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Welcome New Ex-Smokers
Congratulations on taking that all-important first step with cessation - stubbing out the last cigarette and getting started.
Chances are you don't feel 'ready' to quit, and are experiencing a mixture of difficult emotions about it.
Try to relax. You've found the best place for help.
Getting Started with Cessation
Park yourself in front of your computer and read everything you can on this forum board. We encourage you to take the initiative to introduce yourself and post often. Sharing your journey with your new quit buddies and offering support to each other really helps.
This thread will serve as the meeting place for those of you who are quitting now, and when the month ends, we will move your 'home base' thread over to the Quit Buddies Unite folder, where you can continue to support each other.
You can also return to the Introductions folder where you'll find the new Monthly Ex-Smoker thread for those coming along behind you. Share the tips and encouragement that helped you during month one. Not only will this help others, it will strengthen your resolve as well.
Start your reading here: Homework for New Ex-Smokers
Additionally, the folder headings in gray on the left of the page under DISCUSSIONS house different topics. Click on the gray heading to view the conversations held within. When you finish with a folder, click on the drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and select ALL to see all of the folders again.
Introductions/Newcomers Nook
A good place to start with numerous threads from new ex-smokers.
General Chit-Chat
This is where you will find the daily NOPE thread. NOPE stands for Not One Puff Ever, and members pledge NOPE on a daily basis. Give it a try - you will probably find it helpful and empowering.
Quit Support
This is a good place to post for help when you need it ASAP.
Dots(Weeks) and Stars (Months) Milestones and One Year and Beyond Milestones
Read the accounts of people who are winning with cessation in these folders.
Quit Buddies Unite
This folder is the home base for the groups who quit together. This thread will move to that folder at the end of the first month.
Quit Smoking Library
Here you'll find member stories and links to important articles that will inform you about what to expect from smoking cessation.
The next 4 posts will give you additional info on how to navigate/post here. Please read them and let us know if you have any questions.
An Educated Quit is a Successful Quit
When you know the challenges that may be coming, you can develop a plan to manage them and move forward smoke-free.
Healing from this addiction is a process of gradual release that happens one day at a time. Be patient with yourself and allow recovery to unfold for you as it will.
Enjoy the journey and settle in here. The light is on 24/7 in this virtual haven for quitters and someone is always available to help you when you need it.
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Forum Navigation Basics
1. Take a look to the left at the DISCUSSIONS section to the left of this page
Unread to me (messages to you waiting to be read).
2. Click on the drop down menu on your profile picture/avatar at the top right of the page. Review the content of each one.
3. Please familiarize your self with the Help button contents
This is where you can browse Delphi FAQs for general information, or post a question in one of the Support Forums, where Delphi staff, volunteers, and knowledgeable members are happy to lend a hand. You will also find "How To" guides that are fully illustrated tutorials that show you exactly how things work on Delphi forums
4. When you click on a folder heading like "Quit Buddies Unite' to read or post, the gray drop down menu under the DISCUSSIONS section changes to "Single folder". Once you've finish what you're doing in that folder to see all the folder headings again, click on the gray drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and click on ALL which will bring up all the folder titles.
5. Education about our addiction and the cessation process is a major component of a successful permanent quit. Take a look at the articles in the link below they were written especially for new ex-smokers.
Homework For New Ex-Smokers
http://forums.delphiforums.com/quit_smoking/messages/3435/1
Personal Signatures
As you move through the forum, you'll notice that a lot of people carry a variety of images in their personal signatures.
There are 3 levels of membership at Delphi forums - DelphiBasic (free), DelphiExtra ($19.95 per year) and DelphiPlus ($4.95 per month). Only the two paid tiers (DelphiExtra and DelphiPlus) allow you to carry a signature field that you can customize with graphics. The two paid subscriptions also allow you to browse forums ad-free.
You can take a look at a comparison chart of the plans here:
http://www.delphiforums.com/plans.ptt
Graphics and photos can be added to the body of your messages in the DelphiBasic plan. Follow the instructions below.
Please feel free ask any question and to join in any discussion on the forum that interests you.
6. Familiarize yourself with the other folders in the Forum Navigation and Rules Category. They will help you with more information on finding your way around the forum.
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How to Post a Message:
There are two ways to post messages: Replying to a message in an existing discussion or starting a new discussion.
Replying to a Message
You can reply to a message someone else has posted by clicking the reply button on the post you are reading. It contains a white left facing arrow and the word Reply located at the bottom right of the post. You can also reply using all or selected text from the post. To do this:
Addressing Your Reply:
Your message will automatically be addressed to the person who wrote the post you're replying to. If you want your message to go to someone else instead, or to ALL members in the thread, click in the field next to the "TO" at the top left of your edit screen. You can choose ALL or a member from the drop down list by typing in the member's ID. Their name should pop up on the list.
Starting a New Discussion:
You can start a new thread by:
How to Send a SOS Request for HELP!
If you at anytime need cessation support you can start a new discussion in either the "Introductions/Newcomers Nook" or "Quit Support" folders. See instructions above for Starting a Discussion.
Note: You can find the new topic area from any place on the forum by scrolling all the way to the top of the page.
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How to Bookmark a Thread
To to bookmark a message:
To find your bookmarked messages
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How to Follow a Discussion
Want to know if someone posted in your buddy group? Get email notifications on any specific discussion you wish to follow.
10/3/20
Welcome!
The thought of quitting tobacco is very intimidating for most of us in the beginning, but take comfort in the fact that many others before you have quit successfully and they felt just as nervous as you probably do right now.
Quitting can be done - it's not an overnight event, but if you settle in and invest in the process, you'll be looking back from a place of nicotine-free comfort sooner than you think.
