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Formerly known as the About.com Smoking Cessation support forum, this community is open to all who are recovering from nicotine addiction.

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January 2021 Ex-Smokers   Quit Buddies Unite

Started 12/31/19 by ModDee; 36636 views.
In reply toRe: msg 1

From: ModDee


Forum Navigation Basics

1. Take a look to the left at the DISCUSSIONS section to the left of this page

  • Click on the drop down menu in grayed area immediately beneath it.
  • If you click on All you will see all the folder categories; folders like, Introduction/Newcomers Nook, Quit Buddies Unite, Forum Navigation and Rules, General Chit-Chat etc. When you scroll down the system shows you if there are new messages (bold text) in the thread. 
  • Hierarchy of threads (discussions) within a folder: threads are sorted within a folder by the latest date/hour of a post within thread. If you click on a thread without a new message the system will take you to the beginning of the thread.
  • When you click on the drop down menu you can also select things like

Unread to me (messages to you waiting to be read).

  • When you log in to the forum, the "DISCUSSIONS" section will show the "Unread Msgs" category at the top of the discussions area. Beneath the "Unread Msgs" title will be all the folders containing unread messages since your last visit to the forum, starting with the Introductions/Newcomers Nook folder. When you scroll down to for example the "Quit Buddies Unite" folder if there are no new messages in your quit buddies group it is not going to be at the top of quit buddies unite category. Continue to scroll down past all the quit buddies folders that have new messages (they are in bold text) until you find your group.

2. Click on the drop down menu on your profile picture/avatar at the top right of the page. Review the content of each one.

  • My Profile Photo ( you can add or change your avatar or photo)
  • My Profile
  • My preference
  • My Account
  • Help
  • Logout

3. Please familiarize your self with the Help button contents

This is where you can browse Delphi FAQs for general information, or post a question in one of the Support Forums, where Delphi staff, volunteers, and knowledgeable members are happy to lend a hand. You will also find "How To" guides that are fully illustrated tutorials that show you exactly how things work on Delphi forums

4. When you click on a folder heading like "Quit Buddies Unite' to read or post, the gray drop down menu under the DISCUSSIONS section changes to "Single folder". Once you've finish what you're doing in that folder to see all the folder headings again, click on the gray drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and click on ALL which will bring up all the folder titles.

5. Education about our addiction and the cessation process is a major component of a successful permanent quit. Take a look at the articles in the link below they were written especially for new ex-smokers.

Homework For New Ex-Smokers


Personal Signatures

As you move through the forum, you'll notice that a lot of people carry a variety of images in their personal signatures.

There are 3 levels of membership at Delphi forums - DelphiBasic (free), DelphiExtra ($19.95 per year) and DelphiPlus ($4.95 per month). Only the two paid tiers (DelphiExtra and DelphiPlus) allow you to carry a signature field that you can customize with graphics. The two paid subscriptions also allow you to browse forums ad-free.

You can take a look at a comparison chart of the plans here:


Graphics and photos can be added to the body of your messages in the DelphiBasic plan. Follow the instructions below.

How to: Insert an Image

Please feel free ask any question and to join in any discussion on the forum that interests you.

6. Familiarize yourself with the other folders in the Forum Navigation and Rules Category. They will help you with more information on finding your way around the forum.

In reply toRe: msg 2

From: ModDee


How to Post a Message:

There are two ways to post messages: Replying to a message in an existing discussion or starting a new discussion.

Replying to a Message

You can reply to a message someone else has posted by clicking the reply button on  the post you are reading. It contains a white left facing arrow and the word  Reply  located at the bottom right of the post.   You can also reply using all or selected text from the post.  To do this:

  • Before clicking on the reply button highlight the specific text from the post you want to respond to. This text will be carried onto the beginning of your reply post.
  • Type your message
  • Preview or Post your message using the buttons below.

Addressing Your Reply:

Your message will automatically be addressed to the person who wrote the post you're replying to.  If you want your message to go to someone else instead, or to ALL members in the thread,  click in the field next to the "TO"  at the top left of your edit screen.  You can choose ALL or a member from the drop down list  by typing in the member's ID. Their name should pop up on the list.

Starting a New Discussion:

You can start a new thread by:

  • Clicking on the "New Topic" button that appears at the top of the main forum page to the right across from DISCUSSIONS.  
  • Type in the name of your new topic subject.   
  • Leave the TO   showing  ALL
  • Select a folder where you want your post to appear.
  • Click on the down arrow across from Folders.  
  • Scroll down and click on the folder where your post will appear.  
  • Type your message.
  • Click on Post

How to Send a SOS Request for HELP!

If you at anytime need cessation support you can start a new discussion in either the  "Introductions/Newcomers Nook" or  "Quit Support"  folders.  See instructions above for Starting a Discussion.

Note: You can find the new topic area from any place on the forum by scrolling all the way to the top of the page.

