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Smoke Free Warriors 2018   Quit Buddies Unite

Started 7/31/18 by slowblumer; 200037 views.

Thank you Arl. Yes 2 years quit...Love it. I remember 6-12 months into my quit, Nicodemon was still hanging around and show up at stressful time and I enjoyed kicking his Butt good. The nerve of him. He does not give up or let us go easily. He is very weak and quiet around me now but he is still around. This pandemic has not helped things. It is SO difficult to cope with alone. I live alone except for two small dogs. They took some effort before and more now since everything concerning them has changed also. Grooming and even Vet visits were/are problems now. At least the grooming and vets are open now...my Vet still does not let peeps inside the waiting room. We have to stay outside in car and call Vet when we get there. They treat dogs in car or take them inside if required. There was even a lady from Tenn at my Vet the last time I took my dog for yearly shots trying to get treatment for her dog (I live in VA and Tenn is at least 4 hrs away!!). This was in May. So much stress from the pandemic. 

Be ready to kick and punch Nicodemon whenever he is around. Keep your armor on at all times and FIGHT! I got your back. Enjoy kicking his butt.

Gloria

Freedom since July 2018...How Sweet it is!!sunflower

JR,

Always happy to hear from you. Yes we are still fighting. And I now wonder how long will we keep having smoking thoughts and dreams though infrequently. I know stress is a BIG trigger for me and I still have occasional smoking thoughts, more during this pandemic. My body and mind remembers that I smoked for 42 years during periods of stress. And it is NOT urges, just thoughts of smoking. This pandemic has me stressed out and almost crazy. Taking care of Dad 14 hr days, arguing with siblings about his care, my bank closing (taken over by another bank) this month, 3 people in my small community who died this month, being so isolated with not much social contact. I cannot even hug my Father as I am trying to keep him safe. And watching a police officer ENJOY pressing his knee on a man's neck and watch him suffer and die did not help things one bit. I was appalled and saddened to see that. Trying not to go back on anti-depressant meds. I have become more emotional since stopping smoking. When I get back to the Dr, I may ask him for something as I feel such a high level of stress and emotion. I will never smoke again however. I would love to go bowling or to a movie. Did not even get to enjoy the NCAA Basketball Tourney that I look forward to each year. We got March Madness alright. March Sadness this year for so many. I did participate in a Zoom graduation party for my nephew who graduated from NC State. I will be going to his pandemic wedding on Sept 5th...I will only attend since it will be OUTSIDE on a farm in a field. And we all have to wear masks. No reception until 2022. I remain apprehensive about attending but hate NOT to attend my nephew's wedding. They did not want to wait until the pandemic was over to get married. But I guess the pandemic made them want to get married if you got to be isolated and alone. They did not get to finish out their senior year college normally and no college graduation. I totally understand that. They want to get married instead of just live together...I admire and treasure that about them as well. Thought this virus was gonna go away this summer like the experts predicted but it is hanging around and worse than ever. Just doing everything I can to mitigate this darn Coronavirus. Will life ever get back to normal??? Or is this our new world order??

Glad you taking care of yourself.

Gloria

Freedom since July 2018...How Sweet it is!!sunflower

Molly010

From: Molly010

Aug-1

Hey Gloria,

I have been trying to send you a direct message, but it doesn't go through for some reason.  Will have to check my account.  Let me know if you received anything from me in the meantime.  

Molly,

Thanks for your message to me. I was THRILLED to hear from you (as usual)...it has been awhile since we messaged. BIG Congrats on your 2nd anniversary of quitting. We Did it...made it 2 years!!! It is wonderful and I am still Thankful for not smoking after 42 years and not having to smoke during this pandemic. So sorry to hear of your friends hubby dying from Covid. I live in rural southwestern VA that did not have many cases initially. This is God's (and Trump!) country filled with rednecks with guns but most will not wear a mask. Our Doctor Governor made a mask mandate in May and they really protested wearing masks then. I know 3 people in my county who died of Covid in July. Schools were scheduled to open here on Aug 10 but they decided last week to remain with virtual learning due to the spike in cases. (Schools were gonna close anyway as soon as a case hit the school. And one kid per seat on buses would not have worked as it would take at least 3 buses to cover one route at that rate.) And some areas do not have internet or wifi. This is still a mess here...probably need to go the old school route of paper homework. 

