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February 2021 Ex-Smokers - Start Here!   Quit Buddies Unite

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Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-20

Thanks Katy,

Yes the motors running and there's a straight road ahead, no stopping me now...I hope

Thanks for the compliment about the photos, I find half the knack of taking photos is to just be there, I am missing a trip away with fellow photographers this week, but all it's done is rain so I am not missing out on much...

Just reflecting on some of my reasons for quitting and No 1. is To feel healthy, smoking kills 5000 people a year in Australia, six million worldwide, one person dies every  eight seconds from a smoking related illness.

There that says it all. I hate to sound morbid but the facts are grim...

We can say we are on the right track and even though I'm 71 years of age I hope to have 20 more years of quality  life ahead of me, both my parents lived into there 90's

We are doing the right thing by not smoking

Take care Katy

Kind regards

Anthony

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-20

Thanks Suzy,

The clock is ticking, can't stop time...may as well use it to our advantage and put as much time between now and our last cigarette as possible, take care you wonderful person I hope your quit is successful as I'm sure it will be

Kind regards

Anthony 

KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-20

Hi Suzy,

I look forward to your message too - they are so warm and open-hearted :) 

How has your Saturday been? Not long before you’re 2 week quit milestone. Exciting!

I know what you mean about feeling like you are just emerging from a dark cave and being more excited about the future again. It sounds like there’s been a lot on your shoulders lately, and I think with lockdown it’s been extra hard to get motivated to do the things that keep us sane and healthy. But hooray it looks like things are about to change for the better. How wonderful to emerge a non smoker :)

Have you made any plans for when lockdown eases? I can’t wait to go swimming! And will get my parents over for lunch - my poor mum especially had really missed seeing my daughter this past year. 

Hehe my immediate reaction to the idea of a school reunion would also be no way! But it’s probably the idea that’s off putting and the reality could be fun. And great to have a specific thing in the future where you know you don’t want to be a smoker - can help keep you on the path in the early weeks/months. 

Ah you seem to have a good idea of our wedding day - it was a lovely fun day. Feels like a lifetime ago although it was less than 4 years. That’s what parenthood and pandemics can do ha! 
 

Sorry I have no news to share - I didn’t even leave the house today! Going to do some knitting now while watching the rugby (odd combo I know).

Take care and speak soon,

Katie

Quit 4th March 2017

KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-20

Hey Anthony,

Sounds like you’re in a great frame of mind in your quit.

Yes keep those statistics firmly in your mind, grim as they are.
 

They also highlight just what a powerful addiction smoking is - that we can even consider the so-called ‘positives’ of smoking against the awful facts of what it does to our health.

Yes you have many years of smoke-free life to enjoy! Sounds like you have good genes :) 

Take care Anthony,

Katie

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-20

Anthony, you're so right - we can't stop time, but we CAN do something to minimise its effects on us.   

From your photo I'd guess that you're around the same age as I am, and from everything you write (and the photos!) I reckon that you also have a huge zest for life, and don't want to shuffle off anytime soon?   Well, my dear, wonderful quit-buddy, we might not be getting any younger and we might have stumbled in the past, but by quitting smoking now we are doing the best possible thing to stick around on this beautiful planet for longer - and to be healthy enough to really enjoy it.  This is the one, for you and for me. Thanks for being there. xx

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-20

Hi Katie,

I haven't got any news either, but then not many people do these days!  It's very weird, I know - and I AM looking forward to 'normal' life again - but there's definitely part of me that likes this no-pressure environment, and I think there are plusses as well as minuses.

For instance, we had a friend round for dinner this evening (legally - we are his bubble) and I did feel slightly anxious that we might have nothing to talk about.   We managed fine, but we did get into more philosophical discussions than we might have done normally:  life, the universe and everything - he's 71 and has read all of Douglas Adams, so he tried to fob us off with "42" relaxed - but also what is happiness, and even what is consciousness?  I don't think that would have happened, pre-pandemic - we'd have just got off our heads and danced - and I feel we've been much more open and honest, and know one another so much better as a result.

