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October 2022 Ex-Smokers   Quit Buddies Unite

Started Oct-1 by modCindi (CindiS319); 4266 views.

Welcome New Ex-Smokers

Congratulations on taking that all important first step with cessation - stubbing out the last cigarette and getting started.

Chances are you don't feel 'ready' to quit, and are experiencing a mixture of difficult emotions about it.

Try to relax.  You've found the best place for help. 

Getting Started with Cessation

Park yourself in front of your computer and read everything you can on this forum board. We encourage you to take the initiative to introduce yourself and post often. Sharing your journey with your new quit buddies and offering support to each other really helps.

This thread will serve as the meeting place for those of you who are quitting now, and when the month ends, we will move your 'home base' thread over to the Quit Buddies Unite folder, where you can continue to support each other. 

You can also return to the Introductions folder where you'll find the new Monthly Ex-Smoker thread for those coming along behind you.  Share the tips and encouragement that helped you during month one.  Not only will this help others, it will strengthen your resolve as well.

Start your reading here:  Homework for New Ex-Smokers

Additionally, the folder headings in gray on the left of the page under DISCUSSIONS house different topics.  Click on the gray heading to view the conversations held within.  When you finish with a folder, click on the drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and select ALL to see all of the folders again.

Introductions/Newcomers Nook
A good place to start with numerous threads from new ex-smokers.

General Chit-Chat 
This is where you will find the daily NOPE thread.  NOPE stands for Not One Puff Ever, and members pledge NOPE on a daily basis.  Give it a try - you will probably find it helpful and empowering.

Quit Support
This is a good place to post for help when you need it ASAP. 
Dots(Weeks) and Stars (Months) Milestones and One Year and Beyond Milestones 
Read the accounts of people who are winning with cessation in these folders.

Quit Buddies Unite 
This folder is the home base for the groups who quit together.  This thread will move to that folder at the end of the first month.

Quit Smoking Library
Here you'll find member stories and links to important articles that will inform you about what to expect from smoking cessation.

The next 4 posts will give you additional info on how to navigate/post here.  Please read them and let us know if you have any questions.

An Educated Quit is a Successful Quit

When you know the challenges that may be coming, you can develop a plan to manage them and move forward smoke-free.

Healing from this addiction is a process of gradual release that happens one day at a time.  Be patient with yourself and allow recovery to unfold for you as it will. 

Enjoy the journey and settle in here.  The light is on 24/7 in this virtual haven for quitters and someone is always available to help you when you need it. 

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From: Lee.T


Hi I will be joining this group as I really want to do this. I would appreciate a d will be happy to hear or get advice ftom many people as possible. Am in the middle of reading Allan Carrs book at the moment.

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Hi Lee,

So happy to see you again and that you are really wanting to quit.  When I first quit I thought "I'll just give it a shot...no promises" but then changing my mindset (similar to Carrs' approach) and staying close to the forum changed everything for me.  But I just took it day by day... each morning... I will not smoke TODAY.  No promises on tomorrow or next week... today I will not smoke.  And I did that every day.  I still do it after 4+ years.  I'm actually trying it myself right now with drinking alcohol and eating....one day at a time.

So my advice is stay close to the forum here and read everything you can.  I really love all the VeryWellMind articles and think I've read each of them 10 times.  Even if you've read them already, read them again to give you the tools and motivation you may need:

Getting Ready to Quit:

What are Your Reasons to Quit Smoking?
Why am I Afraid to Quit?  
When is The Best Time to Quit? 
How You Can Prepare to Quit 
Quit Aid Choices 
Supplies to Have On Hand When Quit Day Arrives

Best of luck in your journey here and we are all here to support you.  You will never look back and regret the decision to quit.

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From: AnnaFreshAir


Hi Lee, You have come to the right place for advice on quitting smoking.  After over 40 years as a very addicted smoker, I was able to quit for good 9 years ago with the help of this forum.  I encourage you to read articles (see the Library in the lower left column) and post with others.  It is not easy, but you learn to let go and become a non-smoker one day at a time.  The end result of freedom is worth the effort it takes to turn your life around.  Best wishes!


Breathing Fresh Air Since 10-1-2013


From: AnnaFreshAir


Hello ModCindi,

Congratulations to you on 4+ years free!  I agree with your one day at a time approach.  It takes some of the pressure off and each day it becomes your choice and you know you are in control.  With the help of this wonderful forum, I was able to quit for good 9 years ago.  I have no desire to ever smoke again and that is a great feeling.  I know how hard it is to quit, but I also know it can be done and the struggle of the early days is long gone.

As it turned out, October 1st was a very good day to quit!  I would like to send encouragement and best wishes to everyone, especially our new October Ex-Smokers.

Take care,


Breathing Fresh Air since 10-1-2013


From: Lee.T


My first day today. Am battling and feeling very anxious. Cant get my mind to relax and ignore the worry about not smoking.  

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From: Anne2020


I am so glad you came back.  Perhaps if you could express what your worries are in a post it would help to get them out of your head and onto paper.  

We are here for you!


From: Lee.T


Anne I broke  I was doing  so welll the entire day until my son phoned me at work putting pressure on us to go to this wedding that we know we cannot afford cause we just all came back ftom Mozambique which cost us all a fortune. I explained this to him but he went on and on until it got into an argument because he's not understanding.  I know this wedding invite was long before the Mozambique trip but we all including him didn't expect for it to be so expensive. His argument was that we couldn't let them down and him because he always flies to us to visit. To cut the story short we now going to the wedding and I'm left where ive broken my quit.  I just feel so heartbroken and told him thie conversation has made me slip. He told me I can't blame him and that I'm in charge of what I do.  Anyway he is right I should have tried to avoid it somehow. So I'm full of tears and immotional. Am so sorry and please don't give up on me

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From: Anne2020


Never give up on you - ever.  If you need to smoke for a few days until you can get your bearings back, then so be it.  Quitting is a personal matter and you quit when you are ready to do so, on no one's timeline but your own.  Don't feel bad.  We all go through this one way or another.  You are normal.  When we quit smoking, we have to relearn how to deal with stress.   If your stresses are overwhelming and you haven't had a chance to acquire any coping strategies, it is all too easy to fall back on the tried and true, regardless of what it is.  Smoking is probably the most common coping strategy for stress known. 

Do what you can and plan for the future.  We are here for you all the way.

Hi Anna,

Congratulations on 9 years!!!!  That is amazing!!  Yes October is a fine month and the 1st is always a great milestone date to remember.  With beautiful Fall here and then being indoors for the Winter (at least here in Ohio), its awesome to not have to good outside and brave to cold to just have a cigarette.

Thank you for being here and checking in.  I'm sure it give our new members and October quitters the hope they need to succeed.