Lore-

I started my day with a short (1 mile) walk. Listening to Earth, Wind and Fire and disco dancing down the road. I'm sure my neighbors think I am crazy (which I am), but I feel the music up my spine.

I found another Dehphi-buddy last night. Her screen name is Cindi3319 and we had a wonderful conversation about quitting smoking and life in general. She shares similar interests and attitudes that I have. We chatted back and forth until 2am at which time I called it a day. 

I really appreciate your keeping an eye on me. I can fall at any time in this early stage of quitting. Nice to know you are 3 hours behind me, I am up till at least 12am, sometimes later. I do check my email several times all day and love to respond to posts late at night when I am in a writing mood.

I pride myself in the positive energy that I spread around to the world. Be it tis forum, out when I am walking, connecting with old friends on Facebook and of course my loving wife. I have become a purveyor of good energy that God has instilled in me to share with the world.

I will be finishing my kitchen project today. Epoxy clear coat on the counter tops, along with the tile backsplash, the kitchen has taken a new look that will only increase the value of the home if and when we decide to sell.

On to bigger and better things.

You have a wonderful day and as always:

Keep Dancin'

Andrew

How did the kitchen come out?

It will get much less fragile feeling with each day. Quitting will. The rest of life? Likely not. It remains a fragile entity with only one escape that I am not anywhere near ready for. Ahh, so very precious, all of it. 
 

Yes, Cindi is amazing!! I considered her one of the “old timers” when I first quit. This place is incredible really. It was so nice to see her pop on again like many of them often do. Solidarity. Something our culture lacks for sure. It is absolutely tragic that it takes events like 9/11 to unite us. Then how quickly that unity vanishes. So little acceptance and so much need for judgement and control in our culture. I will remain vague on my thoughts in this area and tread lightly as I don’t want it to turn political. I’ve had enough of the LOT of them and would love to see a return to basic humanity for sure. Here, in this space, that exists and for that I am grateful.

Hope your night is lovely! Thank you for your presence Andrew. It is definitely a palpable positive energy!

Hi Cindi!

Im so happy to see you here! Somewhere you wrote and asked how things were in my neck of the woods and now I can’t find that.

Things are good! Life truly is better without smoking. I still note the added time in the day. I think I also still am processing what a veil smoking put over my mind and thoughts and certainly my emotions. These have all been good revelations though. Like relearning some things and coming back to me in many ways. I also realize that there are some things that I never really did learn how to cope with in a healthy way as I started young and the knee jerk response to so many things was to smoke. I remain aware that I am an addict and always vulnerable if I allow myself that “one”. I don’t resent that anymore like earlier in my quit. I embrace it. 
Life is otherwise good too! Sold my house here in Portland in May. New things on the horizon. Im healthy and grateful for that. 
Have been enjoying time on here chatting with folks. Still get in my odd moods when I ramble on about something or other.  Sometimes I think that is still a way of processing not smoking…? 
So good to see you and know you are doing well too! I wIll always be grateful for you “old timers” that were there for me. 

My surgery date is August 9.  Appreciate thoughts and good wishes.

Gayle

Good morning CindiS

Hi Lore,

I'm so glad things are going well for you.  I love being referred to as an "old timer" because I never thought I would have gotten this far and gone this long without smoking.  It still amazes me that I did it.  So glad to see that you are still free from it also!  I am really trying to check in here more often to see where I may be able to lend some support.  Have a great day!

Good morning Andrew,

I hope that this day finds you well and that you are still noping.  We are supposed to have a beautiful weekend here in Ohio so I am hoping to get some yard work done.  

Have a wonderful day and weekend!

I don't know what I'm doing but I will be writing out a post and all of a sudden lose the page and unable to retrieve my text. Pisses me off because I spend so much time composing some of my conversations. 

Oh well, I will continue on with my message to you.

Got up this morning at 6:30. Cup of strong black coffee, morning meds, fire up Utube and listen to fast jazz, dancing in my chair and composing a post to my new Delphi-buddy, CindiS319. 

Getting ready to clear coat epoxy our kitchen countertops. I believe you told me that you have done the same to your countertops. I have taken before pictures and will forward those with the after pictures so you can see what I've done.

It is this and other many other projects that I do to keep me from thinking about cigarettes. I've been rather hyper lately. Maybe because I no longer smoke but I must say that my caffeine consumption has increased greatly. Between the caffeine and nicotine pouches I am sailing through the day at double speed. No matter, at least I no longer smoke.  Week 10 and 1 day I feel I have not felt this good as long as I can remember. 

My commitment to not smoking gets stronger and stronger each day that I wake up and say to myself "good job Andrew, you don't have to start huffing any more cigs to start your day". I really don't miss them but inside I would love to have just one puff. NOPE for me. Thanks, Delphi, for giving me the strength to overcome this thing.  

My next project is to paint our kitchen cabinets. It will be a big job, but I thrive on challenge. Much like quitting my smoking; it is something that I will enjoy till my dying day. 

To all of you that are sincerely trying to quit, set your sights, focus and remember that this is absolutely THE most important thing you will do for yourself in your lifetime. I believe this to be true and so can you. 

Dance to freedom.

Good day (and many more)

Andrew

Well that sounds like a great day so far Andrew!  And congratulations on 10 weeks... that is awesome!  I look forward to seeing the pictures of your counter tops.  I'm sure the cabinets are going to be a big job.  It was pure hell not having a kitchen for 4 days because I spend a majority of my time cooking.  Plus I hung up plastic everywhere to try and conceal the dust from sanding.  I will try and post some pictures later today as they need to be resized because they are too large to post in a message.

And yes, NOPE is no joke.  I have thought about having just one puff but I know that would be the end of it for me and I'd be back up to over a pack a day and would want to kick myself (HARD).  I love that you are getting stronger in your quit... just keep it up and keep busy.

I will check in later.  Have a great day!

Hey Lore, 

I'm happy post that here.  

Hey Gayle, 

As I post that 'Dear John' letter here for you that Lore was talking about, I'll also post a letter to non-smoking friends and family to help them understand also. I hope you find both helpful. 

Lore is terrific and she's also right. The best thing to do is to stay in the moment and keep taking it a day at a time.

Thank you for posting the date. We'll definitely be sending, as Lore said 'a ton of good energy', positive thoughts and best wishes your way. 

Have a great day.  

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