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November 2020 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started 10/31/20 by Terry (abquitsmking); 26489 views.
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From: Terry (abquitsmking)

10/31/20

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From: Terry (abquitsmking)

10/31/20

Welcome!

The thought of quitting tobacco is very intimidating for most of us in the beginning, but take comfort in the fact that many others before you have quit successfully and they felt just as nervous as you probably do right now.

Quitting can be done - it's not an overnight event, but if you settle in and invest in the process, you'll be looking back from a place of nicotine-free comfort sooner than you think.

The following list of tips was compiled by ModJenn, one of our long-time mods.  You might want to copy it to a place where you can refer and add to it as you go.

Quit Toolbox

  • Drink ice water through a straw. Repeat. Drink ice water through a straw. Repeat...
  • Knowledge is power. Read everything you can get your hands on about this addiction. The more you understand about your own addiction to nicotine, the better equipped you become to get through the cessation process.
  • Post on the Forum until your fingers are sore. Post, post, post. 
  • Closely related: Go to the NOPE pledge daily and hold yourself accountable.
  • When you come across posts that inspire and/or strengthen you ~ copy and paste them into a Word document. In this way, you can reread them when you feel wibbly wobbly and are climbing the walls.
  • Distract, distract, distract. (Shhhh.....I would do jumping jacks and by the time I got to about 10-12 I was distracted -- that's for sure. Try puzzles, reading a book, anything that shifts the focus of your thoughts.) More generally, stop whatever you are doing, move, and do something else. The craving will pass.
  • Remind yourself this is a journey and the more time you put between now and that last cigarette, the stronger your quit muscles become and the more you have in your quit toolbox. Take it one minute and hour at at time, if necessary, and the days will keep adding up.
  • Every day you go to bed smoke-free is a good day. Be kind to yourself along the way.
  • What you are experiencing is normal - "this too shall pass".
  • Take a shower. Brush your teeth. Put on lotion.
  • Read your quit reasons.
  • Create a list of all the benefits you are experiencing now that you no longer smoke. Practice gratitude at least once a day for these benefits and life changes.
  • Cinnamon flavored sugar-free gum (even cinnamon sticks).
  • Chai tea (I had to avoid coffee for a while but can drink it now without a problem).
  • Eat healthy snacks, such as carrots or frozen grapes (Some honesty here: I didn't always do so well with this one due to this pesky sweet tooth I developed once I could taste my food again. The good news is that as my quit felt more secure my eating wasn't as erratic.)
  • Protect your quit at all costs by avoiding situations that are high-risk for you, especially in the early part of the quit (e.g., other smokers, alcohol, etc.).
  • Make a plan for handling cravings when around temptation. Do not enter potentially difficult situations without a plan.
  • Remind yourself that it's going to be okay - time is your friend as you relearn every aspect of daily life.
  • Keep a journal to record your journey and it's easier to see how far you have come (It gave me perspective at times when I needed to remember that I may not be where I want to be but I'm most certainly not where I used to be.).
  • Reward yourself for the small accomplishments and the larger milestones (this doesn't' have to involve spending money).
  • Exercise - go for walks, join a gym, just keep moving.
  • Accept and tell yourself (that self-talk we have to turn from negative to positive) that the craving is actually a sign of healing and they will occur less frequently and with less intensity as the smoke-free days add up.
  • Deep breathing -- take 4-5 deep breaths -- fill up your diaphragm and and make your tummy stick out.
  • As ModLisa says: "When in doubt go to sleep". 
  • As ModMic says: "SOME DAYS, IT IS ENOUGH THAT YOU JUST DON'T SMOKE. Some days are crappy from beginning to end, and you can kick, scream, cry, punch something, bite someone's head off...if you did not smoke, you win and a little more healing happened".
  • Visualize a craving like a wave washing over you. The tide does leave. 
  • Tell yourself four things: (1) Smoking is no longer an option regardless of what life throws your way; (2) I am worthy of freedom from this addiction; (3) I can. I will. End of story; and (4) I am stronger than this challenge and this challenge is making me stronger.
KerrieRose

From: KerrieRose

11/2/20

Thank you for all of this great info and great tips! Going to to do this. 
Last cig smoked at 11:30 pm October 27, 2020. 

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

11/2/20

Yay! There will be lots of hard days. I still have some. But I do not have regret. Just keep telling yourself about the difference between those two. Yes, it is hard, but I do not regret it. If you smoke now, you will at some point have to start over and go through those first few hardest days again! Who wants to do that, right?

Do you want to share a little bit of your history? Like how much you smoked, how long, etc? It is certainly not required if you prefer not to. Did you quit cold Turkey? Sometimes things feel a little different to those who quit cold Turkey vs using NRT (nicotine replacement therapy). Just gives a different perspective from those on here who have done one or the other. There is no right way or wrong way or better way. There is only your way and what works for you! You will find though that no matter what, being here and reading and posting and engaging with others that have gone through and are going through what you are is a tremendous help. It has made a huge difference for all of us here to connect with others that “get it”. It is definitely something that someone who has never smoked or vaped cannot relate to.

Glad you’re here! What time zone are you in? I ask everyone this as I’ve been around for several months and like knowing who is up when!joy

KerrieRose

From: KerrieRose

11/2/20

Been smoking off and on—more on since college. Quit for 5 years while my kids were born. Then was a secret smoker for a long time. Met my group of besties about 25 years ago. Three of the four of us were smokers. Now only one smoker left. (Not me, I’m a non-smoker now. Can you tell I’ve read the Carr book—multiple times.) So I’m 60 now—that makes about 40 years of smoking with a few breaks. This one is for keeps. Went cold turkey this time. Feel like a raging b*tch at times. Feels good to read others experiences. 
l live in the Central time zone— suburban Chicago. 
Thank you for listening and caring. It really helps!

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

11/2/20

Oh! Chicago is nice! I have a sister near there, in Naperville. There is an article here somewhere about closet smokers...let me find it for you. It totally hit home for me, except the giving the husband extra booze part, lol! You’ll see when you read it though. Will get to it today. Also, can be hard to find, but if you open all of the tabs on the left, near the bottom there is a “Library “ tab. There so many good articles there. Spend some time reading and learning about addiction. It will really help you to understand what is going on underneath and let you see how so much of it is normal. Also, I see Wendy (Ovivi) wrote you in the other thread and gave the excellent advice of babying yourself. I absolutely second that! All these folks on here are so amazing. I would not be at 8months without this forum for sure. A true godsend. 

Jaka38

From: Jaka38

11/2/20

Just keep going. We were discussing some Churchill quotes and this one is worth remembering : If you're going through hell, keep going. joy

I went cold turkey as well. Had some doubts about it but now I'm fine with it. So you have many quits before this one. You're not alone. I had at least ten of them. None of them were 5 years long though. But I get it, you didn't want to hurt your kids. My wife quit fir the same reason although she was never really a smoker. I guess it's time to stop hurting yourself as well wink and know that you're really lucky you find this forum. It makes all the difference v

So again, keep going and good luck 

KerrieRose

From: KerrieRose

11/2/20

Thank you!

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

11/2/20

Jaka where did you find the peace sign emoji? I don’t think I have this one? confused You and JoelJose with different emojis makes me wonder if it is different in other countries?? We need the peace sign one here Jaka! joy

Edit: Oh, I found it! I do have it!! This must mean I now have peace? joyjoyjoy I’ve looked for that before and never saw it. Just did update this morning for iPad so maybe now? Wouldn’t think it would make a difference on forum though. Go figure!

  • Edited November 2, 2020 1:04 pm  by  Loreficent
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