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Smoke Free Warriors 2018   Quit Buddies Unite

Started 7/31/18 by slowblumer; 277259 views.
JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-10

Gloria and Lori,

I know you are both hitting your three year anniversary this month and just wanted to say congratulations to you both on your milestones.

I had not been on the forum for a few months and decided to kind of touch base again and start reading some posts again a couple of weeks ago.

Hope you are both doing well and hanging in with your quits. 
 

It’s been a very dry summer in TN and my yard is crunchy and brown. I have given up on the flowers in my yard this year.  It’s either give up or water them twice a day to keep them going so I decided to hope for a better growing season next year. Have had some health problems this year mostly staying tired a lot so I haven’t been working on any quilts this summer. Also gave away most of my soap making stuff to a good buddy of mine who has gone in to business selling soap. 
Gloria, when the hot part of summer gets here I always think of your peach ice cream. Aldi’s grocery here in my town sells peach ice cream during the summer and it is right tasty but I’m sure it isn’t near as good as home made.

I hope you got the card I sent. Was so sorry to read that your dad had passed. 

Lori, not sure if you still get notifications from the forum or not but just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. Hope your quit is still going strong.

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lori1531

From: lori1531

Jul-12

Hi JR and Gloria! 
 

Its so nice to hear from you! I think about y’all often! Hope you are doing well. It’s so hard to believe that it’s been 3 years!

Just the other day, I was talking to a lady that I bike ride with in a group. When the group stops, she will have a smoke. I’ve wanted to share my quit story with her for a while, but there hasn’t been a natural opening. I don’t want to be preachy. I then remembered that most smokers want to quit. I told her about the tools that I used- nicotine patches and Wellbutrin, but I didn’t get around to the most important tool I had- you and this forum!  You guys were absolutely the difference between falling off the wagon and success. I’m still so thankful. I think I will send her a text and mention this forum. Maybe when she is ready to quit, she will check it out. 
 

I’ve been very busy making drapes and other things. Happy to have an income during covid for sure! What was life like for y’all during covid. How is it now? 
 

I have to get to work right now but would love to hear from you both again!  
 

Lori 

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-13

Lori,

Wow, it is so good to hear from you! I think about you, Gloria, Molly and Dave really often.  I think Gloria had to change her name to Missdogs2020 when she signed back up on the forum.  I could be wrong about that but I think it won't let you sign up again on a name you have used before. You may have to CC her as Missdogs2020 now.  Gloria, if you get this post...is that right?

Glad to hear first and foremost that you are hanging strong in your quit.  Isn't that the greatest thing?  It is so hard to believe we have made it to the 3 year mark after the first three months seemed so hard. Also glad to hear your business has been going strong through the pandemic.  It has been rough on a lot of small businesses.  I've been blessed in that the company I work for makes the plastics that IV bags and tubing are made from so we continued to run beyond full capacity through all of this and none of us lost any income.  I really do understand just what a blessing that is because I know a lot of folks who lost their entire income last year when everything shut down.  Hope your family made it through the pandemic without getting Covid.  I have had some family members who have had it.  One of my cousins died from it after her family had a big Christmas get together in December without wearing masks.  She started getting sick the day after Christmas and was admitted to the hospital and died about 4 weeks later. 

I haven't heard from our old quit buddy Dave072118 in a while.  I ordered several of the pottery pieces he had made in the last part of 2020. All of the pieces were beautiful and I use at least one piece or more every day.  I did talk to him some by phone and had to laugh because I think he had a hard time understanding my hillbilly dialect.  I'm not sure how he is doing with his quit but when I try to type his name in the CC box it doesn't come up, so he may not use the forum any longer.

Gloria is coming up on her 3 year anniversary on the 30th I think  and then Molly is coming up on hers Aug. 1st. It was really sad to read that Gloria had lost her Dad in April.  

So, back to the smoking- has your husband also stayed quit?  If you both have stayed quit all this time that is one great success story.  I was posting in another room recently about when I sometimes pull up beside someone stopped at a traffic light who is practically "making love" to their cigarette.  For just a fleeting half second I think it looks good and then I start thinking I'm so thankful not to "NEED" to do that anymore.  

