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First 10 days review   General Chit-Chat

Started 5/6/20 by Musivore; 113606 views.
Eve1973

From: Eve1973

Jul-6

Did you make it through the rough patch?

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-6

By the skin of my teeth but yes!!! Proud of me.

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-6

Also, I think that I was focusing on the future, what if I stumble down the line imagining situations in which I may relapse, instead of working with the one day at a time mentality. I’ll try to stick to that one.

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Jul-6

I think future tripping is unnecessarily anxiety inducing. Not just for smoking cessation, but most things really. Staying present, in the moment, is a practice. The more you do it the more naturally you will just be in the moment, present with yourself and more calm. 
Honestly, now that I’ve been not smoking a while it is much easier to see how smoking was constantly compelling me to future trip. Within minutes of putting one out, I’d be scheming and thinking about the when, where, how of the next one. So it makes sense when we stop we are in that mode for a while. It’s like we have to learn how to be with ourselves. Just us without our fix. It is addict behavior and mindset to look ahead and seek how we will get our next fix. When that piece of our mind is told that fix isn’t coming, other pieces of our mind kick in to basically rescue us (from ourselves). I think one of the most useful things my Shrink taught me was to step back and learn to identify the different pieces of my mind and how they act/interact in different situations and moments. 
It’s gonna be a lifelong practice for me to be able to  manage those pieces with my core wiser self. But, just recognizing the pieces was and is such a game changer in day to day life (and love). I feel much less frantic moment to moment. Instead of walking around and being at this heightened, detached, scattered place in my mind I feel more grounded and able to stay in the moment a lot more. Nicotine keeps you heightened and detached and scattered and distracted. Disconnected in a different way. It really is a veil in so many ways. 
Anyway…nattered on enough. Off to my new job for more training soon. That takes a whole different way and level of detachment I’m quickly learning. It really is fabulous to be there and not be distracted by scheming for a fix. 
Time is your best friend here X. Come to peace with that and it’s half the battle really. Your inner addict will soon simmer down a bit more each day. Then that voice moves on to other tactics joy.

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-6

Yes, it coming to terms with just how much of junkie I am. The one day at time is a strange concept for me because I am a worrier and come from a long line of warriors :)

I think smoking was my way of 'coping' with those future thought and insecurities. I was so worried last night about what would happen when I spend some time with my smoker friends and that in turn got me craving like crazy. However an interesting thing happened today. I was at my tenant's flat, and he works in PR. He used to work for SuperDry clothes line, and he has an advert poster from back in the day, framed. 

It is a picture of the young kate Moss, wearing the SuperDry tshirt and holding a cigarette. Classic trigger for me. However the cigarette she held was half burned and seeing that kind of turned me off, It looked kind pf nasty. this is the state of a cigarette just before the ash falls on your shirt because you didn't tap it in time. 

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Jul-6

Love that Freudian slip my friend. Yes. You are a. WARRIOR.

Eve1973

From: Eve1973

Jul-6

So happy you DID IT! Yes you can think of future scenarios but don’t stress, think of ways to keep yourself busy or how to handle the triggers.

One day at a time and you will prevail! Don’t forget your WHYS of stopping! I still carry my list around! You got this just be a WARRIOR!

xvaper

From: xvaper

Jul-6

hahah the warrior thing is going to follow me around on this forum! I have the list yes, but my junkie brain keeps trying to minimize all the things that made me quit and actively suppress them. This chemical is disastrous. I don't want to be dependent anymore, I just wish my brain will catch up soon to end this mess.

I'm also amazed to discover that when you search online weather nicotine is harmful on its own, most of the hits you get is that it isn't very harmful in itself and doesn't cause cancer and that's a travesty. Nicotine is dangerous, it destroys your arteries, it does have cancerous qualities, and it makes your brain produce so much cortisol to motivate you to get you to get your fix. I was vaping like maniac for two years, it was awful.

They say that "we don't know the full effect of vaping" instead of saying that the nicotine alone destroys your health no matter how it is administered.

It makes me very angry.  

Eve1973

From: Eve1973

Jul-7

Sometimes ANGER is good! Maybe hold on to it and say to yourself that I’m NOT GOING TO BE TRICKED AGAIN! 
 

This addiction is so wicked, I am still at times wondering if I can just smoke one…….then I shake my head NO! I can’t ever or I know I will be back or even more to where I was. 
 

But be VERY PROUD…..you are definitely getting stronger every day! You will survive and be the WARRIOR PRINCESS! Hmmm just assuming you are female. Sorry if you are not!

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