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August 2020 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started 12/25/19 by ModDee; 43145 views.
Jatchat

From: Jatchat

9/5/20

I tried to not have any smokes today but I've already had three, tomorrow I will buy 21 mg patches, these 14's are not cutting the cake...The first one might have been because I had a coffee, synergistic effect. the second one because I was tired from looking for a fellow who wants to buy one of my photos, the third one because I'm tired after my 11,500 steps on my walk today. Anyway I'm on my third lozenge now... and writing to you my quit smoking confidante..thanks for your support...

We live in town, by the river but only 1Km from the town centre, the bush as we call it is to the West of us and is only 15 minutes walk away, yes we have our fair share of poisonous snakes and spiders and scorpions, but the closest I have come to a snake bite is when I was bush walking and a black snake and I were on a collision course, I was on a path and he was cutting across the path heading for water I'd say, anyway at the intersection of our meeting he raised himself up to strike, but thankfully I had caught sight of him in the grass, and it stopped me in my tracks and when he threatened I took a step backwards and he was gone as quick as that he disappeared in the long grass, my heart was racing, the thought came to me if I had been bitten, I was miles from anyone, it could have been fatal...

Thanks again

Take care

Kind regards

Anthony

This mornings sunrise

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

9/6/20

Well you're going to keep peddling down the road. Be of good cheer, you're working hard to achieve your goal! I believe in you. I say keep the poisonous stuff down there where you are. I get worried enough about rattlesnakes here. I'm glad you're close to where you can walk. Im no physician, but I feel like it's helped me. Just getting out in the air helps. They say it releases endorphins that make you feel nice. I don't know about that because I'm usually exhausted at the end but I guess it does. You're walking quite a distance! That's good exercise. I love your photo. I'd be too ashamed to show you mine, but I do love taking photographs, just not much of people. Need on flowers, wrought iron fences up close, that sort of thing. I do so enjoy seeing your work because it's like I can hear your exhale while you were taking it. It seems like I'm included in a private moment and I like that idea. Art is a fine way to engage and I would encourage you to keep at it, even if no one ever buys anything. It's a perk, but not why you do it. I do not get up early enough to see sunrise. Unless I'm camping. You are going a great job, Anthony. You're making art, you're exercising, you're quitting...never underestimate how amazing that is. It's important to remember all the things that make you amazing. Everyone has things that they do that are awe inspiring. You just have to look close with a steady eye to see how impressive people are. Don't quit quitting!

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

9/8/20

Thanks tiny, yes people are amazing, I am constantly impressed about how a diversity of personality's take on the world and win.. look at Nelson Mandela, and Martin Luther King, Ghandi and all the rest, My humble contribution is just a pee in the ocean really, there are many fine photographers out there, but it's more than that It's focusing on what is beautiful in life capture it and treasure it and if it has meaning for you that's great.

I have started on the 21 mg patch this morning and so far all is well, 14 hours, 16 minutes and 13 seconds. 18 cigarettes not smoked, saving $22.99. Life saved: 1 hour, 30 minutes.

Just like to take a moment to commend you for your quit , I don't know how far in you are but well done

I saw my quit smoking counselor yesterday and she remonstrated with me about what I was doing to my body by smoking, so I have taken note and have been meditating on the harmful effects of smoking.

Went for my walk this morning, a swim and did some exercises, thats enough activity for the day, I just raked over the garden and sipped half a glass of nice Shiraz grown in the Claire Valley South Australia.

Already for tea now and an early  night.

