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February 2021 Ex-Smokers - Start Here!   Quit Buddies Unite

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Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-20

Anthony, you're so right - we can't stop time, but we CAN do something to minimise its effects on us.   

From your photo I'd guess that you're around the same age as I am, and from everything you write (and the photos!) I reckon that you also have a huge zest for life, and don't want to shuffle off anytime soon?   Well, my dear, wonderful quit-buddy, we might not be getting any younger and we might have stumbled in the past, but by quitting smoking now we are doing the best possible thing to stick around on this beautiful planet for longer - and to be healthy enough to really enjoy it.  This is the one, for you and for me. Thanks for being there. xx

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-20

Hi Katie,

I haven't got any news either, but then not many people do these days!  It's very weird, I know - and I AM looking forward to 'normal' life again - but there's definitely part of me that likes this no-pressure environment, and I think there are plusses as well as minuses.

For instance, we had a friend round for dinner this evening (legally - we are his bubble) and I did feel slightly anxious that we might have nothing to talk about.   We managed fine, but we did get into more philosophical discussions than we might have done normally:  life, the universe and everything - he's 71 and has read all of Douglas Adams, so he tried to fob us off with "42" relaxed - but also what is happiness, and even what is consciousness?  I don't think that would have happened, pre-pandemic - we'd have just got off our heads and danced - and I feel we've been much more open and honest, and know one another so much better as a result.

I'm sure your mum can't wait to see her granddaughter, and how lovely it will be when you can visit again! I last saw my son in August, and even though we talk on the phone a lot, it's not the same as a proper meeting and a hug.  We were planning to spend Christmas with my daughter and her partner too - it would have been her first one 'hosting', and she'd bought Christmassy place-settings and everything.  It was really hard not to be able to do it.  So my plans for the end of lockdown are that, really:  see the kids, and try to have as much fun as is humanly possible, because life is short.  Not as short as it would have been if I still smoked, though!  So Mike and I have bought a boat (from a neighbour called Bodge, which I'm not sure bodes well) and are planning to learn to sail this summer.  How hard can it be?

You're right about parenthood - nothing stops for that.  I thought it would, but it doesn't.  It really is a truly wonderful and terrible thing - and even with the problems my son has had, I still think it's a wonderful (and terrible) thing.   You will be all right, though.  You are kind, and there is no better human quality than that.  I'm getting on a bit now, but kindness is the one thing I wish I'd valued more highly when I was young, and is absolutely what I most appreciate now.

And yay, I didn't smoke, and it's nearly bedtime.  One more day on the road, and it's a good road to be on. I hope the knitting and the rugby were both good too.  And thank you for looking after me. You really have.

Suzy xx

  • Edited March 20, 2021 8:27 pm  by  Suzy2018
Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-21

By keeping clean...no cigs... I guess we are minimising the aging effect, by exercising I have lost weight, but I do have a few saggy baggy bits, I am hoping by doing strength exercise these will shrink Haha. We do live on a beautiful planet, and I want to explore more of it particularly my home nation, hopefully down the track we will acquire a motor home and do a bit of travelling...fingers crossed, the opportunities are endless.

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-21

Thanks Katie,

All bodes well for the future, just have to  maintain the rage, my quit smoking counsellor arrives back at work after having a month off touring interstate...I see her Thursday all going well I'll have good news to report.

What Rugby were you watching was it the France vs Wales game? I heard France stopped Wales from winning the Six Nations Trophy...

We are having more than the usual rain for March here, flooding up North

Salmon, chips and salad for tea tonight Yumm

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-21

What are a few saggy baggy bits between friends?  I'm sure they will shrink anyway, as you get fitter and healthier, and once you've recovered from your op there'll be no stopping you!

If you have the chance to get a motorhome, do it.  We've got an ancient Hymer, and it is honestly the best money we've ever spent, and the very last thing we'd sell.  In 2011-2012 we spent six months travelling in France, Spain and Portugal, and it was wonderful.  We were going to do it again this last winter but... mask     Really, truly, they are wonderful things - it makes me feel relaxed just thinking about it.

KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-22

Hi Suzy,

Congratulations on 2 weeks smoke free!! Those weeks are hard work - I salute your achievement :) How are you finding it compared with when you started?

