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Welcome New Ex-Smokers
Congratulations on taking that all-important first step with cessation - stubbing out the last cigarette and getting started.
Chances are you don't feel 'ready' to quit, and are experiencing a mixture of difficult emotions about it.
Try to relax. You've found the best place for help.
Getting Started with Cessation
Park yourself in front of your computer and read everything you can on this forum board. We encourage you to take the initiative to introduce yourself and post often. Sharing your journey with your new quit buddies and offering support to each other really helps.
This thread will serve as the meeting place for those of you who are quitting now, and when the month ends, we will move your 'home base' thread over to the Quit Buddies Unite folder, where you can continue to support each other.
You can also return to the Introductions folder where you'll find the new Monthly Ex-Smoker thread for those coming along behind you. Share the tips and encouragement that helped you during month one. Not only will this help others, it will strengthen your resolve as well.
Start your reading here: Homework for New Ex-Smokers
Additionally, the folder headings in gray on the left of the page under DISCUSSIONS house different topics. Click on the gray heading to view the conversations held within. When you finish with a folder, click on the drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and select ALL to see all of the folders again.
A good place to start with numerous threads from new ex-smokers.
This is where you will find the daily NOPE thread. NOPE stands for Not One Puff Ever, and members pledge NOPE on a daily basis. Give it a try - you will probably find it helpful and empowering.
This is a good place to post for help when you need it ASAP.
Dots(Weeks) and Stars (Months) Milestones and One Year and Beyond Milestones
Read the accounts of people who are winning with cessation in these folders.
Quit Buddies Unite
This folder is the home base for the groups who quit together. This thread will move to that folder at the end of the first month.
Quit Smoking Library
Here you'll find member stories and links to important articles that will inform you about what to expect from smoking cessation.
The next 4 posts will give you additional info on how to navigate/post here. Please read them and let us know if you have any questions.
An Educated Quit is a Successful Quit
When you know the challenges that may be coming, you can develop a plan to manage them and move forward smoke-free.
Healing from this addiction is a process of gradual release that happens one day at a time. Be patient with yourself and allow recovery to unfold for you as it will.
Enjoy the journey and settle in here. The light is on 24/7 in this virtual haven for quitters and someone is always available to help you when you need it.
Forum Navigation Basics
1. Take a look to the left at the DISCUSSIONS section to the left of this page
Unread to me (messages to you waiting to be read).
2. Click on the drop down menu on your profile picture/avatar at the top right of the page. Review the content of each one.
3. Please familiarize your self with the Help button contents
This is where you can browse Delphi FAQs for general information, or post a question in one of the Support Forums, where Delphi staff, volunteers, and knowledgeable members are happy to lend a hand. You will also find "How To" guides that are fully illustrated tutorials that show you exactly how things work on Delphi forums
4. When you click on a folder heading like "Quit Buddies Unite' to read or post, the gray drop down menu under the DISCUSSIONS section changes to "Single folder". Once you've finish what you're doing in that folder to see all the folder headings again, click on the gray drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and click on ALL which will bring up all the folder titles.
5. Education about our addiction and the cessation process is a major component of a successful permanent quit. Take a look at the articles in the link below they were written especially for new ex-smokers.
Homework For New Ex-Smokers
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Please feel free ask any question and to join in any discussion on the forum that interests you.
6. Familiarize yourself with the other folders in the Forum Navigation and Rules Category. They will help you with more information on finding your way around the forum.
How to Post a Message:
There are two ways to post messages: Replying to a message in an existing discussion or starting a new discussion.
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You can reply to a message someone else has posted by clicking the reply button on the post you are reading. It contains a white left facing arrow and the word Reply located at the bottom right of the post. You can also reply using all or selected text from the post. To do this:
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Starting a New Discussion:
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How to Send a SOS Request for HELP!
If you at anytime need cessation support you can start a new discussion in either the "Introductions/Newcomers Nook" or "Quit Support" folders. See instructions above for Starting a Discussion.
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The thought of quitting tobacco is very intimidating for most of us in the beginning, but take comfort in the fact that many others before you have quit successfully and they felt just as nervous as you probably do right now.
Quitting can be done - it's not an overnight event, but if you settle in and invest in the process, you'll be looking back from a place of nicotine-free comfort sooner than you think.
The following list of tips was compiled by ModJenn, one of our long-time mods. You might want to copy it to a place where you can refer and add to it as you go.
Thank you for all of this great info and great tips! Going to to do this.
Last cig smoked at 11:30 pm October 27, 2020.
Yay! There will be lots of hard days. I still have some. But I do not have regret. Just keep telling yourself about the difference between those two. Yes, it is hard, but I do not regret it. If you smoke now, you will at some point have to start over and go through those first few hardest days again! Who wants to do that, right?
Do you want to share a little bit of your history? Like how much you smoked, how long, etc? It is certainly not required if you prefer not to. Did you quit cold Turkey? Sometimes things feel a little different to those who quit cold Turkey vs using NRT (nicotine replacement therapy). Just gives a different perspective from those on here who have done one or the other. There is no right way or wrong way or better way. There is only your way and what works for you! You will find though that no matter what, being here and reading and posting and engaging with others that have gone through and are going through what you are is a tremendous help. It has made a huge difference for all of us here to connect with others that “get it”. It is definitely something that someone who has never smoked or vaped cannot relate to.
Glad you’re here! What time zone are you in? I ask everyone this as I’ve been around for several months and like knowing who is up when!
Been smoking off and on—more on since college. Quit for 5 years while my kids were born. Then was a secret smoker for a long time. Met my group of besties about 25 years ago. Three of the four of us were smokers. Now only one smoker left. (Not me, I’m a non-smoker now. Can you tell I’ve read the Carr book—multiple times.) So I’m 60 now—that makes about 40 years of smoking with a few breaks. This one is for keeps. Went cold turkey this time. Feel like a raging b*tch at times. Feels good to read others experiences.
l live in the Central time zone— suburban Chicago.
Thank you for listening and caring. It really helps!
Oh! Chicago is nice! I have a sister near there, in Naperville. There is an article here somewhere about closet smokers...let me find it for you. It totally hit home for me, except the giving the husband extra booze part, lol! You’ll see when you read it though. Will get to it today. Also, can be hard to find, but if you open all of the tabs on the left, near the bottom there is a “Library “ tab. There so many good articles there. Spend some time reading and learning about addiction. It will really help you to understand what is going on underneath and let you see how so much of it is normal. Also, I see Wendy (Ovivi) wrote you in the other thread and gave the excellent advice of babying yourself. I absolutely second that! All these folks on here are so amazing. I would not be at 8months without this forum for sure. A true godsend.