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adding ... I came from a large family. Though my mother had a university degree she never had a paying job after her marriage. She had several fulfilling roles, mother, housekeeper, lots of volunteer work, and hostess supporting my father´s business interests. He died in 1980, but my mother was still invited to the evens she used to organize. On occasion when I was in the U.S. she invited me as her escort. I knew most of the men through my father and family connections, but what was sad was none of the wives I associated with them, were present. This was after they had done their "duty", they got traded in for a new model, most of whom were my age or younger, who I would classify as empty headed eye candy. I know this sounds cynical but until she died, the other 3 sibs and I kept close contact with our mother, me 3 months from here in Spain, and one sister the same from Italy, and the other two trading off the rest of the year. As I live in a small family oriented village, and this process is very rare, each year returning to the states, I noticed this as a growing trend among my contemporary friends, and former students.
Greetings and thank you for your comments.
I must admit that there is much truth in the historical scenarios you use to describe the state of females in some areas of the world. I would, though, suggest that historically marriage has been much much more important and stable than the characteristics you chose to highlight.
First (and foremost), the place and value of the female is self-evident. Why? Because she is the vessel through which men gain entry onto Planet Earth. Not only that, she usually has first opportunity to shape and acculturate the child. Moreover, the child is likely to be more closely attached to her (especially early on) than to the male father.
From my perspective, after carrying a child (within her own body) for nine consecutive months, she should not be expected to work a "regular" job. Being able to stay at home and do the household and "society" work should be rewards for the times she was pregnant. (When she was pregnant, she had to be sure to not stumble, not fall, not hurt or harm the baby - - - every second, every minute, every hour, every day, for nine consecutive months).
Females populate Planet Earth. Establishment of their value is not necessary; because, their value is clearly evident.
Life may be worse for women now than ever before. Why? They have to bear all the children; and, many have to then go out and work "regular" jobs like men. Actually, that might be cruel and inhuman treatment.
I have been married almost fifty years. As I watch my wife grow old, I have more respect for her. I remember all the work she did (she was a school teacher) and I see evidence of the aging process. I remember how she birthed our children and returned to work in six weeks. I remember how she taught other people's children by day and had to teach her own by night. I remember how she was a great athlete when she was in high school (she was a basketball star) and how work, child-bearing, life struggles and time have slowed her down.
As I recall all the good things about my wife, I am humbled. I have resolved to be very kind to her and very gentle with her. I appreciate her so very much.