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July 2020 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started 12/25/19 by ModDee; 8693 views.

From: ANewJustMe


Hello, My Name is Maryanne,

I Smoked from 14 to 25, quit for 13 years. but about a year and a half ago during a personal devastation I started back up again.. I've unsuccesfully quit multiple times in the last year sometimes only making it a day or two.. sometimes making it a month or more.. 

I was working to quit this weekend when the anxiety that hit me was so profound I realized I needed help quitting. I didn't have anyone to explain how I was feeling, and the result was another unsuccessful quit.  I'm hoping that this group will be the tipping point to a permanent successful quit. I reading all the materials here, tho most is familiar its good to read it again.  I havn't set a new quit date yet. but it will be this month. maybe even next weekend.  but soon.. I want to be done with this.


From: slowblumer


Hi Maryanne,

Welcome to the forum.  I am so glad you have decided to quit smoking.  You have a solid 13 yrs quit so I know you can do this.   I  suggest talking to your doctor and working out a plan together if you can.  I don't know your situation but when I quit my doc was so helpful.  She put me on an antidepressant and an NRT.  I am by no means suggesting that you need either but we all need a plan and for me I needed a strong plan to overcome decades of smoking.

Read everything you can and get to know some quit buddies...it makes a HUGE difference.

Supplies to Stock Up On Before You Quit

Do These Things Before You Stop Smoking

Quit Aids Can Help You Stop Smoking More Comfortably

I would just say that unless you are having specific problems, the patch is a very acceptable way to a successful quit. If you follow the program set forth in the directions for your specific brand of patch and consult with your primary care physician about any problems you are having, you should do just fine. There is no one "right and only" way to quit.  Find what works for you and stick with it.


From: ANewJustMe


Thank you. I have considered talking to my dr. And may do just that. I appreciate the welcome


From: ANewJustMe


Hugs. I don't have any advice. Just empathy. U can do this!

In reply toRe: msg 7

From: Kittyxxx121


Thanks for all the kind messages everyone,  I'm still smoke free and things are getting easier day by day now

In reply toRe: msg 26

From: slowblumer



"Every smoke-free day you complete is teaching you how to live your life without cigarettes. Bit by bit, you're reprogramming your responses to daily events that trigger the urge to smoke by choosing something other than smoking when the urge surfaces".


From: SusanK1960


Hi Maryanne,

I’m checking in to see how you have been doing this week.  Have you set a plan and put it in motion yet?  It is scary and anxiety producing to think about quitting, however, you will need a plan that works for you.  Not starting to stop can also be anxiety producing as the BUT can get in the way.  Such as:

      I want to quit smoking, BUT I don’t want to go thru withdrawal.

      I need to quit smoking before I have lung cancer, BUT I need to do it when I’m not so busy.

You get the idea.  You need to get rid of BUT to get off the butts.

Let us know how your plan is going.


From: SusanK1960


Hi Kitty,

Just checking to see how the last three days have been and to Let you know you have company on this journey!

In reply toRe: msg 29

From: slowblumer


Hi everyone,

I remember reading this powerful testimony from Dana at some point after I quit smoking.  It helped me keep going.

From: Terry (abquitsmking)


In her account, Dana looks back on how it felt to quit smoking and how her life has changed in 5 years of smoke-free living.

Thanks for sharing Dana, and congratulations of 5 smoke-free years!

From Dana:

I thought I was doomed (destined?) to be a smoker for the rest of my life. I was resigned to that fact, that's just the way it was going to be. I proved myself right time and time again - I tried and failed to quit smoking too many times to count.

Around May or June of 2009, a friend of mine with multiple sclerosis told me just what I needed to hear at exactly the moment I needed to hear it. She looked me in the eyes and said - from the heart, from her own life experience - there are a lot of things that can happen to you health-wise that you have absolutely no control over. Smoking cigarettes (the consequences of smoking) isn't one of them. I couldn't disagree with her.

And then I had oral surgery coming up and Doc said I shouldn't smoke for a while after the surgery. I thought okay, I'll make that my target quit date!! (again). But this time will be different!! (again). I'll prepare myself in advance!! (again). I wanted to succeed this time, but I still had my doubts.

And then I found this forum.... and I found a whole lot more stuff that I could put in my toolbox to help me quit, once and for all. At first I just lurked. I read everything in sight! And it helped a lot. And I followed the suggestions of the wise folks who'd been here a while, to the best of my ability.

I thought I'd be alright just reading stuff - I can relate to a lot of what people are saying, but I'm not a "joiner" - I didn't need to actually "join" the forum! But when I was about to cave in a month later, on my birthday, I bit the bullet and got my own profile so I could post a cry for help. And man-o-man did I get a lot of help! It took my recovery from this horrible addiction to a whole new level. It was not easy. By far, quitting smoking is the hardest thing I've ever done. But being a part of this forumily made the unbearable just a little less unbearable.

My life today is better than I could have ever imagined. I really thought that the craving, the longing, the missing those darn things would be with me forever. But no way! I don't recall when it totally went away... I remember having very brief moments of peace every now and then, and that gave me hope. And then the moments of peace started happening a little more often. And I didn't really notice it until after the fact, and there it was again. Before I knew it, I wasn't thinking about smoking and I wasn't thinking about not smoking. It was, and continues to be, a beautiful thing.

If you're new, please hang in there. Reach out for help when you need it. We are all overcoming the same addiction here, and there seems to be safety in numbers, so stay in the middle of the herd, as they say. You don't want to have to start over again. It will get better, but you gotta stay stopped to get there.

All the best, 



From: euknight


Hey Jeff,

I was reading this article called No Mans Land that talked about day 30-120.  It brought up some good points.  One I recall is that after the 1st month there is a lot of support and then not as much.  I was glad to see in words that after the month people out there expect you to be over it which is just untrue.  Then the thought process is “I Should be over it....”

Course you and I know better.  I do not want to discourage anyone.  The sharp edged craves will not be as bad as time passes.

Thank you for the well wishes.  I guess doing well is just not smoking and I haven’t. Not going to say it is easy. There is a different level of cravings during this time.  Have thought a lot about stopping smoking vs quitting for good. I know the difference now.  Stopping was easier to take cos it was not permanent. Yes you make sense.  I am embracing the quit.  You can too.

My sponsor reminded me the other day that when it comes right down to it, no matter the chemical, no matter the addictive symptoms the truth is we just do not want to be uncomfortable.

She’s pretty much right on there.

So if you decide to pick a day or not either is fine.  I encourage you to write instead of smoke.  Stay connected with a few in this group and pledge.  I am happy to help in any way I can.

Have a wonderful smoke free night and tomorrow.