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June 2020 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started 12/3/19 by ModDee; 15570 views.
KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Jul-5

Hi Tiny! 

I'd say you've got a lot! 

That meditation sounds in part like Tonglen, a Tibetan Buddhist practice. I'm not sure if religious talk is welcome here. Anyhow the Lamas themselves, including the Dalai Lama, will always tell you that the Tibetan word for religion is halfway between religion and philosophy and I've read the Dalai Lama saying the only religion is a kind heart. 

Tonglen also starts with someone you love, progresses to someone toward whom you feel neutral and ends up with everyone - if you are able to include someone you don't really like that's great. It's a great lesson in compassion. I think it would be beneficial to squeeze yourself in indeed! Even if your self esteem is not the best, you're worthy of the same compassion you dedicate to crabby clerks at least, do you agree? :) 

I've been trying some pranayama! I have some trouble including mindfulness just like that. And of course my favourite YouTube fitness channel every day! 

I love what you said about being a work in progress! It's so liberating to know that we're not written in stone and are allowed to change and be better than we were!! 

Lore you were right! I did enjoy the glass of wine and to my surprise my friend has also quit smoking! Yey for all of us fighting for freedom! 

This week is going to be a tough week at work so forgive me if I'm late for any party! I'll try and come check on you! 

I'm happy that we chose this way :) 

Ana

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Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Jul-6

Oh Ana! 
That is so great you got there to find your friend a non smoker too! I bet that was a big relief and allowed you to totally let your hair down and just relax with them. So nice. 
Im thinking on your thoughts about the Dalai Lama. I’ve got a couple of his books. My favorite is “The Universe In A Single Atom”. Ahhh. To possess such grace and wisdom. I can’t speak for others, but for me, I don’t view his writings as particularly religious. He is one who speaks to connection and unity and acceptance of ourselves and others. I can’t imagine these thoughts being offensive really. Have not most great spiritual leaders spoken to these values as things to aspire to? Yes, there are other things caught up in the multitude and variety of scriptures and teachings, but the core of them is similar and I find this concept beautiful and uniting. I’ve never understood the need or reason to arguing things of such substance. If one finds peace and acceptance in any given way or practice, then, so be it. I am happy they have found a place to be at peace with themselves and only hope that they let that light shine outward to others. We all need to have a sense of belonging and acceptance on some level. One could even argue that the fellowship here is a bit of a spiritual sanctuary, yes? Except here, we are united against what we view as demonic and destructive... and we come together and encourage and lift each other and praise each other and support each other when we stumble. Yes...I view it as a gathering of like minded kind souls trying to forge our ways on our individual yet collective journeys. Such a beautiful process... 

I sure hope your busy week is also full of moments of calm and centered joy and respite as well! sun_with_face

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-9

I agree with you and think that the support here is crucial for me to quit smoking. I have been here often, and I think that even if I don't post on a topic, it's helpful to read and learn from everyone else. On a side note, my husband keeps waking me up between 130 and 3 am because he wants to smoke. We have ice cream and watch videos, visiting all the while. I get him a cold drink and a straw and get him comfortable. It's killing me, though. I feel like I'm not getting good rest but I don't want him to smoke. I'm on day 29 and he's right around that 3 week mark, cold turkey. Sheesh. Normally I'm the pampered princess, but I'm doing some serious mothering now. I was mulling it over and (I'm NOT being religious) mother earth or the universe or whatever is taking me down a notch. Throughout my addiction, my husband has been the cigarette runner and go to guy. I don't know how to work my washing machine. No joke. Since I was engaged, I haven't done laundry. He likes doing it so he does it. He gasses my car, I can't tell you when the last time I pumped gas. In my defense, he wants me to make bread and jam, can peaches and pickles, etc. We share cooking and cleaning duties. I am a Suzy homemaker in many areas, so I'm not completely resting on my laurels. So I'm thinking that the universe is saying, hey there. You. Maybe you should give a little here and be the support your husband needs so badly. Maybe you should put forth some effort and do something without thinking of yourself. Man, though, this is hard. Sleep interruption can get you a little kooky. I'm always on time and have been cutting it really close getting to work in the morning. I am holding strong and doing my best. The patch is really pulling me through, I don't think I would have made it this far without it. I have been taking long walks, mostly uphill, with the dogs. However, today I took the easy route because I'm so dang tired. The walks do help though. I'm just waiting to be strong enough to walk at work, past the smoke cloud of the current smokers.

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

How are you holding up? You still quitting? I know you're busy, but drop us a line and let us know you're ok.

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

How's your quit going? Anything we can do?

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

You hanging on? 

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

You still with us? How's the quit going?

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

Hi kittie! What's new with you? Still quitting?

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

You still holding strong? What can we do to help?

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

Jul-19

Hi Dotti! What day are you on now? 

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