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Started Oct-17 by KalyaRed; 4481 views.
CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Oct-18

Oh boy my friend.  You can do this.  I know exactly what you're going through and it really sucks.  Just do whatever it takes to get you through it and it does get better.  Sleep, eat, BREATHE (that was my biggest thing), yell, scream, cry, whatever gets you through it.  I'm here rooting you on and don't even think about coming here telling me you relapsed and had one.  You are strong and you can do this.  This is a BIG DEAL and you need to power your way through it.  It is not easy.  Do you really want to start at the beginning?  NOPE .  You don't.  So don't do it.  Tomorrow is another day and we will make it through that too.  So proud of you today!  Hugs.

Denim50

From: Denim50

Oct-19

Hey Kayla, 

     I’m so happy to hear you stayed with it and found your strength to get through.  

Continuing to keep you in my thoughts and wishing you the best. 

 

Brenda (1sept19)

From: Brenda (1sept19)

Oct-19

YAYYYYYYYY, Kalya !!  You made it through, so proud of you.  Those dark days can be rough but I read a great quote.

" There must be darkness for the stars to shine ".  Thought of you.  BIG HUGS, just because.  blush

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-19

I'm really grateful to have had your support. 

I actually felt you all walking beside me. 

This inspires me to push harder. I believe no victory is ours alone. 

So we are all winners today. 

Hugs to all from the bottom of my heart. 

Brenda (1sept19)

From: Brenda (1sept19)

Oct-19

KalyaRed said:

So we are all winners today. 

Yes we are !!  I'll see you over at the NOPE pledge.

CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Oct-19

Kalya,

I'm not sh***ting you, that's what got me through.  My quit buddies were Denim, Marilyn, Brian, Tom, Debbie, Sue, plus the mods.....imaging telling them you had a relapse.  Nope...I couldn't do it.  You can do this with us!  Yes we are walking beside you.... no doubt.  We have all made it through to the Club House...you can too!

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-20

I'm sorry. Last night the argument with my husband finished me. I did relapse. I smoked. 

I'm sorry. You all gave me actually a great support, links, videos, websites, it was beautiful and I know I wasted your time. 

This relapse was preparing itself to come already. 

I'm ashamed but I have to be honest with you. 

Jpatrick1996

From: Jpatrick1996

Oct-20

Good morning Kalya,

I'm sorry to read that you had a relapse....it happens!

I think I understand what you are going through, as we both share the same addiction. I used to use the frequent intense arguments with my wife as a reason to return to smoking........every time. Her fault.

WRONG.

After many failed quit attempts, I realized that my arguments with my wife were an EXCUSE, not a REASON. After some further soul searching, I realized and admitted that I actually 'engineered' the majority of the  arguments in order to have an EXCUSE to return to my addiction. Addiction is terrible, makes a person do terrible things......even to themselves.

If I may borrow some inspiring words from 'The Chairman of the Board':

'Now nothing's impossible, I've found for when my chin is on the ground,
I pick myself up, dust myself off, and start all over again.
Don't lose your confidence if you slip, be grateful for a pleasant trip,
And pick yourself up, dust off, start over again.
Work like a soul inspired until the battle of the day is won.
You may be sick and tired, but you be a (wo)man, my (daughter)son.
Will you remember the famous ones who have to fall to rise again,
So take a deep breath, pick yourself up, start all over again.'

?Kudos on your honesty, the only way to beat this, and welcome back!

I wish you peace in your quit, today and everyday.

?Patrick

?Quit - July 16th, 2019

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-20

Hi Patrick, 

I don't know why but your words had the instant effect of releasing some of the tears that were stuck inside and wouldn't get out. 

Thank you for that, I needed it. 

I don't really think it was his fault. And maybe I have in the past but this time I don't think I engineered the arguments either, we've been drifting apart a bit and some of his attitudes have been puzzling not just me but more people around him. 

But still, it was my move to go and smoke. 

I have to take a deep breath, dust myself off and start all over again. 

Thank you!

Jpatrick1996

From: Jpatrick1996

Oct-20

Good morning Kalya,

You are most welcome.

I'm happy if you found some value in me relaying my own experience.

I'm a 55 year old man and I have shed more tears in the past few months than I care to recall. Terrible thing, being addicted......if you choose to continue the addiction, that is. IMHO, if one chooses to fight an addiction and win, it can be a character building experience where one can really get to know and accept one's self, strengths, weaknesses, 'warts and all'..as the saying goes!

Have a wonderful smoke free day!

Patrick

Quit - July 16th, 2019

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