Take care Tiny

Kind regards

Anthony

Yesterdays sunrise from Grey's Beach

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

9/8/20

I don't think your contribution is pee in the ocean. I think we all make a monumental difference in the world, we just don't know it. You may have made changes that you don't even know about. The world is mysterious and confusing, but in the end, things unfold just as they should. I'm glad you're back on the biggest patch because I think it's the most helpful one, especially because of your wife still smoking. That has got to be incredibly hard. Everyone always preaches about lung cancer but smoking does a whole lot more. It's pretty scary when you start reading about it. I didn't know there were counselors for quitting smoking. Man, that would've helped me out a long time ago. Use the crap out of them. Heck, use anything you can to get off this stuff. It's a dangerous addiction. I hope you enjoyed your tea and had a nice rest because today is a new day, filled with potential! You've got this, mister, just keep trying. I'm NEVER giving up on you, because I know you won't give up on yourself either. Nice photo, I love the suns reflection on the water. Keep going, my friend. Keep strong!

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

9/10/20

Hi Tiny, sorry for the delay in getting back to you, never mind, life has been a bit hectic the last few days, and I have continued to smoke , cut down from 5 to 3 now just had one try and make it my last. I have just read  Dee's story in September forum, More courage to face the demon is what I need, the demon being the evil weed, O my Lord what is to come of me, I know I will become a corpse sooner than later if I keep on smoking.

Thank you for  your uplifting post, I will try to justify your faith in me and put the brakes on smoking

Kind regards

Anthony

A grey dawn yesterday

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

9/10/20

Don't feel discouraged. Everybody struggles. You've cut back, and that is great! Keep reading because you're going to get more courage. You're right, this is a demon weed and it takes a toll on your health. Maybe reflect on when you have slipped and see what factors were involved. Is it your proximity to your wife smoking? First thing in the morning? You could then come up a list of what you will do instead of smoking. Like when I wake up in the morning and want to smoke, I will...after a meal when I want to smoke, I will... Is your wife supportive of you even though she isn't ready? She could be a big help to you. I have been sucking on sugar free Werther's candy and while it isn't great it's not terrible and it's getting me through. Does mouth stimulation help? Like straws and such? Man, I can eat myself silly when I quit but I'm trying hard not to. I had a whole pint of Ben and Jerry's the other night. More calories than you are supposed to have in a day right there. But I'm trying and I'm giving myself some leeway to be crabby or hungry or feel weak. You should give yourself permission, too. It sounds like you are harder on yourself than we are! Everyone here knows the struggle is real. You can do whatever you want to do, whenever you want. Give yourself permission to succeed and struggle and maybe even slip. You are human and so are we so promise not to get too discouraged. It's ok, it will be ok. Just keep trying and learning and growing. We've got your back.

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

9/10/20

I can't believe it now but I smoked four this morning, I went out for the dawn photo shoot, came back and smoked my fourth for the morning, I got real angry with myself and went for my walk to cool off, Anyway I have not smoked since, I am convinced it takes courage to quit, how else do those cold turkey quitters do it? Anyway I got back from my walk and went down to the pool with a mate and splashed around for a bit, I am going to work on distraction and diversion to combat the urges plus the lozenge. I am counting my calories as well as exercising. I am at risk of Diabetes, because of my medication I was also at risk of metabolic syndrome but my quit smoking counselor rang me on Wednesday and said that my BMI was now under 30 and that I was no longer at risk, Yahoo! I needed some good news. Another health coach said in relation to my goals if one goal is failing, or to put it in his words if you get a puncture in one tyre you don't go around and slash the the other three tyres referring to a three week spells where I abandoned all my goals. Good advice I remember that.

Congratulations on going without the lozenges, great does that mean your off all meds now?

When I got home from swimming my wife was smoking so I put the jug on and made myself a peanut butter sandwich thats how I got through that trigger, my main trigger points are in the early morning and late at night, so I have to weather those situations.

