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Started Oct-17 by KalyaRed; 4445 views.

I hate being a downer but the jitters and anxiety is the last thing to fade away. It will decrease in intensity and eventually fade away after reaching the 1 year mark. Many people feel less anxious after six months but it comes and goes right up to that first year. So do your best to stay busy and distracted and do lots of deep breathing to help with the anxiousness.  If this was easy, everyone would be quit. Our nervous system is undergoing big time changes and our brain needs plenty of time to rewire and fix everything. Hang in there as cigarettes did this to you but it's up to you to put in the time till everything calms down. Good luck.

"Quitting isn't for Sissies!" I quit poisoning myself Sept. 27, 2013


From: KalyaRed


It certainly feels like hours I'm glad you did too. 

Romanticising cigarettes will do nothing for us anyway. Someone on this forum said "one's too many and a thousand never enough". This is a silly habit to keep. 

Joel Spitzer says to think about it this way. Whenever we think we want one cigarette, instead of saying "I want one" say "I want to be a smoker again" cause that's where that thinking leads to. 

I don't miss being a smoker. This addiction may fool me sometimes that I miss one cigarette but I don't miss not being able to resist them every hour of every day. Let's not go back ??

Brenda (1sept19)

From: Brenda (1sept19)


Go to the top of the page to new topic.  Hit on that and post your message.

I hope you are doing alright.  Remember that smoking is not your friend.  You are giving up nothing, but you are getting rid of a horrible addiction.  Try to change how you look at smoking, it helps.   Yes, it will get better with time.  The old timers on here say it does, so I choose to believe them . relaxed  Already it is much better for me. Keep going forward and just take it one day at a time.

How are you handling the mental withdrawal symptoms

Brenda (1sept19)

From: Brenda (1sept19)


I try to do anything to distract myself so that I won't dwell on my thoughts.  Changing my mindset has helped, I look at my quit so differently.  I only have mental craves occasionally because I have changed how I look at things.  If I do have a mental crave, i tell myself, NOPE, not going back.


From: KalyaRed


Hi Lainie

I'm so sorry, I've only just seen your message. 

The bad thing of always being on the run is that you miss these important things. 

I get you with the mental part of the withdrawal. I get really depressed most of the time when I get to that 2 months mark. 

I had a slip two weeks ago and I can tell you that I don't feel any better. The cravings got worse and I dream of smoking virtually every night.

The thing is that if you manage to push through your brain chemistry will normalise - though yes, it may take some more time.

If you relapse you won't loose that depressed mood all of a sudden, because it does correspond to a gradual adaptation. 

Please keep going :) 

You are going strong and the three months mark is not so far away and still - take it one day at a time. You can do it. You're in tremendously good company. Everyone here knows just how you feel. 

I hope it gets better :) 


From: KalyaRed


Happy two months of freedom, Brenda!! 

I'm proud to be by your side in the journey!

You're a very strong a sweet person and I hope you keep NOPEing :) 

Warm hugs from Portugal! 

Thanks for responding.  I start my third month tomorrow.  I just don’t feel like myself.  I’m still doing things but I almost feel like a robot.  I had to quit because I developed  a tumor in my mouth.  Came thru the surgery fine, no further treatment needed.  I don’t know if part of this feeling is from that or if it’s all withdrawal symptoms.  


From: KalyaRed


I think part of it is that in the first months we are really vigilant about everything we think and do. 

Then as time goes by we get tired and feel like we can't keep that alertness all the time. 

Part of it may also be that you feel like you're free of danger so the idea of quitting is less attractive. 

But mainly, smoking messes with our brain chemistry. It throws us into a bit of a depression that can be bigger with some people and not as aggressive with others. It takes a while for the brain to readjust to the new mode. 

But see, I know all this. Intellectually. Which doesn't mean that I struggle to make this true emotionally. I don't even know if I'm going to three months or just two weeks since I relapsed. But hey we're struggling and quitting is horrible. I just hope it's the last time we have to do it.