Honestly, I wasn't sure I would ever get over the addiction but it seems like I am over it.  Being around my friends who smoke doesn't bother me but it also doesn't tempt me at all.  I just don't desire nicotine anymore.  But some people quit for several years and then go back to smoking and I realize I can't let my guard down completely about it.  

Been following the "Sensational Seniors" group for quite some time now.  There are three of them I think that post to each other almost daily.  That absolutely amazes me that they stay in contact like that.  I don't know when their quit year was - guess I could go back to their first post to see, hadn't thought about that.LOL But I really admire that they continue to keep in contact almost daily and I have enjoyed getting to know them through their posts even though I have never posted to any of them.  

Hoping to hear from Molly as her 3 year anniversary approaches.  I don't see the Mods posting on here at all anymore other that at the first of the month.  Really miss hearing from ModAndrea.  She was so instrumental in keeping me in the quit mode for the first year.  

OK...gotta tell you this, I found out TN had come out with a Dolly Parton tag for vehicles.  It's from her Imagination Library program.  Saw one on a car at Walmart one day and just HAD to have one but they were out of all of them.  Said the tornado that went through Nashville leveled the building that was making them.  So I called back every week for almost three months before they finally got some back in.  Now I have Dolly on my tag! LOL It really is a good picture of her.  The thing is....I'm not great about keeping my car washed so I guess my tag will be "Dirty Dolly" most of the time.  LOL

Anyway, again, I am so glad to hear from you.  Keep hanging in there with the quit and please post some from time to time.  We are definitely heading to the 5 year mark and it will be here faster than we realize now. 

Take care,

lori1531

From: lori1531

Jul-14

JR, 

Hello! It was so nice to get such a nice, long message! 
First of all, Sensational Seniors have been posting since 2015! That’s amazing! It just goes to show you that you can make connections and lifelong friends anywhere. Wonder if those people have ever met up in real life? 
Glad you survived covid. So sorry to hear about your cousin. That’s a tragedy. Our entire family only met outside for get togethers. For Christmas Day we were all sitting outside, freezing in the cold around a campfire. Didn’t go in my parents house for over a year. They are in their 80s so they took extra precautions. No hugs for over a year!


Cleve and I both got covid last Nov. I was so surprised! We both were so careful. I rarely left the house and he only went to work in a small office and wore masks everywhere. It was so contagious though… we could have picked it up anywhere. It first crossed my mind when we were at a friends house on his back deck. Someone was smoking a cigar. Cleve couldn’t smell it. We both looked at each other and said, “uh oh”.  The next morning I felt some cold symptoms. I got tested that day. I was in bed for a week and felt lousy for two weeks. Terrible headache, head cold symptoms, dry cough and horrible body aches. I haven’t felt so bad in years. I was fortunate though! It could have been much worse. It never got into my chest. I worried that it would be worse, since I had smoked. Cleve only felt bad for a few days. He was blowing off the roof on day 3. 

I guess the closest person to me that died was my sister in laws father. During covid, he continued to meet his buddies for breakfast. He died a terrible, horrible death in the hospital, alone. So sad. 
 

Yes, my husband, Cleve, has stayed quit with me! It’s a miracle! Lol. We started bike riding in the spring after we quit. It has become something major for both of us! We both rode around 50 plus miles a week. He tends to ride more. We’ve made great friends and ride and socialize with those friends. We’ve also taken several bike trips out of town with them. It’s something we never could have done as smokers. 
 

Only occasionally I will think about smoking. It’s usually if sit out on the deck in my smoking spot. It’s just a passing thought though. No danger of starting again. I think we all talked to much about the dangers of having just one. I will never, ever have a puff. I have a few cycling buddies that vape. They are just as addicted as we were as smokers. They just get their nicotine a different way. As I mentioned before, there’s a lady that smokes on one of the rides that I go on. I can so relate to her. She has to stand far away from us at times to smoke. If we stop to get a drink or food inside somewhere, she usually stays outside. Other than mention the other day that I used to be a smoker, I’ve not talked much to her about it. Like us for so many years, she has no choice but to smoke. 
 

