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The Eternal Gifting Etiquette Question   Gifts, Wishes and Random Pleas for Help

Started 8/24/19 by April @ MC (April54321); 11768 views.
Di (amina046)

From: Di (amina046)

8/26/19

Hi, sent you an invite and hope to help.

Di

Emily, I’m also just waiting for you to accept my invitation. relaxed

To any of my new friends, please let me know if you need help crafting any pets!!! I LOVE heart_eyes helping new players get their pets!

To add to what April was saying, I also gift back to those who gift me in the order received - as much as possible! And, yes, it is the same core group of (mostly) very old friends, but some wonderful new ones, too. 

I also have to periodically take down my wishlist to catch up, & as I get close, I usually find the friends I still owe gifts are friends I have already gifted that day, or just don’t have a wishlist. That’s when I start gifting to the friends I don’t “owe” gifts. First to the ones who reciprocated to my last gift, then to some I haven’t heard from in a while. Most friends do reciprocate when I eventually put a list back up. 

When I do have a wishlist, I try to keep it easy for newbies OR seasoned players to gift - an airship, a food, a unique stamp to swap- unless I really, really need something in particular. Because of this, & the fact that I have the most wonderful, amazing, generous friends anyone could ever ask for kissing_heart, when I do try to take you up on your very generous offer of Rune Stones, April, I get them from other, wonderful, generous friends (THANK YOU!!!heart) who I’m sure need them as much as I do. So I feel guilty & take it off my wishlist. disappointed_relieved

And last but not least, I currently am in a place where I have many BKQs available, so if anyone is close enough to level 69 to request the Destiny Keys & wants to prepare to get the Exclusive pets, I currently have a small surplus, thanks to the CC wanting so many ZZs. 

LOL, I'm one of THOSE players who gift out but have no wishlist up.  The majority of my friends have been playing as long as I have and really don't need anything.  I can't wrap my head around putting food, airship item or stamp on wishlist only to be gifted food, airship item or stamp.  That's just a wash.  And many, many friends are going after the DQs, or playing the Challenge, so they really need the food and airship items.  I generally don't play either, so I feel it's okay for me to help them in their goals. 

I was really beginning to stress out keeping the lists of gifts, so around New Year's I decided to change things for a while.  That's when I took my wishlist down and just gifted out.  I feel good sending gifts to my friends and there's absolutely no stress because getting a gift from me is a complete surprise.

TLB2 (nvrsdiwsgd)

From: TLB2 (nvrsdiwsgd)

8/26/19

I haven't gotten an accept on my 2 games from Emily. Hope everything is ok. It's been a couple days..

TLB2 (nvrsdiwsgd)

From: TLB2 (nvrsdiwsgd)

8/26/19

I keep airship items on my wish list because most are needing them. I figure it's kind of a trade, and I won't get too low (in my mind it sounds good) I get AS items and send AS items.

I also know how frustrating it is to try to find people with a wish list open!

moonflower61

From: moonflower61

8/27/19

Thank you April for giving me the heads up to check Delphi forum on your wish list about gifting, being new I didn’t know what catchup meant after the players names.Now I know, Thank you. I want to thank all my new friends g for their gifts and or the anniversary rooms. I wasn’t sure if there was a protocol to gifting so I sent everyone a gift that was accepting gifts and I am fine with my other great friends just for letting me use their rooms.With the friends I do gifts with I do every 2 to 3 days which works good for me,if that’s too much I can cut it down to once a week if that’s what most prefer.I also do the postcards. Again I’m fine with friends just letting me use their anniversary room without gifting too. It helps a lot to build up coins. Thank you  April and thank you to all other friends, you’re all wonderful! Moonflower61 / Red Rider

You’re very welcome moonflower. This forum and the wonderful people on here are so lovely and helpful. Jennifer has done a fantastic job creating this forum for us all.

I must admit, gifting was the one thing that worried me most - was I gifting enough, was I gifting the right thing - but I’ve been reassured and reminded that we should all have fun and play the game our way, so I’m comfortable with gifting alphabetically. 

If there is something in particular you are in need of, please don’t be shy to send me a PM or put up a post. 

Cheers, April: ) 

CzoeMC

From: CzoeMC

9/1/19

whitebutterfly54 (redbutter54) said:

there's absolutely no stress

Exactly my point, no stress gifting, no waking up in the middle of the night to send gifts back in the gifting period... no keeping lists anymore about who sent what and when.

Gift etiquette can hardly demean those that just want to be "Santa" occasionally. And it is quite nice when I DO need things for a challenge, my friends are willing to help.

kitiara31576

From: kitiara31576

9/6/19

I agree: it's often better to just buy a gift for 30-60 coins than to give something you actually have.  It's great when high level people have shipping supplies on their list, cuz you always have lots of those.  It's frustrating when a 93-level person only has items I actually need to complete the quests on their list.  If I have even one of them, it doesn't let you buy one so I have to either give them something I actually NEED, or else skip them and not give them anything.  So it's great if I can just buy some weird thing I haven't even gotten to yet for 50 coins and be done with it. 

Of course I also wish I could send out a few more gifts per day so I could catch up on my list.  I'm still two days behind in gifting back to everyone since so many people are sending me gifts, but I do have a full list of every gift I've gotten and am working my way through it.

I'm especially grateful to everyone that sent me pet eggs.  I didn't ask for them to sell them.  I needed them to craft the pets.  I don't have my list in front of me but I was given 5 or 6 of them altogether, which greatly increase the size of my menagerie.  ;)

Hi Kitiara,

I’ve only been playing for about a year, so I still consider myself a bit of a novice; but was lucky enough to find this forum early on, and receive tips and guidance from the wonderful folk here. 

Some of the players at level 93 only have the daily quests to work on between events, so they may need the same items as lower level players. If they are Delphi members you could send them a PM, and maybe work out a strategy that works for both of you.

I read a lot about gifting, the many different approaches and methods people used, and like the game, I’m still evolving. For a year I kept track of who gifted me, and what I sent back, then life got a bit busy, so I started just returning gifts to friends I had received them from, and gifting lower level players with any left over spots. Now I have changed my system again, and gift everyone from A to Z (except some Consortium donations that I do daily). If someone doesn’t have a list up when I reach their name, I just move on to the next one, and hope to catch them in the next cycle. 

One of the best pieces of advice I have received, is to play the game your own way. This applies to gifting too - just do what works for you.

Also, if you have a bit of extra coin, don’t forget about the fortune wheel. They have a pet egg on it every day. I spun the wheel 5 times every day, and got all my pets in under a year (excluding seasonal pets). And it’s so much fun getting all the pets. 

Most of all, have fun however you play (thank you Lady Pirate for reminding me). 

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