I am still sitting with Dad 2 days per week/14 hour days. He will be 92 in Oct. Still almost fighting with siblings over his care but I decided in July that I will no longer meet or complain with siblings about his care. I will bathe him, (learn to) shave him and take care of him on the days I am with him. I am getting stressed out with the pandemic, my bank closing in July, and being isolated with no social contact with others. I still have my 2 sweet doggies that it is not easy to get care for during the pandemic. At least I have toilet paper now. My nephew is getting married Sept 5th...and the only reason I feel ok to attend is because it will be outside in a field and everyone will be social distanced and wearing masks outside as well. Just a small gathering with close family & their closest friends. Life and Love goes on during the pandemic. My nephew missed out on his college graduation due to the virus so now he wants to get married as this pandemic may be around awhile. 

Hope you and your SO & doggies are doing well. I read that you were working from home. How is that going? I would love to go bowling or go to a movie to get out of the house sometime. I would love to visit my bff and go out to eat and shop. I miss that so much!! My bff and I go together on my birthday Jun 29...we went out to eat and shop a little. I felt ok at that big restaurant as not many people there and nobody sitting near us. It is so hard for me to take my mask off inside. I feel so vulnerable. I signed up for a Covid vaccine trial and hope I get selected to participate. 

Hope you are staying safe in Cali. I was finally gonna get to Vegas in April that I wanted to do for retirement and to celebrate quitting smoking. Had 3 peeps lined up so I know at least one would go for sure. The pandemic hit in March right before I was making final plans and buy the plan ticket. So that is still on hold AGAIN. Hard to accept this New World Order and it may be here to stay? I look at clips from concerts and sporting events with crowds of people even from last year and wonder if we will ever get back to events like those again! Even kids going to school and college...when will that happen again?

Who would have thought Aug 2018 when we were on a rollercoaster ride and freaking out trying to stay quit would be the Good ol' days??!! I could do what I needed to do to fight Nicodemon (We kicked his Butt!!stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye). But 'Rona is a more wicked demon than Nic. I don't even hug my Dad anymore. I am trying DESPERATELY to stay safe for him. I wore masks as soon as the CDC say to wear them. Wish the folks would wear a mask in addition to keeping their guns handy. I would not be seen in public without a mask. And I don't want anyone in 6 feet of me (my new comfort zone). No more nightmares about smoking...now nightmares about being surrounded by a large crowd without a mask. It wakes me up when I dream this. 

Wonderful hearing from you. Keep your armor on.

Gloria

Freedom since July 2018...How Sweet it is!!sunflower

Molly,

Sent you 2 pms. Did you get them? You have to use MissDogs2020 as my 'Dogs2018 is a closed acct. Hope that works for you. I am spending more time on here again. I saw that some of my best buddies were on here in May. Happy to hear from you again.

Gloria

Freedom since July 2018...How Sweet it is!!sunflower

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Aug-1

Molly,

Congratulations on your two year anniversary today. We are so blessed to have you in our group. As I always say....celebrate this milestone in a big way. 
I am glad to hear people in your area are following guidelines. I live in East Tennessee (Republican country) where hard headed folks think no one should tell them what to do and our COVID rates are reflecting that with increases in leaps and bounds. It embarrasses me how people in this area are willing to risk other peoples lives just to make a political statement. I would like to say to the folks in my area that aren’t wearing masks that if Big Pharma ever creates a pill to cure stupid, they should be first in line for one. 

I usually say if they ever do create a pill for stupid it will be the only drug that outsells viagra. Lol

Anyway, back to your anniversary day...isn’t it great to be so far away from those first weeks of our quit when the minutes and hours were such a struggle? I have an old friend who is trying to quit today. She is having her right kidney removed on the 10th due to cancer. My mind goes back to when we were at day one and then week one. I am thankful that we have made it a long way down the yellow brick road from where we started. 
Hope you are having a really good weekend.

CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Aug-3

Hi Gloria and CONGRATULATIONS on 2 YEARS!!!!

