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Started 5/6/20 by Musivore; 118122 views.
Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Jul-4

And this is an all time favorite…The Dear John Letter…

https://forums.delphiforums.com/quit_smoking/messages/3393/1

Eve1973

From: Eve1973

Jul-4

Hey X, I hope you were able to get through it! 
 

Yes I do think every quit is different and each time as you get older, most likely harder! 

So I do hope Susan and Lores advice helped. Maybe taking a Benadryl before bed, or Tylenol PM. Depends on your thoughts on meds. 
 

Hope today better and hugs

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-4

I survived! It took a long time to fall asleep but I slept well, so I’m encouraged :) thanks for the support, I will read all the links you sent me. Last night the cravings were so bad…but I did not relent.

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-4

Just to let you know I survived another day :) still a lot of anxiousness but its getting better, Thank you for all the support.

Eve1973

From: Eve1973

Jul-5

Keep going! You got this…… you know that you can, because you have done it before, just this time knowing the tricks you will Not Surrender! ??
xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-5

OMG Eve Im having a terrible evening. none stop cravings.

Eve1973

From: Eve1973

Jul-6

Did you make it through the rough patch?

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-6

By the skin of my teeth but yes!!! Proud of me.

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-6

Also, I think that I was focusing on the future, what if I stumble down the line imagining situations in which I may relapse, instead of working with the one day at a time mentality. I’ll try to stick to that one.

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Jul-6

I think future tripping is unnecessarily anxiety inducing. Not just for smoking cessation, but most things really. Staying present, in the moment, is a practice. The more you do it the more naturally you will just be in the moment, present with yourself and more calm. 
Honestly, now that I’ve been not smoking a while it is much easier to see how smoking was constantly compelling me to future trip. Within minutes of putting one out, I’d be scheming and thinking about the when, where, how of the next one. So it makes sense when we stop we are in that mode for a while. It’s like we have to learn how to be with ourselves. Just us without our fix. It is addict behavior and mindset to look ahead and seek how we will get our next fix. When that piece of our mind is told that fix isn’t coming, other pieces of our mind kick in to basically rescue us (from ourselves). I think one of the most useful things my Shrink taught me was to step back and learn to identify the different pieces of my mind and how they act/interact in different situations and moments. 
It’s gonna be a lifelong practice for me to be able to  manage those pieces with my core wiser self. But, just recognizing the pieces was and is such a game changer in day to day life (and love). I feel much less frantic moment to moment. Instead of walking around and being at this heightened, detached, scattered place in my mind I feel more grounded and able to stay in the moment a lot more. Nicotine keeps you heightened and detached and scattered and distracted. Disconnected in a different way. It really is a veil in so many ways. 
Anyway…nattered on enough. Off to my new job for more training soon. That takes a whole different way and level of detachment I’m quickly learning. It really is fabulous to be there and not be distracted by scheming for a fix. 
Time is your best friend here X. Come to peace with that and it’s half the battle really. Your inner addict will soon simmer down a bit more each day. Then that voice moves on to other tactics joy.

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