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June 2019 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started 1/28/19 by Terry (abquitsmking); 48681 views.
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From: Terry (abquitsmking)

1/28/19

Welcome New Ex-Smokers

Congratulations on taking that all important first step with cessation - stubbing out the last cigarette and getting started.

Chances are you don't feel 'ready' to quit, and are experiencing a mixture of difficult emotions about it.

Try to relax.  You've found the best place for help. 

Getting Started with Cessation

Park yourself in front of your computer and read everything you can on this forum board. We encourage you to take the initiative to introduce yourself and post often. Sharing your journey with your new quit buddies and offering support to each other really helps.

This thread will serve as the meeting place for those of you who are quitting now, and when the month ends, we will move your 'home base' thread over to the Quit Buddies Unite folder, where you can continue to support each other. 

You can also return to the Introductions folder where you'll find the new Monthly Ex-Smoker thread for those coming along behind you.  Share the tips and encouragement that helped you during month one.  Not only will this help others, it will strengthen your resolve as well.

Start your reading here:  Homework for New Ex-Smokers

Additionally, the folder headings in gray on the left of the page under DISCUSSIONS house different topics.  Click on the gray heading to view the conversations held within.  When you finish with a folder, click on the drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and select ALL to see all of the folders again.

Introductions/Newcomers Nook
A good place to start with numerous threads from new ex-smokers.

General Chit-Chat 
This is where you will find the daily NOPE thread.  NOPE stands for Not One Puff Ever, and members pledge NOPE on a daily basis.  Give it a try - you will probably find it helpful and empowering.

Quit Support
This is a good place to post for help when you need it ASAP. 
 
Dots(Weeks) and Stars (Months) Milestones and One Year and Beyond Milestones 
Read the accounts of people who are winning with cessation in these folders.

Quit Buddies Unite 
This folder is the home base for the groups who quit together.  This thread will move to that folder at the end of the first month.


Quit Smoking Library
Here you'll find member stories and links to important articles that will inform you about what to expect from smoking cessation.

The next 4 posts will give you additional info on how to navigate/post here.  Please read them and let us know if you have any questions.

An Educated Quit is a Success
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ModDee

From: ModDee

1/28/19

Forum Navigation Basics

1. Take a look to the left at the DISCUSSIONS section to the left of this page

  • Click on the drop down menu in grayed area immediately beneath it.
  • If you click on All you will see all the folder categories; folders like, Introduction/Newcomers Nook, Quit Buddies Unite, Forum Navigation and Rules, General Chit-Chat etc. When you scroll down the system shows you if there are new messages (bold text) in the thread. 
  • Hierarchy of threads (discussions) within a folder: threads are sorted within a folder by the latest date/hour of a post within thread. If you click on a thread without a new message the system will take you to the beginning of the thread.
  • When you click on the drop down menu you can also select things like

Unread to me (messages to you waiting to be read).

  • When you log in to the forum, the "DISCUSSIONS" section will show the "Unread Msgs" category at the top of the discussions area. Beneath the "Unread Msgs" title will be all the folders containing unread messages since your last visit to the forum, starting with the Introductions/Newcomers Nook folder. When you scroll down to for example the "Quit Buddies Unite" folder if there are no new messages in your quit buddies group it is not going to be at the top of quit buddies unite category. Continue to scroll down past all the quit buddies folders that have new messages (they are in bold text) until you find your group.

2. Click on the drop down menu on your profile picture/avatar at the top right of the page. Review the content of each one.

  • My Profile Photo ( you can add or change your avatar or photo)
  • My Profile
  • My preference
  • My Account
  • Help
  • Logout

3. Please familiarize your self with the Help button contents

This is where you can browse Delphi FAQs for general information, or post a question in one of the Support Forums, where Delphi staff, volunteers, and knowledgeable members are happy to lend a hand. You will also find "How To" guides that are fully illustrated tutorials that show you exactly how things work on Delphi forums

4. When you click on a folder heading like "Quit Buddies Unite' to read or post, the gray drop down menu under the DISCUSSIONS section changes to "Single folder". Once you've finish what you're doing in that folder to see all the folder headings again, click on the gray drop down menu under DISCUSSIONS and click on ALL which will bring up all the folder titles.

5. Education about our addiction and the cessation process is a major component of a successful permanent quit. Take a look at the articles in the link below they were written especially for new ex-smokers.

