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You are not alone . I totally get it but I also have to remind myself that the fact that I can't be happy without smoking is a lie. I read something about thinking back to the time before you smoked. Unfortunately for me I have to go back to a 14 yr old girl BUT I carry that picture around in my wallet. A reminder of the little girl who only ever started this filthy habit to fit in. The irony is now I feel I have to quit to fit in. That I have come to believe is were the sadness comes from. The need to fit in. It's what led to the addiction. I need to learn to believe that I am enough period. Stop trying to be who I think I need to be for everyone else. Allow myself to be me. Right now I'm learning to look at My quit as an act of self love not sacrifice. Something I'm doing for me and me alone. If I look at it any other way I can rationalize continuing. Sorry if none of this rambling made sense. Need more coffee.
Glammy, you hit the nail on the head! Wow you described my story to a tee, except I was about 13..... you are doing fantastic! Listen in the beginning I never ever actually thought this quit would take. I just kept wondering when I would go back.....I actually think this is normal. But Here I am almost 14 months free of smoking and yes some days I romanticize it but I shake my head and just say “junkie thinking.”
I gave myself a year.....I’m not really sure why I said to myself a year, but I did. When I got to the year mark I was like I’m not going back to huffing and puffing going up stairs, not going back to smelling and wasting my money. Sneaking off for a cigarette etc. I may not be totally comfortable in being a non smoker right now, but also did it for over 30 years so therefore I probably need a lot more time to overhaul my brain to realize that the nicotine is NOT COMING!
Like you I hope that made sense.....I may need more coffee!
Oh and eat the darn cookie! Lol
best to you!
Thanks Eve I hope you had another great smoke free day
Hope everyone is having a happy smober Easter. It's awful quite here.
Happy Easter Glammy!
You are doing so well! How long smober are you now? You’ll have to share with us some things you notice that are improved. I like your new picture too with your sassy and adorable hairstyle!
Hey guys. I’m glad to hear everyone is doing so well. I’m at 3 months and 7 days. I never thought I would ever in a million years thought I would get here. That being said. I’m still coughing up a lot of mucus. I have to stay I have loved Pilates and do it twice a week. Work has been extremely stressful and I’m moving from a place I’ve lived for 13 years tomorrow to a bigger better place but I’m scared I’ll miss my home longest I’ve ever lived somewhere. Honestly I’m white knuckling not to go but a pack.
Of course it feels like you need to go buy a pack. But you don’t. Change, even good change, is hard without our old “buddy”. You can get through it. Embrace the newness. Start off in your place with it being a place you never been a smoker and by the time you go to bed that first night there you will be so happy about that. The first year, or year of firsts, both the same, is filled with these things you will face and think you need a smoke, or think you can’t get through without a smoke. Each one will leave you a bit stronger and a bit more able to trust and believe in yourself. Just let it happen. It’s gonna be soooo good.
So how are you? Did the move go ok? How exciting even though so much work. Hope all is well and the knuckles not so white tonight!
Hey Lori first day of the move today we put in the ceiling fans and drapes today. The movers come tomorrow at 9:00am. I had a smoke lady night in a panic but (in fairness I’m on Wellbutrin) I hand maybe three drags it hurt my lungs and tasted awful. I’m disappointed but more committed
Yes, I know that disappoint well Anne. It doesn’t feel good. Good news is, as you said you can use it to redirect and carry on. This is a hard time, not just with everything you have going on, but the time space of your quit.
Be really honest with yourself when you think about it again on what those few drags did for you. Let it go, recommit, move forward. You can do this.