Worry not my friend whereever she is ill bet she happy. I dont believe in a hell or such place for those whom are bad. we are all invested with the same amount of good and bad, its just we are able to balance it out (apparently), sod the great reward or punishment ideal.
Christians have a strange way of looking at things, as you say during a funeral they do not mention anything bad about the person, its only after they condemn them, hipocracy at its best (and worst).
I had a friend who was no angel, he was a nice chap and we were best friends for years, he died when we were 18 of a drug overdose and the funeral was a farcical affair, he was never religious in the slightest but is nan (his guardian) was very religious, so he had the full Christian ceremony.
Gods it was awful, people crying and upset all over the place and some butthole vicar telling the congregation about how great a guy he was, he didnt even know him. we had the premadonnas, the indifferent crowd and like me the real people that REALLY new him.
I had been his best mate since we were kids and there were people there that acted as though they had lost everything, they had only known him for a year.
after the ceramony all they could say was how he had died, how it was bad, casting blame. One enterprising family member even voiced the opinion that he would be going to hell. not a nice affair and that woman got verbally assulted by 12 people for voicing that.
I ramble however, your loss is a sad thing my dear, but look to how she was and all that she was, spare her a thought from time to time like I do for my lost friend. One day you will meet again, of that I have every belief, and youll look back on things and reminisce in whatever comes next and laugh.
Be true to yourself, hold the memory and cry your tears, allow your life to move on.
Life is one great adventure, once this adventures over then the bigger adventure begins.
All is well and go YOUR way in safety too my precious.
PS I hope our friends are saving us a bar seat and have bought the first round when we go to the great whatever... ill be pissed if they havent...... Dan (my friend) never did buy the rounds...