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Tricky 8-11 Months   Quit Support

Started 8/26/15 by ModAndrea; 116175 views.
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From: ModAndrea

8/26/15

Those last few months leading up to your first year smoke free can still present challenges. Our wonderful ModAustinPen started up this discussion when she was going through that period. It's been a tremendous resource for our forumily ever since. Penny aptly named it "Tricky 8-11 Months.

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March 9, 2012 11:05 am

Hi Quit Buddies,

I will be getting my 11 th star soon and I an so excited BUT it is also a tricky time. I am seeing some of us fight the demon just as hard as in the beginning and some of us aren't protecting our quits as carefully because we have come so far that we think that we can have just one--or we think we proved that we can quit so let's smoke and we will quit when we have to--or we quit or tool a break so we can smoke now--or the weight gain has gotten to us or life is just hard right now or all our buddies are doing so good with there quits so something wrong with us. Yes we do a lot of cheering on our buddies but we have to remember to share the tough times too, I know that we don't want to scare the newbies because it us so much better now but there are still pitfalls and it even seems like they are a bit predictable - triggers and certain timelines in the quit, Also, we get farther away from the cigarette and we forget we are and always will be addicts - one will takw us back!

This has been a topic on a FB page and we need to educate each other in this tricky time so that we ask for help and support. One other issue that comes up during these months is that the individual threads seem to become a bit more quiet and for me that is an issue, I have ventured out into all the threads but some times now my thead is lonely and that is bad so keep posting as you beat this demon ...with every post you help others.

If you are in the 8 - 11 smoke free months or farther along please share if you have hit times that are still difficult and how you have handles it...also. how do you keep track of friends, Someone just mentioned someone who missed getting their key and I just realized I missed him,,,it was a simple email that saved me from a relapse and I wish I could do that for someone who might need it.

Whatnare your thoughts?
Penny

 

 

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March 9, 2012 6:01 pm
Michele
 
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Thanks Penny and all for sharing your thoughts.  I don't think about smoking very much anymore but the thoughts are still there at just over 3 months nicotine free.  It has me worried that I've had a few smoking dreams the past couple of weeks.....wondering if my subconscious is going to try and sabotage my quit!  I know I must be constantly vigilant for any chances to slip that might come also....and living with 3 smokers makes it very easy to slip (been there, done that many times).  I will keep my armor handy for the duration of this quit....forever!!

Thanks again y'all!  Stay strong and smoke free!

Michele

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Hello Penny, thank you for your post.  I was excited to read it last night but I was reading it on my phone just as I was going to bed and I wanted to wait to reply to you properly.

I think this is such an important topic and just so apt for me at the moment.  I do try to be upbeat and positive for the newcomers and I wouldn't want to scare somebody off who is feeling fantastic that they have started a quit.  I quit twice in my twenties for over a year and re-started, not because of any particular stressor, but because I chose to.  Twenty years later, with a few failed quit attempts in the meantime, here I am again at nine months.  I should be over it by now shouldn't I? But I do appreciate that we are still at risk.  We shouldn't be, so far down the line since our last cigarette, and yet I know I could easily smoke "just one" and before I know it I would be back on over 20 a day.  The first one would taste terrible, it wouldn't give me the kick or the boost I seek because I no longer have a nicotine addiction.  This no doubt would reassure me that I could smoke another "just one", perhaps the next day.  Again it would taste awful but I probably still haven't started that addiction up again yet.  I still do not have a need for nicotine, but similarly I am not getting the "fix" that I want either.  I have the mind of an addict and I KNOW that within a fortnight of occasional use, I would beneeding to have a cigarette at least every two hours.  By this time nothing can come between me and mynicotine.  It's all that matters to me.

Penny I so badly don't want to go back there.  I might never be able to quit again.  I am going to post a link to your post in May we be Free thread because there are quite a few people there at around the nine / ten month mark.  I wonder if the moderators
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March 10, 2012 10:25 pm

To My Buddiesm

I am learning a lot on this thread and I think one of the most important things is that we need to stay HONEST...some times we think we have to be strong because everyone else is being strong, We do try to stay positive for each other but sometimes to the extent that if we are having a hard time we think that it is just us,,,well it isn't us ...it is the addiction and it comes back with a vengence when it knows we are vunerable. I think that knoiwing that others go through tricky times - even many months into their quit can help us all cope and prepare for some of this. Many of out threads have gone quiet during some of these times and this scares me...is everyone OK or are some of our buddies suffering in silence? I reach out at times and I am sure some people get tires of getting that "are you ik" email from me but I will bever regret sending it...you see an email like that saced my quit one day and I am forever grateful to that buddy...and there are a few buddies that have slipped away from and I didn't send that email so please if you miss someone even for a day --even if they are months into their quit---rememeber they might need a friend because Nicodemon is still out there for a long, long time....watch and support your buddies in this tricky months! I believe this is always going to be a fight and time does help but it is NOT the only answer and we must come HONESTLY to this forum to support ourselves and each other.

Keep The Gift,
Penny

 

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March 18, 2012 6:57 pm

Hi Penny,
Thank you for starting this thread. I will be nine months quit in two more days. Over the past couple of weeks I have had quite a few strong urges, especially yesterday. I smoked for 42 years, about a pack and a half a day and never seriously ever tried to quit until last June, cold turkey. Sometimes I think that at my age(60), I have already done the damage by smoking for so long, so why not just start again. I know that is junkie thinking. It is comforting to know that I am not alone and that others who are at about the same stage in their quit are going through some of the same things.Let's all stick together, Stay Strong and Smoke Free!!

