I was a teacher for thirty eight years; you can help weak students to achieve if they are willing, but you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.

Then you should know. 

"With all due respect, they didn't move to the US because she needed protection; Harry isn't stupid, why would he think she was in danger.  All she had to do was conform with what she very well knew what was expected of her - if you take the title and the privileges and the money you have to take the less pleasant side of it."

That's the point, Meghan had no intention of conforming to what was expected of her. She wanted all the perks, and the title that she could use to open doors that never would have been open to her as a B-list actress, doors that she would not have been able to walk through if she had remained a working member of the Royal family. In order to get what she wanted, and to be able to do what she wanted she had to get Prince Harry to leave his family, and the life of a working Royal.

From all accounts, the British tabloids were not particularly kind where Meghan was concerned, so it would not have been very difficult for her to be very upset, tearful, anxious, perhaps a bit afraid, and somewhat depressed about it all in private with her husband, when she also may have pleaded for a "normal, private" life.  She well knew his feelings, fears where the media, tabloid reporters, photographers, etc. were concerned, due largely to the sudden death of Diana. All she had to do was play on it all, and apparently that is what she did. Why would Prince Harry think she was in danger? He said it all himself when he made the decision to leave public. He said there was no other option, and he feared a repeat of the past, a reference to the death of Diana. 

It has become fairly apparent that Meghan wanted to be able to do what she wanted, to be able to begin to form some kind of financial empire to fund her lifestyle, and to be the main focus of all of it. One does not hire a PR team to report on what one is doing, or set up photo shoots to announce a pregnancy if one really wants privacy. Now here Meghan is once again putting herself in the spotlight, and playing the victim. She has said not only that she wishes she could be there to support Prince Harry, but that she is willing to forgive, and move forward.  She very publicly makes nasty allegations about the Royal family, how she was treated, etc. and SHE is willing to forgive?, SHE was victimized? 

A few of Meghans friends have said she is calculating. Reading the many articles about her, as well as the books, "Harry, and Meghan in their Own Words", and "Finding Freedom", but not taking any one thing as absolute truth, or focusing on only a few things, instead looking at it all the picture of a strong, willful, independent woman, but also a VERY selfish, self-centered, manipulative one emerges. 

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/meghan-markle-is-reportedly-willing-to-forgive-and-move-forward-with-the-royals/ar-BB1fCk5y?ocid=msedgntp
https://www.msn.com/en-us/entertainment/entertainment-celebrity/meghan-markle-wishes-she-could-attend-prince-philip-s-funeral-despite-royal-family-tension/ar-BB1fCpXB?ocid=msedgntp

She didn’t return for Prince Philip’s funeral in spite of her assertions that she is very close to the Queen.  That is an excellent analysis of what she wants and is getting.  

It's  interesting that she was about this far along in her pregnancy with Archie, yet she had no problem flying from England to New York for a lavish baby shower, however, considering the allegations she made about the Royal family, it's probably a good thing she didn't go, Honestly I can't imagine they'd really want her there after all that.  Of course she has also said she didn't want to be the center of attention. How arrogant is that?

Why would she expect to be the center of attention at her grandfather in law’s memorial?  It’s not about her.  Her behavior is sad.

It is sad.  She isn't really happy if she is not the center of attention which could be another reason she wanted to leave the Royal family. Since Prince Harry does not yet have real connections here as far as friends, etc. she would tend to be the center of his attention. Have you noticed that when there's an article about some charity work she's doing, the article tends to be more about her than whatever charity she's supposed to be promoting?

Just occurred to me that another reason she may feel she'd be the center of attention if she were to attend Prince Phillips funeral could be that she has, and does play the victim so she may feel, or better yet, expect that if she was there the family members would be all over themselves trying to make her feel welcome, and to make up for the hurt, grief, and anxiety they supposedly caused her. 

I didn’t notice that before the wedding but yes, recently every article is about her, and not even about Harry.  She seems to forget, he’s the prince and the one who interests the world.  

Maybe that is why she won’t attend.  She knows the media will be all over her because she has become the big story.