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September 2021 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started Sep-3 by slowblumer; 18832 views.
Dipo (diposs)

From: Dipo (diposs)

Sep-30

Hi BB, 

No worries and don't be too hard on yourself. I think its great that you admitted relapsing (openly in the forum) right away and recommitted to quit again. I do think relapse is unavoidable - the question is whether you want try quitting or not? Please don't loose hope.

Yes, I do wish problems go away once we quit smoking, but the truth it is part of life and we unfortunately have to learn to deal with it with cigarettes - one day at a time. Fighting / arguments is definitely a trigger for almost everyone (drinking too). Best to avoid all of it and take deep breaths instead.

 I truly believe that with her I will never quit.  Any ideas?? 

I'm sure you can. But maybe not during the first quit. We all need to learn how to deal with all of this without ciggaretes.

Maybe when the home situation is not so tense, you can tell her that if there is any arguing/ fight, you need to step out of the house for a while?  

Hope you're all calmer by now and ready to quit again

Anne2020

From: Anne2020

Sep-30

Your life is not going to change, you are changing inside of your life.  Consider that the stress you carry around is reduced and even eliminated when you quit smoking, making you a better person to deal with your life.  Write the novel.  Post your chapters here.  Document your progress and note the changes around you and inside of you here on this forum.  Create a New Topic about your quit and update it periodically as often as you like.  Many members of this forum have done that and it has helped them as well as others who are seeking guidance in their quit who may be going through the same or similar things as you.  That is a great idea.  If you feel that it will help, do it.

       

Lee.T

From: Lee.T

Sep-30

Take a deep breath and look outside and enjoy what you see. Think of all those people who haven't asked to be in terrible conditions they in being non smokes yet God gave us a body with no floors yet we chose to smoke. Think of how quickly we can heal compared to others in worse situations. Cherish what you have and know how much better you going to feel fighting something more simple than what others have landed up with not by choice. You can do it. Enjoy being on earth and what we have been given  to see and enjoy freely everyday without the unwanted bad habits that have crept in.?. 

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Sep-30

Hi there,

She's cool, No, I won't be doing the Nope thing, I have to many commitments at the moment.

oxanquits

From: oxanquits

Sep-30

Uuuf, I can feel you. There was and is a person in my life who would make me smoke, regardless of my mood the minute before we speak or meet. Fortunately, not partner, so we didn't meet daily, but close relative I care about, so couldn't avoid. It also became my excuse to smoke, I felt that it is ok to smoke after we meet or talk, because I felt bad. I guess It’s common "that" person or situation :) and that's already something to think about, while you're preparing to new quit, try to get new perspective about who is triggered, real you or nico-dependent you.. 

What helped me, not sure if there is any occasion you can do similar, is taking a break from communication(minimize it) with anyone who would let me down, at the beginning of the quit at least. Once you feel more confident there is better chance you can feel ok with what triggers you most. I still get the same feeling with this person after 6 month quit, but I don't react in the same way. You need a lot of time to heal and to learn new behaviors, so be patient, it might not come from the first time. Don't stop trying. Try to come up with something relaxing and effortless to add to you emergency plan. Maybe even something you can do when your wife is around.

  • Edited September 30, 2021 5:53 pm  by  oxanquits
Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)

Sep-30

Hey!

  Good to see your face.  I'm back....again.

Mercy

2 days

Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)

Sep-30

Hi Everyone,

  I am back again.  I have 2 days, and I am feeling a bit crazed, but okay overall.  I am glad to see so many faces are still here. I hope it sticks this time.

Mercy

Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)

Oct-1

Thank you. I am glad to be back. I am starting day 3 today and things are getting a bit better.

Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)

Oct-1

Hey you,

  How are you?  I am back to try again. I hope you are doing well.

Mercy

Day 3

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