Hey Cindi

Are you there? I would love to talk if you want.

Andrew

Hi Andrew,

Sorry I missed your message.  I turned in early last night as I had meetings for work all morning.  Hope everything is going well for you today!

Hey Cindi - 

Yes, doing well today. Up late last night. Took a break from my wife - we had a stupid disagreement and I just left to cool off.  Got back a 10 when she was about to go to sleep. I bought her a scratch off (she loves her scratch offs) then emailed her a love note. She got both this morning. Everything is ok today.

Guess what? I have decided to strip the epoxy from the counter tops. I really did a bad coating job; guess I will leave them be. I have plenty other projects to do.  I'll send you     some pictures soon.

Considered getting a pack last night. And that's as far as it went, considered. Again, I repeat in my head, "I just don't smoke anymore" PERIOD! i Went for an extended golf cart ride and ended up at the lake where me and Rascal used to play Frisbee and root around the bushes looking for geckos. I still miss him so much that I almost start crying.

Stress and relapse.

To all that are confronted with stressful situations, hang tight and divert to something else. Walk, run, drive, pray or anything to readjust your state of mind. Really anything that takes you away from those cravings is important. Be patient and they will go away. Fortunately, I live mostly a stress-free life, don't work anymore and do not have anybody or anything hanging over my head. 

Most of do not have that luxury and need to find something to fight the cravings. Denium posts a slew of affirmations every once and awhile. I find these to be helpful when I am craving a cig. Also reading the millions of posts on this site is extremely helpful. Everyone is trying to quit and have different approaches to fighting this war with nicotine. 

I try to keep my posts brief, so people will actually read them.

Lots of wisdom out there. This site is great! Take advantage of this opportunity to fight your battle with king nicotine. 

Good day,

Andrew

Strong work Andrew!

Where willpower and emotion collide, emotion will always win. 
You are correct there are a ton of tools at our disposal. The addict voice will do all in it’s power to rationalise not utilising them. It takes a mix of things for sure. 
Look at each crave as “what recipe am I going to give this one?”

Do not taint your newfound joy. It will only bring despondence, remorse, and deep deep regret. 

Andrew...

I smoked yesterday. I smoked 5 cigarettes then woke up with a bad headache. I appreciate your wisdom. Wish I could say something more positive. I am going through a bad time. Lozenges used to satisfy me. Now I crave the physical action of smoking. The inhaling and exhaling. Good for you Andrew! You are doing amazing! Will write more when I have time!

Hey Jerthie:                                                                                       Mon,Aug1,2022

Oh, actually I envy you. How many times I have dreamt of taking a big drag on my high tar and nicotine Marlboros. I used to think that was pleasurable (and it really was) but in my current attempt to change to the belief that smoking does absolutely nothing for you (me). Per Allen Car "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking". He says this and several other myths that we believe are undeniably a part the psychology of the, what he calls, the smoking trap. We have all been brainwashed into thinking smoking is cool, helps us in weight control, reduces stress and aids in concentration and many more un-truths. 

I can't lie, I loved to smoke. I don't care what Carr says. It takes more than awareness to tackle this program. It took my almost dying from a medication overdose and drinking, not to mention the cigarette smoking. They called it a stroke but In any case, it required that I change my lifestyle, big time. At the time I was unwilling to quit the smoking. It took 3 more years later for me to wake up. I found Delphi and the rest is history.

You must admit that this an incredible site. People who are going through the same stuff and truly care about you and your smoking. All good folks that support one and another in an encouraging and constructive manner. We are all very lucky to have found each other. 

Dancin' to Earth, Wind and Fire....

Andrew

Andrew... You are a very strong person to have overcome all you have! I did not smoke today but continue to use lozenges. You keep on dancing Andrew! Thank you for the encouragement!

Hi Andrew,

Sorry it took me a while today to reply...been a long day for a Monday.  I'm so sorry about your counters...that is terrible.  I wasn't really happy with how mine turned out but not to the point that I was willing to endure the pain of starting over.  They will be fine.  Not like I have a million dollar home or anything.

There's no shame in crying about your lost doggie..sometimes it's just a relief to let it out.  Lord knows I've done it so many times over the years for my doggies that have crossed the Rainbow Bridge.  Breaks my heart but I know I gave them a good life and they know how much I loved them.  Just think of that.

Hopefully things are all patched up with your wife.  You are still new to your quit and sometimes we blow things out of proportion because of what we're going through getting past through all of this.  I am absolutely sure I was not fun to live with during that time (and probably still not...lol).  I am very stubborn and controlling and set in my ways and my husband knows exactly how I am.  

Keep up your good thoughts to get you through this and take each day, hour, minute at a time.  You have so many of us here for you, cheering you on.  Have a great night and probably talk to you tomorrow!

Hey Cindi                                                                                           Tues Aug 2, 2022

No need to be sorry, everyone is on their own timetable. Just like the smoking thing. We all know what needs to be done and hopefully will take care of business when we are ready. I feel for those who have a sincere desire to quit but for some reason can't keep from having that first one again.

It's disheartening and frustrating time after time. There is no magical way to deal with nicotine addiction. One is no stronger than the other when it comes to fighting this thing. Everyone is different and will approach quitting in their own way no matter how long or how many times it takes. 

As much as we thought we enjoyed it, smoking sucks. We can make all the excuses in the world to remain smokers but, in the end, everyone knows it is bad news. Our children have been educated to hate smoking, Good for them.

Cindi you had said that you really didn't know much about me. I think we have had a chance to share much about ourselves. I have something personal in nature that I will PM to you and Jerthie tonight, I figured how to get your PM sent to me last week. 

Talk to you soon.

Slow dancing tonight

Andrew

Hi Andrew,

Hope you're having a good day.  Got your PM and replied.  Nothing really lets you know that you've gotten a PM so the few times I've gone in to that area, I have like 58 PMs I've never read.  Maybe there's some notification that can be set up...I haven't figured that out yet.

Talk to you soon.  Keep dancing