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February 2021 Ex-Smokers - Start Here!   Quit Buddies Unite

Started 1/31/21 by Terry (abquitsmking); 33560 views.

From: Jatchat


It's a pleasure

Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)


Hi Debbie,

I don't know if you remember me but we used to write on here a bit a few years ago. You really helped me. I am on day 10 and just came back since the time I bumped into you last. I am glad to see you are doing well.



From: Suzy2018


Hi Mercy,

I think I remember you from a few years back.    Good to see that neither of us have given up giving up, and I hope it feels really good to have 10 days under your belt.    Day 7 for me, so I'm not far behind you.   


Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)



I remember you too! It is good to see you and I am glad we are close in our quits. I could use someone to talk with like that on the forum if you want to buddy up? 


From: KatieKat84


Hi Suzy,

Big congratulations on being 1 WEEK SMOKE-FREEEE! I hope you are feeling very proud of yourself, particularly after the week you’ve had. Who knows, maybe it’s really been the perfect time to quit as it shows you CAN do it even when times are tough. 

I’m so sorry to hear your son has struggled with mental health problems and had a setback recently. I can well imagine it must be such a worry and draining for you when things are hard - and brilliant you didn’t give in to the temptation to smoke. And really exciting he is interested in therapy and making changes. I’ve had depression and other mental health problems since I was a teenager. Funnily when I was about your son’s age I really engaged with therapy properly for the first time and it changed my life! It was bloomin hard work and I’m by no means done with it but I’m so glad I started when I did. I really hope your son can benefit from it too. I think everyone can benefit from therapy if they want to - it’s funny how we do so much for our physical health as routine but mental health is left to muddle through! 

That’s so funny about your sister biting her own arm to incriminate you! That’s definitely worse than criticising her music taste, ha ha. As it happens my sister (also older, but by 4 years) is also fixated about something I criticised her for years ago! And she says I “told her off” at Christmas (she’s 40!) It seems so hard to have a difference of opinions without her seeing it as a criticism.

Oh I’ve been really upset about Sarah Everard too :( it’s just awful and yes she was very near where we live. Good on your daughter for attending the vigil. It’s pretty bad how the police handled it, you’d think they you use a little discretion and common sense. My husband and I stood on our doorstep with candles. 

My daughter has been a wonderful reminder that humans can be good!

I hope you’ve had a great smoke-free day Suzy.

All the best,


4th March 2017 


From: SYRRose


That’s awesome! Love the positive message here. 


From: SYRRose


4 days out. Cravings are not terrible. What is ? The coughing up stuff and feeling so tired. A little dizzy as well. Tomorrow I’m walking. And walking and walking


From: Loreficent


Welcome Syrrose!

And Big Congratulations Boylant!!! Strong work. Now you have some good momentum, and lots of new buddies here too! 
Here is a link from another site that has an excellent list of reasons to stay quit. I really enjoyed reading them, and lots I had not thought of, so wanted to share. I think there is something on there that will resonate with all of us.


Oh yes...and Suzy! One week today! Yay!!!blush


From: boylant22


Hi Suzy!  Just want to say that you are doing great!  If you can survive the times that are the hardest, you know your strength can resolve!


From: Suzy2018


Dear Katie - you are so good at helping me!   Yes, maybe it IS the perfect time to quit after all.  Years ago on this forum (2008 I think) there was a lady who was only 9 days into her quit when her brother was killed by a bull, and she still didn't smoke.  I haven't had anything that bad happen, but even so I feel like I've worked hard for my One Week Badge, so I'm not planning on having to hand it back over anything trivial.  I've done a LOT of really good not smoking this week relaxed

Thanks too for sharing your own experiences of mental health problems, and it does give me hope that maybe my son is the right age/stage to really engage with therapy.  He hasn't been ready before, and it's been a very long old haul - for him obviously, but for everyone who loves him too.   I also really understand that it's hard work, but I'm so glad that it's helped you so much.  For what it's worth, you seem very sane and well-balanced to me!

Yes, family stuff - and it's somehow worse because of feeling that it ought to be easier.  You're probably too young to remember The Waltons (American TV about a ludicrously happy family) - I was only six or seven when I saw it, but even then I thought "My family isn't like that".    It's become even more interesting/sad since I started doing roleplay for communication skills training courses:  now, I know pretty much everything there is to know about how to listen well and encourage the other person to express themselves, and how to be non-judgemental and ask questions that empower rather than prescribe.  Technically I should be completely fabulous to talk to, but can I do it with my own family?   Nope.  We just fall into the same old roles, and when we finally come out of the mincer the other end we wonder what the hell just happened.  I really hope I will get better at it.

I'm so glad you and your husband stood on the doorstep with candles.  I went outside with my torch down here in Devon and shone it up to the sky, but I didn't see anyone else.  I think it's hit Londoners particularly hard, but I was still surprised to be on my own. Glad I did it though.  I can't imagine what Sarah's parents are going through, but I hope it comforted them a little bit to know that so many, many people are so moved by what happened, and are prepared to stand up and say that this matters - that she matters.   Humans really can be good - I think most of us are, really - and little people like your daughter most of all.

Thank you so much for all your help.  I can hardly believe that I haven't smoked for a whole week, and you've been such an important part of that.  Thank you.

And now, on to Week 2.

Suzy x