Homework For New Ex-Smokers

http://forums.delphiforums.com/quit_smoking/messages/3435/1

Personal Signatures

As you move through the forum, you'll notice that a lot of people carry a variety of images in their personal signatures.

There are 3 levels of membership at Delphi forums - DelphiBasic (free), DelphiExtra ($19.95 per year) and DelphiPlus ($4.95 per month). Only the two paid tiers (DelphiExtra and DelphiPlus) allow you to carry a signature field that you can customize with graphics. The two paid subscriptions also allow you to browse forums ad-free.

You can take a look at a comparison chart of the plans here:

http://www.delphiforums.com/plans.ptt

Graphics and photos can be added to the body of your messages in the DelphiBasic plan. Follow the instructions below.
 

How to: Insert an Image

Please feel free ask any question and to join in any discussion on the forum that interests you.

6. Familiarize yourself with the other folders in the Forum Navigation and Rules Category. They will help you with more information on finding your way around the forum.

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ModDee

From: ModDee

1/28/19

How to Post a Message:

There are two ways to post messages: Replying to a message in an existing discussion or starting a new discussion.

Replying to a Message

You can reply to a message someone else has posted by clicking the reply button on  the post you are reading. It contains a white left facing arrow and the word  Reply  located at the bottom right of the post.   You can also reply using all or selected text from the post.  To do this:

  • Before clicking on the reply button highlight the specific text from the post you want to respond to. This text will be carried onto the beginning of your reply post.
  • Type your message
  • Preview or Post your message using the buttons below.

Addressing Your Reply:

Your message will automatically be addressed to the person who wrote the post you're replying to.  If you want your message to go to someone else instead, or to ALL members in the thread,  click in the field next to the "TO"  at the top left of your edit screen.  You can choose ALL or a member from the drop down list  by typing in the member's ID. Their name should pop up on the list.

Starting a New Discussion:

You can start a new thread by:

  • Clicking on the "New Topic" button that appears at the top of the main forum page to the right across from DISCUSSIONS.  
  • Type in the name of your new topic subject.   
  • Leave the TO   showing  ALL
  • Select a folder where you want your post to appear.
  • Click on the down arrow across from Folders.  
  • Scroll down and click on the folder where your post will appear.  
  • Type your message.
  • Click on Post

How to Send a SOS Request for HELP!

If you at anytime need cessation support you can start a new discussion in either the  "Introductions/Newcomers Nook" or  "Quit Support"  folders.  See instructions above for Starting a Discussion.

Note: You can find the new topic area from any place on the forum by scrolling all the way to the top of the page.

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ModDee

From: ModDee

1/28/19

How to Bookmark a Thread

To to bookmark a message:

  • Go to the bottom of the post you want to bookmark.
  • At the bottom right find the "Reply" button.
  • Hover your cursor to the left of the "Reply"  button
  • Find the "Bookmark this message" symbol  just to the left of the "Reply" button.
  • Click on the bookmark this message button.
  • You will receive a pop-up message that will say

To find your bookmarked messages

  • Look to the left at the DISCUSSIONS section.
  • Click on the drop down menu in grayed area immediately beneath the word DISCUSSIONS. 
  •  You will see a menu that contains items like, "7 Days back", "2 Days back", "Unread Msgs", "Unread to Me" etc.  Look all the way to the bottom, the last item has the book mark symbol  and the words "Bookmarked Msgs"  your saved bookmark messages will appear here ...........just click on the one you want to view and it opens with your post. When finished reviewing, click on your browser back arrow key to go back to where you were. See example graphics below.

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ModDee

From: ModDee

1/28/19

How to Follow a Discussion

Want to know if someone posted in your buddy group? Get email notifications on any specific discussion you wish to follow.

  1. Click on your profile pic in the upper right hand corner.
  2. From the drop-down menu select “My Preferences”
  3. Scroll down to “View Zeta as Classic”
  4. Check the box before “View all Zeta forums in Classic”
  5. Select “Update”
  6. A box will appear “Success”. Click “OK”.
  7. Return to About Smoking Cessation Forum. Note: It will look vastly different.
  8. Select the “Messages” tab to show the folders.
  9. Go to the Discussion you want to follow.
  10.  Select “Subscribe” in the upper right directly across from the Discussion name.
  11.  Select how often you want to subscribe. Then click “Subscribe”.
  12.  A Subscribe box will appear. Click “OK”.
  13.  If you have other Discussions you wish to follow, repeat Steps 9 thru 11.
  14.  Select “My Preferences” at the top of the screen.
  15.  Scroll down to “View Zeta as Classic”
  16.  Check the box so it is now empty
  17.  Select “Update”
  18.  “Success” box. Click “OK”.
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ModMarge (slowblumer)

From: ModMarge (slowblumer)

5/31/19

                  

silverene102

From: silverene102

6/5/19

I’d been a smoker for 30 years a pack a day and only tried to quit once 2 yrs ago. The actual quitting process was pretty easy, the nicotine withdrawal didn’t bother me much.  Within 6 months i decided to smoke again as I didn’t know how to deal with life without it. I was so hateful and angry all the time also put on about 10kgs. I thought I would never ever try to quit again. 

