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I definitely relate to the things you have posted here. I quit at the beginning of the year and I feel a lot more engaged with life now which honestly some days is a good thing and some days not so good but yeah, smoking really is a crutch and I found it to numb my emotions and generally be a source of unhappiness.
While this quit has been much longer than most of my previous attempts by far and hopefully is the one that lasts a lifetime, I still get those fond memories of when I enjoyed smoking and it creates mild cravings. Apparently my brain associates beautiful fall weather with the pleasures of smoking and these past couple weeks have been rougher than the last 6 months combined but I don't intend to go back. Just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences?
Typing things out here really helps generate the support and accountability to stay smoke free so I am thankful to share the journey with others. Trying to beat addiction alone in the past never achieved success. Thanks for starting this thread as I have gone through similar feelings recently. Hang in there! One day at a time!
I feel same alot of the time. Its difficult to understand sometimes how your mind works as you would assume it is on your side. But when something was bad your mind gives you the good side and when something was good it gives you the bad side. Like getting back into a relationship that was really bad for you because you remember how much you used to laugh together. Your mind is giving you a counter argument each time. With an addiction and habits it is hard to remember why you quit. You have done an exceptional thing so far and may it continue. Stay engaged and you will see the truth through the fog of your thoughts. Take care and continue to put it further and further behind you.
I'm having a hard time, too. I'm on day 108 and the autumn is kicking me hard. It's my favorite season and when it's nice and cool I would spend more time on the deck smoking. I'm not sure why this is happening, but I admit I am struggling a lot. I love this time of year and I feel like I can barely go outside because the urges are so strong. It definitely sucks.
I understand what you are saying and feeling I think. I spend alot of time outdoors. And do sometimes find it hard to just slow down and enjoy the moment. Maybe sunset, having a wander in countryside. Having a smoke in someway allowed me to calm down and tune into the rhythm somehow. But as it goes on longer and longer I realized the smoking was just piggybacking on my emotions. I become someone I recognize more and more each day. My brain always searching for easy way out and for quite sometime it will keep suggesting smoking to me. My brain is a marketing genius for smoking, it is trying everything. But now I'm not easily convinced.
I think it's going to be a while before my brain stops suggesting it. I know my quit muscles will get stronger the longer I go, but holy heck, I want to smoke pretty badly a lot this week but I'm holding strong and will persevere. I think I'm learning about what my new life is like. The one where i am not always smoking or thinking about smoking. The life that is filled with healthy decisions. If I had known it would be this hard to stop, I never would have started smoking.
Definitely sounds like we are having similar weeks. This is my favorite time of year too and I wish I didn't associate it with positive memories of smoking. I seriously stressed about smoking the last 5 years I did it but still couldn't get myself past a couple days or a week a couple times without lighting up. To say the least it shocks me to say that the past 6 months I have rarely had any desire to smoke and was hoping these feelings were finally gone but I guess it's just one more obstacle to deal with. Today is somewhat better as I went for a long walk and watched some Youtube videos about addiction and why people return to smoking who have successfully quit. Education helps!
The one video did point out that many people who relapse find that first cigarette tastes horrible. From my past experiences with longer quits I can't say that I personally experienced that but if we can use that thought as a deterrent to keep us smoke free it may be worth remembering. Hang on and keep posting and hopefully these urges will settle back down where they belong.
I give up. I have attempted 2 replies to this with thoughts on Autumn and why quitting and temptation to smoke rears it’s head loud and clear and both have disappeared into the ether. Will take that as a sign that those words are not meant to be freed from my tired brain right now. Perhaps they will resurface after I sign out. In summary, I also feel the destabilization of the change of seasons and think about smoking more. It will get better and things will come back around and we will again feel grounded and stable and able to carry on. Things always get better, particularly when we can step back and allow them to work themselves out some. Anyway...like I said, tired brain, lost posts, clear smoke free air. It’s all very fine.
Ahh the junkie thinking goes on and on. But, you are the one who is in charge and in control. That nicotine monster tries relentlessly to seduce you back to the addiction. It's the voice of addiction. You can just let that voice fade out and not act on his words. This is drug addiction and our brain needs lots of quit time to rewire itself and move those thoughts and actions of smoking into our faded long term memory area of our brain and get it out of our everyday memory area. It took me till I was 14 months quit to no longer get those tough out of nowhere craves. I felt free and felt so great to have finally put cigarettes in the past where they belong. You can do this just like so many others have. Keep on NOPING!
"Quitting isn't for Sissies!" I quit poisoning myself Sept. 27, 2013
Yes...I do believe I can do this. Like so many things in our lives, it does come down to what one believes in, in themselves, in others. There is a lot of power in believing positively, for me anyway. Either that or “fake it till you make it!” I do feel a sense of control with the addict voice at this point. Actually, it is rather empowering in a world where it seems there is so little one can control to make a positive change, it is empowering to hang onto a good thing for ourselves. I wasn’t giving up on my quit. Too many good a cherished things have come out of it already. I was giving up on trying to get those particular thoughts out in that moment. Sometimes my brain just needs to cave in to sleep. I fight that far too much. Thank you for being such a beautiful example and support for us!
Congratulations on 7 years, Debbie! That is truly an amazing accomplishment.
Thank you for telling us how you beat the addiction and how you felt physically. Sharing your experiences has helped me so much!
quit September 6, 2019