In reply toRe: msg 3

From: ModDee


How to Bookmark a Thread

To to bookmark a message:

  • Go to the bottom of the post you want to bookmark.
  • At the bottom right find the "Reply" button.
  • Hover your cursor to the left of the "Reply"  button
  • Find the "Bookmark this message" symbol  just to the left of the "Reply" button.
  • Click on the bookmark this message button.
  • You will receive a pop-up message that will say

To find your bookmarked messages

  • Look to the left at the DISCUSSIONS section.
  • Click on the drop down menu in grayed area immediately beneath the word DISCUSSIONS. 
  •  You will see a menu that contains items like, "7 Days back", "2 Days back", "Unread Msgs", "Unread to Me" etc.  Look all the way to the bottom, the last item has the book mark symbol  and the words "Bookmarked Msgs"  your saved bookmark messages will appear here ...........just click on the one you want to view and it opens with your post. When finished reviewing, click on your browser back arrow key to go back to where you were. See example graphics below.

In reply toRe: msg 4

From: ModDee


How to Follow a Discussion

Want to know if someone posted in your buddy group? Get email notifications on any specific discussion you wish to follow.

  1. Click on your profile pic in the upper right hand corner.
  2. From the drop-down menu select “My Preferences”
  3. Scroll down to “View Zeta as Classic”
  4. Check the box before “View all Zeta forums in Classic”
  5. Select “Update”
  6. A box will appear “Success”. Click “OK”.
  7. Return to About Smoking Cessation Forum. Note: It will look vastly different.
  8. Select the “Messages” tab to show the folders.
  9. Go to the Discussion you want to follow.
  10.  Select “Subscribe” in the upper right directly across from the Discussion name.
  11.  Select how often you want to subscribe. Then click “Subscribe”.
  12.  A Subscribe box will appear. Click “OK”.
  13.  If you have other Discussions you wish to follow, repeat Steps 9 thru 11.
  14.  Select “My Preferences” at the top of the screen.
  15.  Scroll down to “View Zeta as Classic”
  16.  Check the box so it is now empty
  17.  Select “Update”
  18.  “Success” box. Click “OK”.

From: Chloeleb2001


Good morning, everyone

My name Is Chloe, I'm 19 years old and Im on day 6 of quitting smoking. I feel pretty weak to continue, because I feel like I'm already so messed up from vaping 50mg of nicotine for close to 4 years, not realizing how addicted and reliant my happiness ended up being around a USB stick. Whats weird is I put the vape down, and find myself craving cigarettes, or counting cigarette buds on my 40 walks a day. I still wake up crying most days, and end up trying to kill time smoking weed, wondering when will I finally stop missing it, or feeling satisfied living without it. If anyone has any advice for me, please, Im all ears. 


From: gkim


First of all, it’s great that you decided to quit at your age. You are ahead of the game. Some of us only wish we quit as early as you. The earlier you quit, less damage you do to your organs. I know being young, health wasn’t high on the list, at least that’s what I remember. You are smart. I’m not sure you’re a reader but search this forum. There’s so much information here about what to expect and what others experience. You are not alone in your experience- so many of us have gone through it. I believe worst is over for you in terms of physical withdrawal. Now you’re fighting with yourself- your head. You have to tell yourself you can beat this. You are strong. When that urge hits move your body, come and text here. That urge passes. I’m only on 58 days so I consider myself still new to all of this but there’s so many experienced teachers here and they are all so supportive. Think of how great you will feel and how much you will save and you don’t have to live with the fear of getting lung cancer or any other smoke related diseases. Congratulations on this journey!

In reply toRe: msg 7

From: Chloeleb2001


gkim said:

ung cancer or any other smoke related diseases. Congratulations on this journey!

Thank you so much for the support. I really appreciate the message and definitely will use it to remind myself of the things I'm gaining by taking care of my health sooner. Im making it through the mental battle! Today's the first day I've been able to do things without smoking on my mind 24/7. Making progress!


From: gkim


That is really awesome! You’ll see. Before you know it you’ll get some more days where you’re not thinking about it. Nice job!


From: Anne2020


Only the passage of time not smoked will bring you the peace you seek.  Your mind will try to come up with all sorts of ways to replace the nicotine you have purged out of your body.  Don't give in to those tricks.  Not a single one of them.  You do not need nicotine and you really don't want nicotine either.   

You are probably already feeling better for brief periods.  Those silent periods will expand over time to encompass all day everyday but only if you do not smoke or partake in any nicotine consumption.  The longer you refuse to allow yourself to consume nicotine, the sooner your peace of mind will come.  


  • Edited January 4, 2021 2:24 pm  by  Anne2020

From: MDS27


Hello all,

I didn't start smoking until I was 22. I never saw the point in it. I'm now 41 and it scares me to think I've been smoking for almost 20 years. I have been trying to quit on and off for the last 8 years. I've tried everything; cold turkey, patches, gum. The last two years I have been vaping as I thought this would be a stepping stone to quitting. In many ways, the vaping has been worse. As well as the cost in money and time and the unknown health effects of vaping, I've been living with an underlying sense of shame and guilt for so long now that it has become normalised for me. I'm starting my quitting journey today, so I can be a better example to my children, so I don't have to waste time and money vaping, but most importantly to restore my self-respect and peace of mind that has been missing for too long. 

Plan is to gradually reduce vape intake for next week (writing it down, so I can hold myself accountable and see progress). I will also only vape in one room of the house. That means not taking my vape out with me and learning to live without it for longer stretches. Bit scary, but here we go. Feels good to be part of a support group.

Take care all!