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January 2021 Ex-Smokers   Quit Buddies Unite

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abrewster14

From: abrewster14

Feb-12

You are being so hard on yourself. I’m so sorry to hear you are sick. I was diagnosed with Copd last January.  Of course you belong here. We all do. We are all fighting the same habbit. It’s both physical and mental addiction. You have to deal with both addictions. You are trying everyday that’s what is important. I would say be prepared for me fizzy water, loads of crunchy veggies with yummy dressing dried fruit and nuts. Adam carrs book easy way to quit smoking is very helpful and I’m reading the power of habit Charles duhigg is helpful. I think it’s very important to be kind to yourself. In the early days I celebrated every minute every hour and then everyday smoke free. This group has been tremendously helpful for me. Remember that take it one day at a time. Just don’t smoke today. It’s interesting to me that when we light a smoke we are most often to end the feeling of withdrawal from the last smoke. That is to say to feel “normal”. You actually are seeking the feeling of not smoking. I’m using the patch and am on stage 2 14 milligrams even though I’m allergic to the adhesive. I super itchy but it’s better than smoking. I have days that I want to smoke more than anything but I have to say it would be three steps for me to smoke. Thanks to those on this forum - I would have to wait 24 hours to be sure I want to quit. Then I would have to go to the store and actually light one. That makes me think about it and makes me not want give up all the gains I have made. Plus - I don’t want to go back to the beginning. The sticky threes (3 days, 3 weeks and 3 months) are important to be on the look out for these and triggers. There are days I swear I miss smoking more than I am express but I stick with it - I come on here or yell or take a shower or take a walk, drink tons of water. You ARE NOT A LOSER. You can do this. I was thinking about my step dad who died of a heart attack at 48. My boyfriend just turned 48 on Tuesday and I hope he has decades more to live. How much a loss of life if that ? It’s so sad. But I get it trust me. I always hated the aa phrase one day at a time. But that’s really what it is - I’m just not smoking today and that has gotten me six weeks. I was a 20 year plus smoker and didn’t believe I could go without one for two hours. Don’t worry about next week or tomorrow. One day at a time. 

Lubbercat

From: Lubbercat

Feb-12

To start with, you are not a "loser" for struggling with this, you are a winner because you are attempting to quit!  Most people on this forum are here because we have struggled and because we have slipped and we just keep trying until we finally get a quit that sticks.  Just keep trying to quit.  Use your vape, drink ice water, get some physical exercise, use a straw to suck air through, suck on hard candies/mints, eat frozen grapes.  If you go back to the page 1 of this thread, at the very beginning or the beginning of the February 2021 ex-smokers thread, you will find lots of information to read.  Be informed, know what to expect.  Make a list of your reasons for quitting and carry it with you to look at whenever you think of changing your mind.  Also, come on here and ask for help, wait for 3 responses before lighting up........hopefully after the 3 responses come, you will change your mind.  Also, start keeping track of every time you actually smoke.  write down what the "trigger" was.  Was it because you were angry?  Hungry?  Because you just finished a meal?  Whatever the reason, write it down and write down what you can do next time that trigger happens so that you don't smoke.

Hope some of this helps.  Good luck and take care of yourself.  

Nope62

From: Nope62

Feb-12

Welcome! You are in the right place!

I am 64 years old and I have smoked since around the age of 14. So we are very similar in that respect.

I get a sense of depression or low self esteem from reading your post.

You are not any bigger a loser than the rest of us. I've been trying to quit for 10 years on and off.

I don't understand what type of surgery you are having from your post. It is good that they caught your lung cancer in the early stage. This should be your primary motivation for quitting this nasty habit!

I would suggest that you go to u tube and look for video's made by a man named Joel Spitzer. Watch and listen to as many of them as you can. Knowledge is power when it comes to quitting smoking. You have to know your enemy (Nicotine)!

Make a quit plan!

Make a list of the reason's you are quitting and keep that list where you can access it at anytime you need to remind your self why you are quitting. 

amdrewster14 gave you some really good advice! I agree totally about the one day at a time. Some days it will be one minute or one hour at a time. Get in there and fight for your life. Cheer up and try to find the positives in your life. We will be here for advice and support!

