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September 2022 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started Sep-2 by Denim50; 2848 views.

From: Douglas8845


Hi Lore, 

If I were to think back to the first few years of my quit I would say that up until the end of the fourth year the solidity of my quit wasn't yet a reality.  There was no question that i had quit. However, occasional thoughts would sometimes creep up on me, seemingly out of nowhere, suggesting that it was ok to consider having a smoke. After all i had clearly become a successful quitter.  These thoughts were very persuasive and therefore very dangerous.  When they occurred I would remind myself of how hard it had been to quit and to stay quit.  I would think of the huge regret those who had thrown away their quit for "just one" felt. How they loathed and despised themselves for such a miserable reward. 

Most who had quit confessed that when they lit the first smoke it tasted awful, how it made them dizzy.  Many would  light a few more to confirm how awful cigarettes were. Then they would tell themselves that they would finish the pack and return to their nonsmoking life.  By then the damage had been done, they had willingly fallen into the powerful grip of nicotine addiction again.  Having "just one" is like lighting a stick of dynamite and playing with it.

I can go on and on about this. The bottom line is, I knew I had a simple decision to make.  I could smoke zero cigarettes, or an endless  stream of tens of thousands of Marlboro 100 reds.  I chose Option 1,

One more thing: I have never met a former quitter who was glad they gave up their quit to become smokers again. Not one single one.

Don't  over think it, the choice is clear, just don't  smoke.


From: Anne2020


I would add that, I have friends that, even after 20 years quit, they tend romance that one smoke.  I think I do that as well from time to time but I know that it is a wolf is sheep's clothing. 

Not smoking is a conscious choice we have to make everyday to maintain our non-smoking lifestyle, everyday.    


CC to Loreficent

From: BenNetty


Thanks my quit day is sept 21, I will be checking in often for support.


From: Douglas8845


Hey Ben, 

This site was instrumental in my successful quit.  Use it to the max, support your fellow quitters, don't be shy about asking for help.

You can do this.


From: Douglas8845


Speaking only for myself I can say that I have left the smokes behind.  I never dreamed about smoking but did dream about buying smokes, usually at an airport, stressed about boarding a plane to a destination 5 nonsmoking hours away.


From: Marjorie1244


Hallo Douglas,  Thank you for your advise and support , im nearly on my 6 weeks now and i must admit its getting much easier now , I still think about cigarettes from time to time during the days , but I just tell myself I dont want one , I have every faith that the longer I go , I won't even think bout them anymore , even though I see people smoking , hopefully in time it won't give me a second thought , and smoking will be a thing of the past.  Marjorie1244


From: Loreficent


Thank you Douglas

Exactly. Just don’t smoke. 
I know everything you say to be true. I had a day that I smoked somewhere around 4 months into this quit. I think I had like 6 or 8 that day, can’t recall exactly how many. I did throw the rest of the pack away before bed that night. Yes, it was a mind game that in hindsight was absolutely not worth playing. I’ve been on the horse since and am keenly aware of that stick of dynamite. I have no intention on playing with it either! It’s reassuring to hear these moments came and went for others at this point. For me, that normalization really helps me keep the addict piece in check. Not sure why, it just does.

It is reassuring to read what you wrote, along with what Annie wrote last night. I do understand that all of the transition going on in my life is likely what is prompting me to have these thoughts. Some part of me that is reaching for something that some piece of my mind is recalling as familiar and equating that with comfort. 
Again, like you said “Don't  over think it, the choice is clear, just don't  smoke.” 

It did help a lot to come write things out and seek some support. It wasn’t easy cause I really want to be at that point where I’m not needing to do that. So, yea, it is a little humbling. But most importantly, articulating those thoughts on here allowed me to gain some sense of control and nip the spiraling feeling in the bud. 
I know with all of my heart that I would not at all be happy to give up this quit to be a smoker again either. Ugh! I think some of that spiraling feeling was also coming from fear of that happening. It won’t. I won’t let it. The choice IS crystal clear. 

Thank you so much. I really appreciate the support. I decided that my energy is better spent on being grateful that you and others are here still lending a hand than it is on being angry at myself for needing to ask for a hand still. 

CC to Anne2020

From: Loreficent


“Not smoking is a conscious choice we have to make everyday to maintain our non-smoking lifestyle, everyday.”


Thank you

Hi Anthony,

I sent you a link in a conversation.  See if that is the one you are looking for.


From: tonypfan


Sorry cindi but I don’t have your link.  No worry.  I don’t need to find it.  This website is difficult for me to master.  I have heard similar sentiments from other members.  But we continue to soldier on.  Thank you.