infection.
I observed my ninth sober anniversary on Thursday of last week. I cannot ever imagine going back to a life ruled by alcohol. It just seems so foreign to me now. There is just so much to live for and I'm sure if I had not gotten sober i would not be alive today.
I made a decision over this past summer which was seconded by my partner Judy and I sold my last motorcycle. I decided it was just time. It was solely my decision and I'm comfortable with it. We did take an eight day trip to the Hot Springs, Arkansas area early this summer and rode through through the beautiful Ozark Mountains which I've done many times but always enjoy. I've ridden a motorcycle through 47 of the United States (if I remember correctly) and i believe 10 Canadian Provinces from Nova Scotia to British Columbia. That's probably enough for me.
About three years ago I took an interest in vintage, classic and hot rod cars. I purchased a 1938 Dodge Brothers Touring Sedan that is completely original except for the paint. I have shown the car at several local car shows over the last three years and it has shown well and won many awards in the process. There is always plenty to do to keep an eighty year old car on the road.
Late this summer I purchased a 1961 Studebaker Lark from a Studebaker collector who was building in it as an "old school hot rod". I have gutted the interior and plan to attempt my first interior rebuild. I took it to the paint shop earlier this week and I'm sure he'll have it for a good part of the winter. It's getting pretty much of a complete repaint except for the hood and deck lid which has some beautiful "old skool" pinstriping that I want to retain as part of the history of the car.
Judy and I continue our regular ballroom dance lessons with the local Arthur Murray Studio. We participate in individual lessons, group lessons and dance parties on a regular basis. For the past few months we have concentrated on the american rumba, cha-cha, hustle and single swing but we dabble in waltz, fox-trot and tango to a much lesser degree. We both enjoy it, have made several new friends through dancing and although it is an expensive hobby we both feel it is very beneficial for our health and balance and is considered a great way to stave off the effects of dementia and/or alzheimers as we age.
So although life is and always will be challenging, I do have so many things to be thankful for and I'm aware of that fact.
I hope all my friends here are well and happy today and I will always be grateful to this forum which had so much to do with my sobriety. Many that I met here have moved on but a few are still here and I love to stop by here and see what's going on in their lives even though they are scattered around the world. I will always be grateful to Lifering and everyone here.
Good to hear all the good news, hope they can figure out the source of the blood infections. Keeping engaged with the world, I think that's the secret no matter how you do it.
I've been offline for a few days, spotty Internet and couldn't log in here. Rex, so good reading you and hearing all about your year -- I loved the pics you posted of some of your trips!
Hoping along with Brian that the medical team works out what is going on and that 2019 is a healthier year.
As always it's great to hear from you. We're still working on a solution to my medical issues but I chuckled last week when I saw a t-shirt which stated:
My Bucket List
1. Keep breathing
Right now that's my main focus. lol
I hope you and yours are well and enjoying springtime. We've have a very cold and snowy November but we'll endure.
Hello to all,
I wanted to stop in and say hello to all here. Spring is trying to come to the Chicago area but it's been touch and go with one day being in the 60's F and the next 40 degrees with strong winds and rain or sleet. It does seem like winters get longer and longer but it's probably just my aging makes it seem like that.
I recently celebrated my 72nd birthday and I have been having health problems for the last 14 months. I have spent about 5-6 weeks in the hospital on four different visits. I have been admitted each time diagnosed with septic shock caused by bacteremia. I am going back to the University of Chicago next week to be evaluated by a biliary surgeon and also being referred to the Mayo Clinic to find out how the bacteria's are getting into my blood system. Each of these visits has been life threatening so I'm anxious to find what's really wrong with me. Each time I get out of the hospital it takes weeks for me to get my strength and endurance back.
I am sober and expect that to continue. Alcohol is no longer a part of my life and in November I will reach 10 years of complete abstinence. I cant imagine ever going back to my former life of sitting in a bar for hours several evenings a week. Sometimes I lament about the thousands of hours I wasted by getting drunk and recovering from hangovers but that serves no practical person, All I can do is take the months (hopefully years) I have left to work on repairing damage done during those years to some of my family relationships.
I am still working part-time (about 16 hours a week) but slowly working with my two living children to transfer ownership of our family business to each of the them. My daughter runs the industrial sales part of our business while my son runs the shop. Their expertise is a marvel to me and the new blood is long overdue in affecting the way we conduct day-to-day business.
Judy and my relationship is good as we have both learned to set boundaries and abide with each others boundaries, It took awhile to establish that part of our relationship but we each have made big strides in that area.
I have been unable to spend as much time at the gym as previously because of my health issues but hope that can be remedied soon. Judy and I are still taking ballroom dancing lessons on a weekly basis. I believe it helps my balance, is great exercise and helps ward off memory loss as I get older. It is one of the most challenging things I've ever done and I enjoy it tremendously.
I just wanted to catch you all up a little here and look forward to catching up on my reading here also. Thank you all for being hear and for being a big part of my sobriety.
Great to here from you Rex. Hope they can figure out where the infection is coming from - University of Chicago and Mayo should be able to do that. Other than that, it sounds like you are doing really well.
My newest thing is learning how to braise aluminum. - learning new things does keep you young - at least I hope so.
Learning new things is a great joy to me these days and I'm happy to hear about your aluminum brazing.
Yes, if I could get past these health issues I would be in a very great place right now. About the time I get seemingly well and strong along comes a new case of septic shock and I end up with a 1-2 week hospital stay. I've cheated death several times here and I know the odds are turning against me if we don't get this ship righted. So, on we go continuing to seek the answers we're looking for.
Thank you for your thoughts Brian. I hope spring is coming to your part of the country. It's trying to come here too but it's been a struggle to chase old man winter away.
Rex, how good to find a long message from you! as you know, I'm following your health progress on FB and hoping they sort out the bacteremia soon. And I hope you get spring warmth and colour soon. I'd love to do ballroom dancing, such fun!
We're in autumn here -- lovely time of year and if we get decent winter rains I'll be very happy. A close friend of mine died suddenly a couple of weeks ago and I have been missing her and grieving, but not wanting to anaesthetise the sadness -- as you say, those days are long behind us!
I popped in here a few days ago and the site was down, not sure if that was Delphi or me. I'd love to see more posts on this forum, but I notice a dwindling interest in forums generally across the Internet. Many of us are connected on social media or LifeRing lists so we will stay in touch.
All love to you and Judy, Rex. Stay well.
Brian, what does it mean to braise aluminium? Do you mean in metalwork, a kind of heat brushing or melting?
I agree that energies get renewed with new learning skills. I'm busy looking at obscure and impossibly difficult poetry (Alice Notley, Barbara Guest) with some very smart people online and that keeps me on my toes!