Any way thats enough from me I hope you have had a good day free of cravings and that you remain smoke free Tiny

Kind regards

Anthony

TinyBadger

From: TinyBadger

9/11/20

It's true, I haven't had any nicotine at all in almost a week. I've been thinking about smoking in the afternoon, not sure why. I didn't smoke at work but for some reason 230 hits and it's time to smoke. Super weird. I'm super glad your bmi went down. My husband is tall and by no means overweight looking but the bmi calls him overweight. It's great that you are coming forward to make healthy changes in your life. Your coach sounds smart- definitely don't slash all your tires! My nutritionist heard me whining one day about making healthy decisions is hard when you just want your darn ice cream, and she said you have to flex your mental muscles. She said I can say that making healthy choices is hard, BUT I'm learning and figuring it out. Healthy choices are hard BUT I'm determined and committed to my health. That sort of thing. She says that in all parts of your life you have to do this. I've been trying my best to be that way, but man it's hard sometimes. I think that quitting does require courage but I think it also requires commitment. To say to yourself  that you don't want to smoke anymore and you am committed to quitting because you will do anything and everything (that is moral and legal, of course) to not smoke. It had to get to that point for me, where I knew that no matter what, I was not smoking again. I would quit every day, smoke and then quit the next day. What a world. I just couldn't do that anymore. I was tired of doing it over and over and I was going to get charged more for my employer s health insurance. I'm a cheapskate, so, you know...I just cannot smoke anymore. I can't. I refuse to die with a cigarette in my hand and I don't want to ever quit again. Starting over sucks. You start the withdrawals and cravings all over again. It hurts, physically and mentally. I think the worst part about restarting is the feeling that you've failed. Eventually, I would get so depressed about the whole thing that I would half-heartedly try or not at all. I did that for years. But this year I can't take it anymore, I just can't restart again. You can do this, I know you can. Pick a quit date, don't be shy, you can do it whenever, no pressure. Then write down a mantra about being committed or determined. You'll be saying this mantra a lot so don't make it too long. Now commit this thing to memory because every time you want to smoke you'll be repeating this again and again. Maybe even out loud. You could also pick a quote or a religious verse that inspires you. Now prepare. You know the drill, use all the tricks we've ingrained in you. Now, your wife seems to not be helping things. It's not her fault, she's just not ready, but having her really close by could be tempting. You'll need to develop a battle plan in regards to being near her. Leave the room or the patio of she's smoking, don't even watch her, that sort of thing. Let me know how this goes. If all you do is smell her, then you won't want to smoke because it's so stinky. Smokers are creatures of habit and if she always smokes after dinner, anticipate that and do the dishes so you won't see her smoke. Or take a walk or what have you. Plan ahead so that the urge to smoke rarely catches you off guard. Be persistent and strong. I believe in you, and I won't stop. 

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

9/12/20

I smoked like a demon this morning but your post pulled me up, it made so much sense, the smoking started last night, I cleared out the bookshelves of all the books that were here for historical reasons only and put them in containers in the shed, this freed some room for  books that I had double stacked, I was energised by the nicotine, then this morning I did some more cleaning out, and then got stuck into the car cleaning it inside and out, and then I stopped and thought about your post and in it was the missing link the word commitment, that was the word that was missing from my actions, so armed with this I march on, thank you Tiny, another word is like it perseverance which is what I have to maintain, thank you thank you thank you Tiny

Early days yet ,but 7 hours, 3 minutes and 17 seconds. 9 cigarettes not smoked, saving $11.36. Life saved: 45 minutes.

Kind regards

Anthony

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

9/12/20

Wow Tiny.

What a powerful and insightful testament to the process. Thank you for your time writing this out. I believe there is knowledge and power here for all of us and I found a good amount of validation with it. You are such a force here for all of us.

Yes. Commitment. 

The last few days have tried my patience and calmness with myself. I know that missing my walks is a huge part missing right now. There have been moments where I’ve ranted and whined for sure. I also know I’m sensitive to begin with and things around me have increased what feels like vulnerability. I don’t like it. But...I am committed to this. In the DBT world there is a thing known as “two things can be true at the same time”. If anything, this quit has reinforced that concept for me. In a specific moment, I want to smoke. AND...I am committed to not doing so. 
Thank you Tiny for this. Today it helps me resolve to my commitment. 
Anthony I like how you recognize the missing piece...

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