I see, ok, well then, support your thesis. And understand, my life is in Christ, not Calvin. I love Jesus and His words. TULIP best explains the Bible's teaching.
I find no Biblical problems with Limited Atonement (effectiveness) or Irresistible Grace. In short, I've never found anyone using the Bible to show TULIP wrong.
Please understand that I was a full "5 Point Calvinist". I was trained under some of the leading Calvinist scholars in the world, including RC Sproul and Timothy George.
My commitment to Calvinism was passionate. But there were some arguments that never sat well with me. Particularly the way Calvinism, in order to maintain the belief in Limited Atonement, had to redefine what "all" and "the whole world" means in ways that were very forces and foreign to the text.
Here are some passages of Scripture which clearly teach UNLIMITED Atonement, and which Calvinists have to artificially REINTERPRET the clear meaning of the text in order to maintain their belief in Limited Atonement.
1 John 2:2 He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world.
Titus 2:11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people,
John 3:16-17 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him."
Hebrews 2:9 But we see him who for a little while was made lower than the angels, namely Jesus, crowned with glory and honor because of the suffering of death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone.
1 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.
1 John 4:14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world.
John 1:29 The next day he saw Jesus coming toward him, and said, “Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world!"
2 Corinthians 5:14-15 For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised.
1 Timothy 4:10 For to this end we toil and strive, because we have our hope set on the living God, who is the Savior of all people, especially of those who believe.
Isaiah 53:6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned—every one—to his own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.
1 Timothy 2:3-6 This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, Who gave himself as a ransom for all, which is the testimony given at the proper time.
2 Corinthians 5:19 That is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.
Romans 5:12-19 Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned— for sin indeed was in the world before the law was given, but sin is not counted where there is no law. Yet death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those whose sinning was not like the transgression of Adam, who was a type of the one who was to come. But the free gift is not like the trespass. For if many died through one man's trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many. And the free gift is not like the result of that one man's sin. For the judgment following one trespass brought condemnation, but the free gift following many trespasses brought justification.
Colossians 1:20 And through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether on earth or in heaven, making peace by the blood of his cross.
Each of these, and many more, teach the universality of the Atonement of Christ. He came to die for ALL...the whole world.
In order to get around the clear meaning of these passages, one must artificially REDEFINE "all" and "whole world" in very forces and inappropriate ways.
I was never comfortable with that. It eventually bothered me so much I had to re-read the passages in their own context and decide whether I believed what it said, or what I had been taught to DO to those passages to MAKE them line up with what I had been taught. I found I couldn't do that anymore.
The Cross paid for ALL sins. The Incarnation redeemed ALL of humanity. Salvation is a free gift available to all. "Whosoever believes" will be saved.
Limited Atonement is unscriptural. It is a forced and artificial way to read these Scriptures.
Once I saw that, I ceased to believe in Limited Atonement. Once I ceased to believe in Limited Atonement, I ceased to be a Calvinist because ALL FIVE POINTS stand or fall together. They are all necessary to each of the others. If one Point falls, the whole system of Theology falls apart. All 5 are necessary to Calvinist belief.