Good morning Andrew,

How is everything coming along? 
I miss Eve too! She was part of my “tribe”. Her, Peggy, SusanK1960, XVaper, and for a while Tiny Badger. I’m in touch outside of here with Eve and Peggy and X. Tiny fell off after I wrote a particular post that I think came off a bit harsh. It made me tremendously sad and I wrote a few times to make amends but she never came back. It is always a challenge on here trying to figure out what approach is most supportive for folks. Some seem to like just validation, some like encouragement, some just want to commiserate, some like a more philosophical approach, some do well with a “buck up” kind of tough love approach. I had mistaken the tough love approach as effective for her. I felt just terrible that it seemed to backfire. However, I also believe communication is a two way street. One can always say, “that felt a little harsh, was that the intention?” and give someone benefit of doubt too. So in my mind, I kind of see it that what I wrote gave the addict the right fuel and excuse to drop off and just smoke. That’s ok. Now I see what I just wrote may sound harsh to some too. Not intended. Please don’t make me part of “cancel culture “ hahahaha! 
I’ll send St Eve a message and let her know she is missed. 
Hope you are hanging in there!

Just dance!!

Hey Lori-

I am good. Other than Xfinity down, no internet, TV or phone.Thankfully I have my IPhone on 5G. Sitting here dancin’ to Earth ,Wind & Fire and looking for something to do. May go to the pool and do the hot tub thing.

I remember Eve very well. We had some great conversations. Nice lady! Same with you.

Hope your evening is good. 
 

 Good day (night)

Andrew

Good evening Andrew,

Its hard nowadays to be “disconnected “ from the internet. We don’t realise until it happens. Glad you are able to still get on and write. Boredom is never productive, and often very destructive for an addict. But look! You get to hang out and write and maybe go to the hot tub and not smoke! It’s pretty cool to be free of that and just go do your thing. Not worry about where are your cigs, do you have enough, where is the lighter, etc.

Enjoy it!!!!

Lori-

I can always go get one of my wife's cigs. They are the real thin Capri 100's. Yuk, I would have to be pretty hard up to smoke those. 

No matter, it's the furthest thing from my mind. I am firmly grounded in my new program. God knows that I have been waiting a long time for his blessings. Actually, he has always been there, I was just "asleep at the wheel" my whole life. 

I can't tell you how pleased I am to be alive, healthy and loved. I am truly blessed and wish to spread my newfound gifts to the world (Dance to this Gift Called Life).

To all my Delphi friends. I am grateful to have found you. We are going to make it, some sooner than others. But keep the faith and you will succeed. 

Andrew 

Another Day Smoke Free

Going on my 12th week smoke free, Yippee I am really a non-smoker. I am approaching the 3rd month of freedom and feel confident I can do another month. I can see 6 months out, a day at a time. Never before have I felt this way about my smoking. 

As you all know I spend a lot of time on this site. I am excited to read all the posts and gain strength from all of you. It keeps me grounded and I try to share my positive thoughts and feelings as we progress on our journey. 

Before we know it 2023 is right around the corner. What a wonderful thought starting the new year as a non-smoker. I can't wait. 

Really, smoking is downright stupid. How we got caught up in the insanity of it all escapes me as the many times I tried to quit on my own, I just couldn't do it. Surrender should not be in our vocabulary. We were given this miracle called life to live it to the fullest. 

I am grateful for the support and encouragement that I get from all of you. It amounts to free therapy, and I always leave the site with something that helps me remain abstinent.  Keep posting and reading, it will make a big difference in your fight to freedom. 

Good day,

Andrew

I posted this to ALL today. I don't know if you saw it.

Here it is:

Aww...that AMAZING and congratulations!!!  12 weeks is a Huge accomplishment.  You are doing so GREAT!!!  So proud of you!

Keep up the great work!  I spent most of the day outside at picnics wanting to pass out from the heat.  The older I get I just can't take it anymore.  I do not know how you even deal with Florida!  No thank you!  

Hope you had a great day and thank you for copying your post to me!

Yesssss! Do we have a MOD now???

Thank you thank you thank you Cindi!!! Wow. Denim and you are amazing to give your time, support, encouragement, and love to this Forum. You make a huge difference in people’s lives. Thank you so much!!!

Thank you so much Lore and I am so honored to be asked to be in this position.  I really hope I can make a difference just like ModMarge, ModDee, ModSue and so many others did for my first year or so.  I'm going to try my best to be a great support system for everyone here.  

Thank you for sharing Andrew! Keep up the amazing work... Hurray!!!