Last week my GP suggested to try Zyban to help with depression and smoking cessation. Supposed to take it for a week before quitting but on day 3, i woke up a non smoker. I’ve been smoke free for 5 days. So far Zyban works really well for me with very minimal side effects. 

Hi there silverene,

Welcome to the forum and congratulations for quitting smoking.  I was a 40 yr smoker and quitting was the best thing ever did for myself.  I hope you will stay with us and make this your forever quit.  We have folks here in every stage of their quit that offer their support and a library full of information and tips to help you along your journey.

Practical Tips for Your First Smoke-Free Week

Updated November 19, 2015. You may feel like you're on a roller coaster during the first couple of weeks of smoking cessation. Whether you use a quit aid of some sort or go cold turkey, you're going to feel some discomforts due to nicotine withdrawal.

Fight the Urge to Smoke by Knowing These 4 Triggers

Don't Let Anything (or Anyone) Sabotage Your Quit Program

ModDee

From: ModDee

6/5/19

Hi Silverene,

Congratulations on 5 days of freedom and a great start to your cessation journey.  I'm glad you found us and so glad you're seriously considering taking your life back and opting for freedom.  I promise you won't regret it.  We'll be here to support you all the way. Education about our addiction is a huge key to success. Arm yourself with the tools that you will need for a successful permanent quit. Continue to read all you can about our addiction  A prepared quitter is a successful quitter. 

I'd also like to invite you to join in our Daily NOPE Pledge. NOPE stands for Not One Puff Ever. Every day we get together from around the world at all stages of quit to pledge our commitment to remaining smoke free. One member starts the thread and the rest of us join in. You can find it in the DISCUSSIONS column on the left under the heading of General Chit-Chat.

You've found the right place!  You'll have lots of company here as you and your buddies make your way through this first smoke-free month, so settle in and make yourself comfortable. Take your quit one day at a time for now - you can do this!

Best wishes.

(((Hugs)))

Congratulations on deciding to do it this time! Yes depression and the uglies are big triggers but you did not give it a full year. I found after fourteen months that my body totally calmed down. 95% of the nicotine receptors finally shut down and life as a nonsmoker was awesome and I smoked for over 44 years.

This is an ugly drug addiction, it is not cool and  everyone can deal with life issues without them.  The quote from Allen Carr's book  "We may Want them but we dont Need them" is very true. There are many things people do that are not good for them (drinking too much, eating too much etc.) and addictions are tough to break free of but, it is up to us to choose to stop smoking and poisoning our bodies.

This forum is the best rehab tool as we give each other support along the long journey as we build our solid strong quit mindset. All us like minded people have the same common goal -- freedom from this wicked tough addiction. I hated the thought of being a drug addict and the image of an old lady having a cigarette hanging out of her mouth.  My grandchildren luckily won't have that image of me. Channel your anger towards cigarettes for doing this to you and not towards family and friends. Cigarettes are to blame and we all fell for the trap. We all sure didn't want to be addicts and not be able to live without them. We must change our minds and change our thinking into positive thoughts and help rebuild our bodies. The mental battle gets tiresome and frustrating but it takes an entire year or a little more until you feel like your true new and improved self again. You know you can do this and with help from your doctor you can get free. Try out new things that you would never have done as a smoker and enjoy long conversations without interruption. My own children said it was so nice to finally have conversations without me saying I want to have a smoke. 

It does get better so nail it this time and don't let anything or anyone sabotage your quit. You already know you can do six months just keep going the whole distance this time. Good luck in your journey and post often on this forum as this place will help you in more ways than you think. Here post your frustrations and get great feedback from others battling this too. Be proud of yourself and keep thinking positively. You won't regret getting this addiction behind you once and for all. relaxed

"Quitting isn't for Sissies!" I quit poisoning myself Sept. 27, 2013

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