That is SO WONDERFUL!  That summer of 2018 is totally a blur for me but your posts always helped keep me going!  I am so glad we are all still here 2 years later, although it may not be as often.  I try to help the new folks when I can but I think I pushed all those horrible thoughts from the first year out of my mind.  The days were so slow and felt like FOREVER.... but we were all there cheering each other on and I believe that was an incredible help.  I know you helped me put my "game face" and armor on.  So big congrats to you!!!!

CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Aug-3

Hi Molly and CONGRATULATIONS on 2 years to you!!!

Like I just wrote to Gloria, that Summer of 2018 was a total blur to me.  I think I just did whatever I could to make it through each day without smoking.  I get an occasional whim now and then when something triggers me.  Usually something stupid or I'm just bored.  But I'm just so far away from it now (even with my husband still smoking) that I can't even imagine lighting up.  One day in the car I was pretty upset with something and said "gimme a cigarette" and he did and I held it for about 10 seconds and passed it back ... "no thanks".  Funny how long these feeling stay with us but they're really just a passing thought and definitely no where near a crave.  But here we all are 2 years later still smoke free!  I'm really happy for all of us.  Especially during these crazy crazy times.  I'm sorry to hear about your friend's husband.  That's just awful.

Well happy to see everyone still hanging around the forum now and then and sending big hugs!

Hi Cindi,

Great to hear from you. Late Congrats on your 2 years smoke-free also. The March 2018 Warriors were a wonderful group and support for us July Warriors and others. You guys helped & supported us SO much and gave us Hope to get thru withdrawal and trying to not smoke each day. Glad I kept a journal of my freedom ride as I can look back and see exactly what I/we were going thru. Hell week, then Heck week...I was actually in a fog for 2 weeks and unable to sleep (not at bedtime and at night). I went CT and the heart palpitations, sweating and withdrawal were REAL and most difficult to deal with the first 3 days: AWFUL. I thought I was gonna die. This could have been alleviated by smoking a cig but I had a made-up mind and I REFUSED to give in. I could make it all day without smoking and when I (tried) to go to bed, my body refused to let me sleep without my nicotine fix. It DEMANDED a cig or NO sleep tonight. This went on the first 2 weeks. Since I was retired and no major obligations, I enjoyed watching movies all night and took naps during the day. It would have been SO easy to just go back to smoking. But I REFUSED to give in. I decided and knew I would NEVER smoke again. I am kinda stubborn and determined when I want something. I knew I was not gonna die from nicotine withdrawal and just had to POWER thru. I was hanging on that rollercoaster ride for dear life. You guys from the March Warriors were such great mentors and supporters and encouraged us thru the darkness...just when we needed it most. Glad you guys were there to let us know what was up the road ahead. Glad we were on this journey together.

I hated that once folks made it to the Promised Land (the CLUBHOUSE!!), they went silent. Smoking was no longer an issue and most folks left. We did not need the support and did not have the same level of commitment to fighting Nic...he became and afterthought. I truly missed my online world friends and had to find something else to put my energy in.

So Happy & Glad to hear from you. Who would have thought Summer 2018 would be the Good ol' days when we were just trying to get thru a full day without smoking??!! We still have our armor on but we are not fighting like we were then. I am trying to stay safe from Covid now. And this month I made a commitment to not patronize stores/businesses that refuse to enforce the mask policies mandated by our Governor and even their own business. I am sick and tired of Covid and trying to keep my 91 Y O father safe. I take care of him 2 days per week. Wish I could kick Covid butt like we did Nicodemon. Working on it though...

So thankful to not be a smoker during this time. My Quit muscles and armor still work. 

Take Care and stay safe.

Gloria

Freedom since July 2018...How Sweet it is!!sunflower

CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Aug-3

Hi Gloria and thank you for responding back.  Yes I really try and forget those days because they were horrible.  I guess I get frustrated at trying to tell people that it will get better, just because it is SUCH A LONG JOURNEY.  I am so grateful for our mods, friends and people that pushed us on.  I had many quits before this one so I for sure cannot blame them for giving in.  It is really hard and it definitely a mindset that you have to change.  I'm really happy for us that we made it to this point and I know anyone of us could go back in an instant.  It's a choice and not an easy one.  We can romanticize the whole 30/40 years but it's a bunch of BS.  It's an addiction and until I realized that, I had no chance.  Saying prayers for your dad during this difficult time and I am confident you will keep him safe.

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