I'm sure your mum can't wait to see her granddaughter, and how lovely it will be when you can visit again! I last saw my son in August, and even though we talk on the phone a lot, it's not the same as a proper meeting and a hug.  We were planning to spend Christmas with my daughter and her partner too - it would have been her first one 'hosting', and she'd bought Christmassy place-settings and everything.  It was really hard not to be able to do it.  So my plans for the end of lockdown are that, really:  see the kids, and try to have as much fun as is humanly possible, because life is short.  Not as short as it would have been if I still smoked, though!  So Mike and I have bought a boat (from a neighbour called Bodge, which I'm not sure bodes well) and are planning to learn to sail this summer.  How hard can it be?

You're right about parenthood - nothing stops for that.  I thought it would, but it doesn't.  It really is a truly wonderful and terrible thing - and even with the problems my son has had, I still think it's a wonderful (and terrible) thing.   You will be all right, though.  You are kind, and there is no better human quality than that.  I'm getting on a bit now, but kindness is the one thing I wish I'd valued more highly when I was young, and is absolutely what I most appreciate now.

And yay, I didn't smoke, and it's nearly bedtime.  One more day on the road, and it's a good road to be on. I hope the knitting and the rugby were both good too.  And thank you for looking after me. You really have.

Suzy xx

  • Edited March 20, 2021 8:27 pm  by  Suzy2018
Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-21

By keeping clean...no cigs... I guess we are minimising the aging effect, by exercising I have lost weight, but I do have a few saggy baggy bits, I am hoping by doing strength exercise these will shrink Haha. We do live on a beautiful planet, and I want to explore more of it particularly my home nation, hopefully down the track we will acquire a motor home and do a bit of travelling...fingers crossed, the opportunities are endless.

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-21

Thanks Katie,

All bodes well for the future, just have to  maintain the rage, my quit smoking counsellor arrives back at work after having a month off touring interstate...I see her Thursday all going well I'll have good news to report.

What Rugby were you watching was it the France vs Wales game? I heard France stopped Wales from winning the Six Nations Trophy...

We are having more than the usual rain for March here, flooding up North

Salmon, chips and salad for tea tonight Yumm

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-21

What are a few saggy baggy bits between friends?  I'm sure they will shrink anyway, as you get fitter and healthier, and once you've recovered from your op there'll be no stopping you!

If you have the chance to get a motorhome, do it.  We've got an ancient Hymer, and it is honestly the best money we've ever spent, and the very last thing we'd sell.  In 2011-2012 we spent six months travelling in France, Spain and Portugal, and it was wonderful.  We were going to do it again this last winter but... mask     Really, truly, they are wonderful things - it makes me feel relaxed just thinking about it.

KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-22

Hi Suzy,

Congratulations on 2 weeks smoke free!! Those weeks are hard work - I salute your achievement :) How are you finding it compared with when you started?

That’s lovely you’ve found yourself branching out into more philosophical discussions with your bubble buddy. My brain feels like such a jelly these days I worry what my chat will be like when I start socialising again ha ha! And I totally know what you mean about lockdown having its pluses too - having no pressure to do anything and no guilt about staying in has been really nice. And just appreciating our immediate area, the park, buying a coffee on the weekend.

How exciting you’ve bought a boat - and from Bodge (I laughed out loud)! What sort of boat is it? My dad’s into sailing so I’ve done bits and bobs growing up. I’m sure you’ll have plenty of adventures.

My daughter was able to go back to nursery today and I managed to catch up on some work. I felt relieved she was going in, then immediately very guilty, then spent the whole day missing her! I think she had a fun day though - she was super happy when she came home and wanted to do lots of roly-polies! 
 

You’re right, kindness is so very important. I hope my daughter will grow up to be kind, but also not a doormat. I suppose it’s about being kind to oneself too. 
 

Right, time for dinner. Big well done again Suzy - now onto week 3!

Speak soon,

Katie

Quit 4th March 2017

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