Since your message the other day, I’ve read a little in the July quitters group. I saw a few familiar faces! Anthony and Overdoz. I thought about jumping in and chatting with them. I’ll have to get back into that mindset again! I’ve kind of forgotten all of the tricks and tools that we used daily to stay quit. 
 

I was so sorry to hear about Glorias dad. Hope to hear from her soon. We need each other’s email addresses to touch base in case we drop off in this forum. 
 

talk to you soon! 
Lori 

BMann (bmann018)

From: BMann (bmann018)

Jul-14

I received and email from Denim and it prodded me to think of you all as well. We don't stay in touch often as life rolls on, but I do like knowing you all are well and loving a smoke free life.

Nothing to update really. I am retired and play a lot of golf. I have gotten into smoking foods and baking a lot as well. Yum. Glad that most of the folks around me are vaccinated, so we can commune again with children and friends. We are planning to hit Las Vegas this fall, then have arranged to spend Christmas in Reykjavik, Iceland. Should be a hoot as I understand Reykjavik is the Christmas capital of the world when it comes to celebrations, atmosphere, etc. Hope so, cuz it will be dark most of the time around Christmas. We also just bought kayaks and hope to spend more time on the rivers.

I would love to hear back from you all, if only a note to affirm you are well. I hope you are all getting back to some kind of normal and summer life is easy.

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BMann (bmann018)

From: BMann (bmann018)

Jul-14

Hi Gloria,

I know I am very late here, but was sorry to read your post. I hope you and your family are holding up and summer life is easing your grief. Time marches on, but never makes it simple.

Nothing else to report, but hope you are well and finding your normal after all this botherment. Stay strong and be well.

Rassister

From: Rassister

Jul-14

Hi Brian and Denim,  

It was nice to hear from you Brian.  I am cc email to Denim.  Could one of you please forward on to cyndi as well?   I have not been on the forum for so long.  I did see a post from Gloria.  I think that I did reply.  I , like you do not think of those smokes anymore.  I’m happy to hear that you have retired and are taking up some new outlets in your free time.   I am so excited that you will be going to Iceland.  I have some friends who went there and said it was amazing!   I don’t know if they went when it was dark!   Hi To Denim.  I hope you are doing ok and enjoying some good times this summer!  I know it has been sooo long since I have reached out to others.  It is embarrassing and I apologize.   It appears to me that every time I think that things are improving and things will get easier, another surprise pops up to send me down a different path!   I resigned from my job in May2021.   I did make it to the last day!   In June, my lease ran out and I moved to Maryland to live with my son and his family until I could get my act together.   I was there for five days and am now in New Jersey living with my brother  and sister in law who are both 79.  He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer and my sister in law has Alzheimer’s.   It is quite a mess but the good news is that so far my brother is doing well with his treatments.  He will have surgery in late August or early September.  My niece will come here and relieve me in August.  I need to establish residency in MD ( get license, find doctors and hug my grandkids) before I return  in September.  I can’t imagine what I would do if I was still smoking!!!!!  So nice to hear from my non smoking buddies on this forum.   Enjoy the rest of your summer and your trip to Iceland!   
  

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CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Jul-14

Hi all!!!  Good to hear from you for sure!!!  I feel bad not getting on here as much too, Marilyn.  Life keeps getting in the way.  Brian, I am so jealous of your trip to Iceland.  That sounds so amazing and beautiful.  You are going to have to post some pictures when you get back for sure.  Glad you're enjoying your retirement and golfing too.  Marilyn, I understand about thinking things will get better and another challenge pops up.  Hopefully things will settle for you soon.  Wow so much has changed for you in the last 3 years...it's crazy!  Denim, hope all is going well with you and hope to hear from you soon!

