Everywhere we look these days the world is full of anger. All we have to do is plug in each morning and there is a barrage of anger entering our space from whatever technology we choose. Personally, I am tired of it, anger is exhausting and excessive anger does not solve issues.
Professionally, when working with angry clients I always ask them to dig deep, and almost without fail there is something lurking in their past that is still wreaking havoc with their emotional world, to their detriment as well as those around them.
Typically someone who is chronically angry is aware that they are angry but may not know why. There are those who don’t realize that they are chronically angry and engage in road rage, sarcasm, put-downs and scoffing at others or the world in general. Continuously focusing on politics and what is wrong with the world can mask chronic anger as good citizenship.
Anger is not only toxic to the person who is angry but to everyone around them. This anger may begin in childhood and build, a response to helplessness, abuse, being insulted or bullied in some way or maybe even a response to other bad things that occurred like the loss of a parent. Individuals with dysfunctional families or backgrounds are often chronically angry. With no real target or solution to the problem, the anger just comes out everywhere.
When you combine anger with anxiety and fear, you come out with a person who may become a bully themselves. They fear venting their anger where it belongs, and instead take it out on a more vulnerable target. It is not unusual for them to enter every situation expecting the worst or at least a confrontation from someone. They may relish entering into debates as a way to release some of the pent up anger.