That’s lovely you’ve found yourself branching out into more philosophical discussions with your bubble buddy. My brain feels like such a jelly these days I worry what my chat will be like when I start socialising again ha ha! And I totally know what you mean about lockdown having its pluses too - having no pressure to do anything and no guilt about staying in has been really nice. And just appreciating our immediate area, the park, buying a coffee on the weekend.

How exciting you’ve bought a boat - and from Bodge (I laughed out loud)! What sort of boat is it? My dad’s into sailing so I’ve done bits and bobs growing up. I’m sure you’ll have plenty of adventures.

My daughter was able to go back to nursery today and I managed to catch up on some work. I felt relieved she was going in, then immediately very guilty, then spent the whole day missing her! I think she had a fun day though - she was super happy when she came home and wanted to do lots of roly-polies! 
 

You’re right, kindness is so very important. I hope my daughter will grow up to be kind, but also not a doormat. I suppose it’s about being kind to oneself too. 
 

Right, time for dinner. Big well done again Suzy - now onto week 3!

Speak soon,

Katie

Quit 4th March 2017

KatieKat84

From: KatieKat84

Mar-22

Hi Anthony,

How are you doing? Yes it was the Wales v France rugby game. Poor Wales looked like they had it in the bag but France pinched it from them in overtime. Good for watching though!

Great you will have the extra support of your quit smoking counsellor this week - and that you’ll have good work to show :) 

Your salmon supper of the other night sounds tasty. We had Spanish chicken and rice tonight - one of my husband’s signature dishes :) 

Sorry it’s been flooding out your way. Here it’s a lovely time of year, beginning of spring, daffodils and warm sunshine today.

Take care Anthony,

Katie

Quit 4th March 2017

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-22

Thanks Katie - I'm very pleased to be at two weeks (and relieved too, because there were some nasty cravings today for some reason).  Generally, though, I'm feeling very determined and strong.  Talking to you and everyone else on here really helps!

Yes, it's been lovely to get to know the local area better during lockdown - in fact I can't believe how much of it we missed when we were busy driving here there and everywhere.  It's been a good lesson to slow down and just be.  Although in the first lockdown we took 'just being' a bit too far - not sure if I've told you this already, my brain is a jelly too - and found ourselves watching Netflix in our dressing gowns at 11am and having ice-cream and crisps for breakfast.

The boat IS very exciting.  It's a Westerly Pageant and is almost as old as I am, and what I really like about it is that it's slow and safe.  We're looking forward to pottering about in it next summer, catching fish for lunch maybe, and anchoring somewhere and going for a swim.  Well, that's how I see it in my head.  The reality might be getting cold and wet and stressed and divorced, but I hope not.

Your daughter going back to nursery must feel like a real milestone in getting back to normal, and how lovely that she came back happy and full of beans.   I don't think you should feel guilty about being relieved she was going - you've got stuff you've got to get on with too, and I don't think there's a parent in the land who hasn't been a bit relieved at schools reopening.  Some of my friends have literally been counting down the days...   It sounds as if nursery was good for her, and good for you too - kind to both of you, if you like.   And I agree with you about doormats, but I'm sure you don't need to worry.

Thanks again for the congratulations and support - I really do appreciate it.

Suzy

CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Mar-22

Hi Sue!  You and Marge and all my quit buddies were instrumental in my success.  I just had 3 years quit 2 weeks ago.  So glad to see you post (I don't as often as I would like either) and just wanted to let you know how you've touched my life for the better and helped me conquer this addiction.  All the Mods and my buddies were amazing through my hard times.  Thanks for still coming back to inspire others.  I try to do so too but its hard to find the right words.  Congratulations on 5 years!  That's incredible!

Jatchat

From: Jatchat

Mar-23

Congratulations Suzy  on two weeks, my how time flies, it just seems like yesterday you were making those at first tentative steps towards freedom, but you handled it like a professional. I am sure long term success awaits you.

I have just got back from some trauma counselling and like wow it was just great, I have never felt so relaxed. Anyway that's another story.

I can't wait for the rain to stop here we've had over a week non stop, I am itching to go for a walk, my wet weather gear is not the best

Another pic from when the weather was kinder

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