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December 2019 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started 1/28/19 by Terry (abquitsmking); 48480 views.
Majomar

From: Majomar

3/27/20

Hi, Debra,

thank you for all your kind words and concern :) it's rare these days to feel empathy from people, and with this new situation, people are starting to act crazy. I'm worried about psychological consequences and what will happen to the way we relate to each other... and this is only the beginning. 

I live in the Balkans, in Montenegro, we are quite used to "dramatic" circumstances or extraordinary situations and I am quite tough by nature, but also quite sensitive... and some days I feel that strength and see this situation as a challenge that will make us all better people, and some days I feel alone and everything seems as if it will never end... and the world has reached its end. :D (which I don't fear, just... not a pleasant feeling), Of course, it is not real... and we all feel different emotions, some of which are just challenging and have to b faced.

Regarding dreams, I always had vivid dreams, so I can't make a difference since the quit... and then my situation was maybe different, because of the loss of my mother, and my brain still can't catch up with the situation, I think... when I have (vivid) dreams, those include her and rarely is the brain aware that she's gone. It still can be a lot of adrenalin and trying to "solve" the situation and help her in my dreams. 

And then, when I'm stressed, I take a sedative, that affects the way I experience my dreams, probably.

I believe that your mind is "clearing"... and those dreams are part of a coping mechanism, and you will be OK :)

 I thought I almost forgot about smoking, but... as I wrote before, this stress brings the urge back again, and I fight back and count the days and hope it will all go away soon.

Stay strong and stay well :)

Majomar

From: Majomar

3/27/20

Congratulation, Arielle! :)

Arielle2019

From: Arielle2019

3/27/20

Thank you so much guys for your sweet messages, it really warms my heart heart

Life has been one thunderstorm after the other this year so my focus has been on handling stress, reevaluating old beliefs and embracing the uncertainty that affects us all. Thankfully I study mostly online so my studies haven't been affected that much yet. 

Does it sound strange that nicotine is no longer a focus? Something happened to me mentally after I read Allen Carr's book "Quit smoking" over Christmas, so thank you so much Susan for forwarding me the book as an attachement on this forum pray

I hand over my fears to God/Universe (call it what you wish) and in these times of fear and physical isolation I believe that connecting to oneanother and showing kindness and compassion is more important than ever. 

I hope that you and your loved ones are well and healthy.

Remember, together we are stronger

 sunflowersunflowersunflower

Arielle2019

From: Arielle2019

3/27/20

Thank you relaxed

How are you holding up? 

Majomar

From: Majomar

3/27/20

:)

These are challenging times for everyone, I believe. I'm doing fine, I do struggle, but I don't feel as if it were more "trouble" than other people face. I feel many people have it harder, in many ways and I try to remain cool and be patient when some sort of crisis arrives.

I'm losing my focus these days, but it's not the quitting, I think it's the Covid-crisis. And then an "urge" just slips in, like it's finding a crack in your "defence" system... :D I won't let it defeat me!

Arielle2019

From: Arielle2019

3/27/20

I hear you, can totally relate.

So awesome that no matter what happens around us, smoking is no longer an option. 

That makes us winners every day muscle

Way to go Majomar!!! 

cherbearquit

From: cherbearquit

3/29/20

I think I am a day late, but congrats on 3 months! You should be SO proud, as you are doing this at a most difficult time. If we can get through these challenging days, we can deal with anything! Stress is a challenge for all of us I think. But, hang in there and stay strong!  Be sure to do something special for yourself! Don’t let a random urge get to you. It will pass and it will get better! Stay healthy & safe!

Quit 12/6/19

Majomar

From: Majomar

3/29/20

It's never too late :)

Thank you, cherbear, and thank you Arielle.innocent

I decided not to beat myself up over eating too much these days, I should relax more, over everything... there is too much stress already, why put more on yourself... 

We are doing this... for real, we can do it. 

cherbearquit

From: cherbearquit

3/29/20

I agree about the relaxing and easing up on things for now. Stress levels are high for everyone right now, but just like we say here in the forum, you are not alone in this. We can’t stress over what we cannot control. All we can do is protect our quit and our health the best we can. You are doing great! Stay strong and healthy!

Majomar

From: Majomar

3/30/20

Thank you, you are right.

There are moments when pressure is so high and at the same time feeling of ultimate loneliness and being on my own becomes too painful and hard that I break and lose the will to live, just want... not to be anymore, like those "falls" when I first quit. It's not rational. Nothing is really like that. I am on my own physically, no one can come or be there to help, but I do have moral support, it's just... with my mother gone, it's like there is no one because she was everyone and everything...

 And sometimes, lately, it's too often, I take some sort of comfort in food, I feel guilty, because so many people are hungry right now, not just right now, but right now many lose their jobs and income overnight and have nothing to give to their children to eat. And then, my situation isn't great but I have enough food, enough to eat too much and I'm embarrassed. And that is how I lose my ability to relax... 

I'0m feeling a bit better today, I slept during the day because I couldn't sleep for the last two nights, and it's already a bit better.

Sleep is a natural way of healing your mind and body. 

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