The following list of tips was compiled by ModJenn, one of our long-time mods. You might want to copy it to a place where you can refer and add to it as you go.
Quit Toolbox
10/3/20
The internal chatter in our minds when we first stop smoking can be non-stop. The voice inside is bargaining and desperate, but if you can find a way to block it out, it will fade away in time.
For me, it was just about three weeks of constant noise. I'd wake up thinking about smoking, go about my day planning how and when I'd buy a pack and somehow end the day smoke-free. It was exhausting, but it did let up and it will for you, too.
Gotta go through it to get through it.
Education about what to expect is key. Read, read, read and post! The folks here will be happy to hear from you and help in whatever way they can.
Learn why nicotine withdrawal puts unhealthy thoughts of smoking into your minds, and find out how you can beat junkie thinking.
Read more from Verywell Mind10/3/20
Knowledge is power when it comes to beating nicotine addiction for good. Soak up all of the information you can about what to expect as you heal, and it will set you up for success.
Feeling cranky? Nicotine withdrawal is a normal part of smoking cessation. Learn what to expect, so you can address symptoms and minimize their effects.
Read more from Verywell Mind10/11/20
Early cessation is no walk in the park, regardless of how much we might want to quit. It's easy to quickly lose sight of why we're here and why we should push through the tough stuff.
ModDee wrote a valuable message when she reached five years smoke-free. Please read it and keep going. The bad days will give way to a freedom that is well worth the work it takes to achieve.
From Dee:
In the world of early smoking cessation, five years can seem to be light years away; an eternity, especially when you’re a stressed out newbie trying to make it through another day smoke-free, one hour, or even one minute at a time.
The past five years for me has meant five years of freedom.
Five years of gratitude.
Five years of living the abundant smoke-free life that I was meant to live.
Five years of walking shoulder-to-shoulder, hand-in-hand with my fellow travelers seeking freedom from nicotine addiction.
Five years with the awesome privilege of sharing life experiences with open-minded, non-judgmental people from the world community.
Five years of enjoying the diversity of our various cultures, nationalities, ethnicities and the often amazing wit and wickedness of our sense of humor.
Did you know that we are the lucky ones? We are lucky because, through our struggle to quit smoking, we are empowered to make a difference; empowered to save lives, including our own; empowered to find joy in working our special magic each day in this special place, one post at a time.
What a marvelous journey this has been and continues to be.
My First and Only Quit Attempt...
Sadly, I was too much of a coward and too fearful to try quitting sooner. I found this forum two weeks after I'd quit smoking. As a naïve newbie, I reasoned that if I could keep from smoking for five years, I’d probably be cured, free to live life without cigarettes and smoking. Little did I know then that my freedom would arrive so much sooner. I believe that subconsciously it has continued to be my personal litmus test even after realizing going into my second year, I’d never smoke again. This five-year achievement is my final affirmation.
I quit smoking cold turkey after 32 years of smoking close to two packs a day. I was angry, and sick and tired of smoking. I absolutely hated it. This anger fueled my desire to quit.
Good fortune shone on me during my early weeks of smoking cessation. A little sunshine managed to seep through, just enough to lift the severe brain fog a bit for me to really get it -- "it" being to never look back, never fantasize about the "good cigarette" and to never, ever entertain the junkie mind game of believing I could smoke just one cigarette. This is not to say that this revelation made quitting tobacco easy. No, it didn't by any stretch of the imagination, but it did give me a solid foundation from which to build my quit program.
With the help of this forum, build on it I did! One day at a time turned into months, and then years. My resolve was cemented with each milestone, opening a whole new world of peace and freedom to me, for which I am eternally grateful.
Keeping my memory green and not falling into complacency is easy to do, even after 5 years. The brain fog was intense and the mental cravings were relentless for the first 3 to 5 weeks -- not something you just forget about.
After whining a bit about "When will it end..." and, "I’d like to go just three days without thinking about quitting cigarettes every waking moment", one of the oldies, who shall remain forever nameless, advised me to try and relax into my quit. She said to visualize the cravings rolling over me in waves and to understand that these cravings are an indication of my body re-adjusting and healing itself. This was a true light bulb moment for me and directly led to my salvation.
Education about nicotine addiction became a powerful tool for me. I read everything on this forum that was available to me. I learned that cravings and urges10/11/20
Most, if not all long-term smokers, have a love/hate relationship with cigarettes. From the moment we awake in the morning until we lay our heads down on the pillow at night, cigarettes punctuate each and every activity of our daily lives.
When we decide to quit, untangling the associations we've built up over a lifetime of smoking takes conscious effort; something that smoking cessation forum member Zoe illustrates beautifully below.
In her list of pros and cons, Zoe stands back and takes a critical look at her old smoking habit. A powerful exercise in stepping out from behind the smoke screen that nicotine addiction forces us to live behind, a pros and cons list allows us to uncover the truth about our relationship with smoking. From there, the work of healing can begin ... as it did for Zoe.
From Zoe:
I made a list of what I liked about smoking vs. what I hated about smoking ... and though I really missed it at first, looking at this list made me see that I didn't like smoking as much as I thought I did.
What I Liked about Smoking:
What I Hated about Smoking:
Maybe you should sit down and make a list like this for yourself. It might give you the nudge towards where you know you want to be.
Zoe
Zoe is right: writing out a list of pros and cons is a great way to open our eyes about what smoking means to us and build motivation to kick this killer addiction to the curb once and for all.
There is no time like the present to make the changes you dream of a reality in your life. Don't give another day of your precious life over to smoking -- quit now.