As for me, life has been super super stressful.  My mom fell and was put in a home in Alabama in February so they finally decided it was right to move back to Ohio.  So Gary and I went down there in March to help my dad start cleaning all their stuff in their trailer and get it up for sale.  OMG!!!  They are borderline hoarders!!!  Maybe not even borderline...lol!  There was SO MUCH STUFF in that trailer it was craziness.  In a week I donated over 50 garbage bags of stuff and threw out another 80.  My dad rented a storage unit.  Didn't even feel like we touched the surface by the time we left.  My parents literally aged 20 years since we last saw them in October.  I don't even know what happened.  Then we had to figure out how to sell everything (lot, trailer, shed building, etc.).  To make a long story short, my dad found a buyer (so lucky) and they were suppose to close 5/20 so we planned to go down 6/8 to get my mom out of the home and move them back.  What a nightmare!!!  The home was supposed to be doing rehab with her (we couldn't visit because of COVID) and when we go to get her to drive back to Ohio, she can't even stand on her own.  We dropped her in the parking lot in Kentucky and some poor young guy had to help us get her in the car.  It took almost an hour.  It was nothing short of a miracle getting all of this done and getting them back up here.  We're still dealing with so much stuff every day and she really needs in-house care because my dad is not able to handle her.   They are living 1 1/2 hours away from where I live so that doesn't help much (yeah...that's where they wanted to go).  I'm going in next week to meet with a new doctor since they obviously can't communicate their needs.  I have used 2 1/2 weeks of my vacation time so far this year with no vacation. 

Next is my husband who is losing weight and bloated and weak for no reason.  He got his covid vaccine in May and also our dog attacked him in bed (for no reason) and he got 10 stitches.  Since then, either one of those things or some other health thing is wearing him down.  I suspect liver problems because he drinks every day.  We have an appt on Friday with our doctor and I'm going to lay out everything (and he's not going to like it).

Still not smoking though....I've def thought about it lately but I don't want to go back there.  I think about you guys all the time and our first year together.  I'm really happy we stay in touch...even if it is every 6-7 months.  It's really nice to hear from Molly, Gloria (sorry about your dad), Lori, JR and others too!

Sorry for the long post.  Hugs to you all and let's try to keep in touch more often.  Happy Summer!!  Hugs!

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-14

Brian,

Hope you don't mind me replying to your post.  It's so good to hear from all of you quit buddies. Today seems like having a family reunion.  I didn't know you had retired so wanted to say a big congratulations on retirement.  

My next door neighbors went to Iceland a couple of years ago for their honeymoon.  I thought that was an odd place for somebody in Tennessee to go on a honeymoon but recently I saw a show about Iceland and they were covering some on the city you are planning to go to at Christmas.  That should be a fantastic trip! And as always you can't go wrong on a trip to Las  Vegas.  Gloria was planning to go before the pandemic hit and I hope she gets to go eventually.  We had a group that went to Vegas twice while we were working together but that was in the 1990s. I won $6000 the first 24 hours and when we touched down at home the next week I still had $200 of it in my pocket. LOL Hey, at least I was playing on their money most of the trip. 

I'm planning to work about 5 more years if my health holds up.  I got a pacemaker last year in February at the start of the pandemic and it made me feel better but it has slowed me down somewhat.  We had been doing a lot of cruises over the past 10 years because we get them free through the ship casinos but this pandemic put a stop to the Cruises for now.  Even if they allowed them to start back up I'm not sure I would be comfortable getting on a ship with that many people yet.  

Glad to hear you have been getting plenty of golf time in your retirement. Also glad to hear you are still going strong in your quit.  I really felt bad for the folks who were struggling to quit last year through the stress of the pandemic.  It's hard enough quitting without a stress like that added to it.

I hope the second half of your summer goes as good as it sounds like the first half has been.

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-14

Marylin,

Gonna jump in here and reply to you too.  I was actually thinking about you yesterday and wondering if you were still on the forum.  It's amazing how so many of us have been successful with our quits from just a few months apart in 2018.  Sounds like you have really been on the move lately but I hope you will be able to get back to where you want to be and get settled in.  

I think of all of you who were so instrumental in helping me with my quit on a regular basis.  Just seems like time is flying by and without realizing it...a few months have gone by and I haven't even checked the Forum.  I've been checking back in some here lately.  Overdoz and Anthony have been posting in this month's July quit chat.  I really admire both of them for refusing to give up on their quit.  That takes stamina and determination.

It's been a treat to read your post. Hope things settle down for you soon.

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