Buddy

 
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March 18, 2012 7:56 pm
Yes, you are just having a blue day.  Sometimes I think you really need the full year even though I felt great at 4 months.  I'm pretty worn out from this quit. I won't lie about that.  I just got out of the car with cigs a lighter right beside me in the door pocket, so I really wish my wife would quit.  I have to wonder what I'll do if I have a really stressful day.  So far I'm relying on NOPE, and everyone here.  If I break I would let my group down, and I'm too darn stubborn for that.  I think you feel the same way  :D

Hang tight and let the days go by one by one until "look, its my key day!" Its going to happen so try to relax and enjoy the end of your journey's first leg.. right?

Rich
 
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Quit date, 5/5/11 - 6/15/11 last patch.
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March 25, 2012 4:03 pm

Hi Buddies.

Have you noticed changes in this year...other than the new larger sized shirts and pants? I know that there are some people who lost weight when they quit but that wasn't me! I think I laugh at myself at lot more (maybe it is to keep from crying now and then). Also. I seem to talk to random people more--whether they want me to or not. Guess I was always in a hurry to get back to my car so i could have a cigarette before. I was in the grocery store and there was a woman looking at the diet supplement for weight loss (I was getting Atkins diet bars) so i ask her if it wolrs but she doesn't know. I tell her I am on Atkins because I gained this weight from quitting smoking and she asks questions because she is a smoker. It kind of made me feel a bit better...I mean she gained weight and she didn't quit smoking...at leastt I quit!

I am bringing  this up because I really think that junkie thinking and weight gain hit us hard around this time in the quit. I gained 15 libs and still have 10 to lose and around this time I begin to wonder if Iwill ever lose it. The crazy thinking that comes to play is if I smoke I can lose it then I can quit again....Wouldn't that be one heck of a yo yo diet!  I sometimes now forget that I am still a nicotine addict and  the quitting is not on our minds every second like in the beginning and I need to remind myself everyday that I am an addict and I need to take the NOPE pledge....Yes it does get easier but I think we need to e stron and aware for ever.

Keep The Gift,
Penny

 

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April 3, 2012 1:52 pm
(((Caroline)))

I am doing pretty good!  Sorry I got back to you so late.  I've been busy with school and the family.  Look at you.  You will be getting your key next month!!!  I'm so excited for you.  Do you have a key picked out yet?
  I just got to my 10th month smoke free.  It is amazing how quickly time goes by after those first three months!
Susan 
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May 25, 2012 2:11 am

Oh J ,  ( not the murderer whoops accused I mean, more like the sweet juice )

   Finally some relief to an annoying month filled with so much negative and pain.  I so needed some outlet, but instead buried my head in the sand and dreaded each day that called for me to be Susy Sunshine or Perkie Portia when I felt like Shitska Seva and Porky Pitta.  Yeah, I still name my emotions and attitudes......easy way to describe what's going on in the noodle without getting so melodramatic or serious.  Frustration and fatigue visited this month and the Seven Deadly Sins of the previous months had taken a toll and left me with the 8th full of sadness and depression.  That was how it went for me, a true divine comedy ala Dante.  I see evidence of their wake in my home, occupation, personal relationships and physical being.  I had periods of jovial meanderings, and spurts of ' I got it now, I am wonderwomen hear me roar ', but the ambivalence would settle in again and I would sit and contemplate life as life marched on without me.  I am working on it AND not smoking, but I do miss the instant rush of the 'fix' , temporary and deadly as it was.  I know I won't do it, but it leaves me kind of sad.  Maybe because I have not found a good replacement or that too much negative abounds around me.  I have kind of morphed from a doormat ( sweet words from a 'friend' ) into a reclusive dull doorknob without a keyhole.  Or some say a selfish itch.  Oh well, so much for pleasing the masses.   I am just tired....but will not smoke.  And I need a few laughs, to keep the blues at bay.  And I need to Squeeeezzze ( literally, dang Gluttony, Sloth, Greed, & Lust are quite evident from the top of my moon pie faced head to my this little piggy toes) back into those big girl panties and get on with it. 

 Blame it on Sponge Bob and my love of an Irish jig... a video and a tune to commemorate the past months

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-ITmqurGeE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tqewyGMTZzc&feature=related

Love ya J,

Tigs

Quit Date  9/25/11   * * * * * * * *  La Te Da for me

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May 30, 2012 6:28 pm

I just found out that this is a new place to check in... seems many are able to move straight away... not me... I still feel I need to check in here and there and to reaffirm all I have learned....  I smoked for way to long to be able to reach a year and think it is over.... I believe it will be a forever thing for me and as I have said before.. that is just fine I will keep the gift.....and do whatever it takes...

 

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May 30, 2012 9:59 pm
Yes, and I hate the taste of leather shoes, they are even worse in the summer and I'm on restricted sodium and allergic to pepper ;p Oh if we could wind that 24hr clock back the changes we'd make... wait, that never works in the movies either, something about the parallel universe won't approve the change ;p

This thread is the thread that keeps on treading. Of course when you proclaim an absolute, its flirting with karma and urban legends both. Lol, I still remember saying I beat this and not long after a cigar was smelling too good. We need to put our toe in the water once in a while, but can't always be so tentative, nor timid. Whats wrong with a little error or three along the way? Lol, if I over thought things I'd never invented the 24hr myth to begin with :D Be well Tigs and I love swimming in the wild where no chlorine lives to burn your eyes. I read someone has a salt water pool, how nice would that be?!?
 

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