  Good Luck!

abrewster14

From: abrewster14

Feb-12

I hope you are sticking in there. I thought of one thing that really helped me in the hardest first few days. (Mind you I’m working from home and stuck in my apartment or little box as I call it). You can’t smoke what you don’t have I threw out every smoke related thing I had ashtrays smokes vapes. You can scream and cry and jump up and down but if you don’t have them you can’t smoke them. Remember it’s an addiction. A heroine addict can’t have heroin around and an alcoholic early in quit can’t be around alcohol. The nicotine actually leaves your body from the second you put out that last cig and completely in three days. It’s the mental addiction more than anything. 
There is no magic pill nor do you need one. I’ve been to the mad Russian (he gave me my money back), hypnotists, taken anti depressants, patch, chantix ( never been more nauseated in my life). The thing is you just don’t smoke. That’s the secret. Honestly when I was smoking going more than 2 hours was a challenge. But it’s been six weeks. (Never made it this far in a quit). I take it each day. Everyday makes your quit stronger. Be kind to yourself and ask for understanding.  

Moskus999

From: Moskus999

Feb-12

Okay Great!!! Thank you for the encouragement. Makes me so Happy.  Joe and I went to get tested for COVID Praise God we tested Negative. HOWEVER this Beautiful Asian Doctor Lady wanted to take a picture of my Lungs, Joe and I were Coughing and sneezing a lot, we realized we were allergic to the New Potpourri we purchased. The Doctor at the walk in Center wanted to take an XRAY of Lungs. She handed me a script and asked me to go to the Hospital and get a CT SCAN of my lungs, and there it was on the Upper Part of my Lung I was diagnosed with early stage lung cancer. I of course  have had many tests after that.  This Surgery Is Called Robotic Surgery. They say it is Minimally Invasive Surgery. They are called the Thoracic surgeons. I also ordered the Book Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking. So Thank You Very Kind People. As far as Depression, yes that is correct a work in Process. A Suicide my husband and I experienced together really brought me to my knees.  Getting back to why I am hear is because I have no Symptoms of Lung Cancer, so I guess my work is not complete here on earth. If we never got tested for COVID I would never know I was walking around with Cancer. So I am Blessed. We all have our own stuff, COVID, people loosing their jobs, so please forgive if I shared too much. I am trying to use this Forum I guess like an AA meeting, one day, one minute at a time. I am using a Journal, I will go back to the Patch, the gum. I am going to make this easy. Tomorrow is another Day. I wish you all the Best In This Smoking Forum. Pretty Soon I will be saying NOPE I don't smoke. Speak with you soon. Malaya Thank You So Much. I know I will not find you again on this website.

abrewster14

From: abrewster14

Feb-12

Hey hon just checking in. You hanging in there ? 

allalyssa

From: allalyssa

Feb-12

I too have smoked for 30 years. I’ve quit before but I always end up smoking again. I’m hoping this time it works. I’m on day 4 and I have to say I’m not having a great time. I am taking Wellbutrin - and I thought or hoped it would help more. So far I feel awful - not sleeping and the mood swings are a real treat! I keep telling myself I don’t really love to smoke - I’m just an addict. 

Nope62

From: Nope62

Feb-12

 I am sorry to hear about your situation! I hope that your surgery is completely successful.

I am about six weeks quit now. I have good days and bad days.

 When are you going to start your quit, or have you done so already?

 Mindset is everything when quitting smoking. I have also dealt with depression for most of my life. Quitting smoking will help with your depression. Nicotine only feeds it!

Please give this some thought because I think this helped me.  Are you going to quit smoking or are you going to stop smoking!  In my past quits I only stopped smoking for various lengths of time. This time I plan to quit smoking, as in forever!  When you think about it for awhile you will understand what the difference is. It's important that you get into a quitters mindset to be successful. Think Positive about what you are doing for your own health!

I Wish You All the Luck!!

Nope62

From: Nope62

Feb-13

Day 4 Is great! Congratulations on your deciding to quit!

We are all addicts or we would have no need to be here. You are not alone in this!

You should notice that everyday from now on gets a little easier. Your not supposed to be having a good time right now, but with some positive thinking you can make it a little better situation. "I keep telling myself I don’t really love to smoke" Sounds like you might be romancing the cigarette some there.

You can google (romancing the cigarette) to get some idea of what I'm talking about. There is absolutely nothing about a cigarette to love. It is a slow form of suicide. It will take your money and leave your health in shambles. Eventually causing you to live a shorter life than you would have without it. 

To make this quit happen, you need to get a serious hate going on for that cigarette.

Good Luck To You!

gkim

From: gkim

Feb-13

Hi Moskus! Yes it’s a blessing you found the cancer at an early state. From what I’ve read, it has a very good prognosis. 
I’m a believer that nothing that happens in life is a coincidence. I quit smoking when I got Covid. There’s a a purpose to the madness, it seems. Hang in there. I’m sure you know but really, it does get easier. I loved smoking but now I’m over three months smoke free and I constantly tell myself “I don’t do that anymore!” Welcome and stay close to this forum. Amazing people here. 

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