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Started Oct-17 by KalyaRed; 4147 views.
Denim50

From: Denim50

Oct-17

Hey Kayla, 

     I’m sorry to hear you’re having to go through all of that. It’s a lot to go through at one time but PLEASE don’t smoke. Quitting certainly isn’t easy but you’re doing it. That in itself is a testimony to your strength. You may not feel like it at the moment but you are strong and you can get through this. However, as difficult this may be, a cigarette isn’t going to change anything but your quit. It won’t change the move, the job, the marriage, or depression. It won’t help any of it, if anything it may add to it by making you feel worse that you lost your quit. When we quit we have to learn to handle life in another whole way as non-smokers, but when we come to these moments of extreme stress early on those thoughts of smoking return because that’s what we did. They were our companions through turbulent times, they’re what we turned to, to calm us. I’ve been there. Looking back though, I realize they didn’t, not truly. They didn’t stop how I was feeling physically or emotionally. If a cigarette is lit by someone whose angry, scared, nervous, depressed, crying, whatever, they still feel those things, only they feel them while smoking. I tied my own smokes in with my emotions, even posted about it. Looking back it was more of a habit during those times and, as I said, was more of a companion. Even so, what kind of real companion wants to harm us in our weakest moments? Do we really want a friend like that? And how will you feel afterward? We believe what we tell ourselves, remind yourself that you’re strong, and know that there are others who believe this about you too. You can do it. A cigarette isn’t worth it. Please continue to post. Sending you caring thoughts.  

Here are some articles that may help also. 

https://www.verywellmind.com/the-psychology-of-a-smoking-relapse-2825223

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-people-have-a-smoking-relapse-2825140

https://www.verywellmind.com/mind-games-go-both-ways-when-you-quit-smoking-2824894

https://www.verywellmind.com/nicotine-withdrawal-and-junkie-thinking-2824411

https://www.verywellmind.com/quitting-smoking-10-stress-coping-hints-2825276

https://www.verywellmind.com/stress-and-smoking-cessation-2825273

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-the-first-year-of-smoking-cessation-is-so-important-2824682

I wish you the best with your quit and with all that you’re going through. Hugs.  

 

popc87

From: popc87

Oct-17

I’m new to this forum and I don’t know how the age range is here but I’m 32 and have quit smoking 5 years ago for a year straight and have been smoke free for 3 weeks now both times has been cold Turk and I can honestly say this time has been so much easier. I’m saying this in reply to you Kayla and to let you and everyone know that it is hard but it can be done with determination and honesty. You have to want it and be outspoken about how you feel and goals your trying to reach for quitting. I went through bad withdrawals my first time to the point I was a nervous wreck and was socially awkward and babbling mess when it came to verbal engagement, I chewed gum like a camel, I tapped my feet and fingers like there was a imaginary keyboard always in front of me but it got easier once I decided that my life was more important than my escape. I need support just as much as anyone here but I’m also know a couple things about addiction and the hardships 

MichaelaOana

From: MichaelaOana

Oct-18

Hi, Kalya. How are you today?

Yesterday was a hard day for me too.  Please stay strong. We are here to help you. Is better to post here and dont worry about challenging the patience of people in this forum. We all had our bad days. This forum is for this kind of moments also.

Hugs from Romania.

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-18

Good morning, Viv 

Thank you for the positive thoughts! I was lucky to see your response quickly. 

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-18

Good morning, June, 

I've read this message at 6.30am. It really helped me start the day. 

You're right, it is enticing. And you're right, it won't be worth it. 

The tears haven't come yet. I guess they're waiting for the worst possible time. 

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-18

Good morning Denim, 

I've booked marked this message too. I'm still on the limb, though I recognise the truth in your words. I didn't smoke but I didn't throw away my pack. 

Today's going to be a hard day. I hope I can get to bed smoke-free but it's not even 9AM and I'm not super strong or confident. 

Thank you so much for all your support! 

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-18

Hello, 

I'm 37. This must be my 1000th time quitting. I always lose my quit to depression and bursts of anger. Being chronically depressed I can't take any more medication than I already do. Depression gets worse when I quit. 

I've read a lot about it and I do everything I can to go around it. I workout, I try to be positive, I eat healthy, I take walks, I play with my cat, I rely on my friends, drink herbal infusions, but I have a terrible insomnia and whatever I do I always wake up between two and four times a night. 

So yeah I hope it can be done even with all these conditions. I've got a terrible headache today. 

KalyaRed

From: KalyaRed

Oct-18

Hi Michaela, 

The day's just started and I wish it was already nighttime... 

I'm sorry for being so negative today but I can't help myself right now. 

I hope you're going strong!! 

Hugs from Portugal! 

4quitness

From: 4quitness

Oct-18

Oh Kayla, your SOS went out to most of us in the middle of the night. Don't do it! You will still be depressed, scared, angry, or whatever emotions you are experiencing whether you smoke or not. Smoking. Changes. Nothing. You will still have these feelings along with losing what you have worked so hard to achieve. I could give up my 3.5 mth. quit in a heartbeat. I want to smoke every single day. I'm not going to do it, because it's not going to change anything. The only thing that changes is your health, and in my case, I will have let down so many people, and most importantly we mustn't let down ourselves. WE are the ones that count the most! I hope you didn't cave and threw that pack out. 

Hang tough. You can do this. I can do this. We ALL can do this!

Michele

Hi there Kayla. Quitting is WICKED TOUGH!!! 

Those cigarettes screwed up your brain chemistry and some of us do have a harder time with The Quit. We are all unique in how we cope with life's struggles. All I can say is to make an appointment with your doctor and perhaps he/she can suggest medications to help you with those depressive thoughts. I remember feeling very blue right up to month four and then my moods lifted. I was told that some receptors had shut down and these ups and downs in mood and zest would continue in waves as the months went by. The difference is as the months go by the intensity does lessen its just we get bored and frustrated with the painfully slow process. I got headaches and the blues right before more receptors were ready to shut down and I chose to believe all the long term quitters and hang in there. I'm glad I did as I just passed my 6th year quit. My emotions and my body chemistry all evened out and now I'm feeling awesome and free. It's great to get the drug addiction behind me and you can do this too. Stay busy, distract yourself to stop yourself from caving. It's totally normal to constantly think of smoking because the drug addict nicotine monster wants to be fed. Don't fall for it ever again because it's a trap that covers you in addiction once again. 

Stay close to your forum friends and go out to fun pleasant places where smoking isn't permitted anyways. Be proud of your monumental journey as you are breaking free once and for all. Show that nicotine monster who's the boss and tell him to aahhh shut up. stuck_out_tongue

"Quitting isn't for Sissies!" I quit poisoning myself Sept. 27, 2013

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