LifeRing Recovery: a self-help alternative for recovery from alcoholism and other chemical dependency. Group support for abstinence from alcohol and “drugs” by empowering the sober self within you. Completely secular: no prayers, Higher Powers or Steps.
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I'm happy you found a meeting, Michael. Share as much as you can to get feedback and support for what you're dealing with right now -- LifeRing is very present-focused.
Thank you for your suggestions MaryLouise. My family is not as responsive to why I continue to break their trust as they just want it to stop. I am interested in doing the journal entries on here. What is the best way of doing that?
Hi Michael, I get that -- those close to us often have trouble understanding the stop/start difficulties and the nature of alcoholic compulsion. The good thing is that once we've been sober for a continuous length of time, the trust comes back.
I'm going to check how you might start a journal here -- I think it involves clicking to bring up the journal section and then starting a new thread. Let me see. Brian may also have a clearer and simpler way to put this!
Good to see you popping back here-- posting regularly helped me so much in early years.
Mary's instructions should work for starting a new journal - if you have any problems, let me know.
People who are not alcoholics or addicts - or who have not been around them for a long time - just cannot understand the compulsion that drives addictive behavior. It took my wife years and many relapses on my part for her to understand. That's why I think it helps to join a group, even an AA group - when you are first starting to stop. You don't have to buy into the AA message, but it really does help to be around people who do understand what you are going through.
Thank you Brian and MaryLouise, I started a journal tonight and feel about my first entry. Interesting putting out there what has only been inside my brain forever. I appreciate your support so far and you all are well.
How's the weekend going, Michael? I'm well although the southern hemisphere heat is getting me down. A quiet weekend, some work and cooking -- too hot to garden. It seems a long way off from the old weekends which revolved around drinking or white-knuckling!
All the best
Hi MaryLouise! My weekend was good. Got through without drinking, even though the thoughts were there. I have been getting on the treadmill and doing some workouts to burn out extra anxious energy. I like gardening too, waiting for the weather to warm up to start some early planting. Finding that my biggest obstacle right now with drinking is telling my AS "no" when I get thoughts to drink. Need aomething that will stick.
Good that the weekend went well. I found at the beginning I needed almost constant vigilance because urges and cravings would pop up all the time -- in the early evenings, before and during weekends, when I was tired or irritable -- but also when I was cheerful and busy. Unpredictable. That in retrospect is why staying close to sober people helped because others weren't going through this kind of inward ordeal and I was encouraged by others who resisted the urges and helped me do the same. It got easier over time and the desire to drink just faded.