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February 2021 Ex-Smokers - Start Here!   Quit Buddies Unite

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From: Loreficent


Good evening Suzy!

Yes...a dressing gown day! Not often, but once in a while is good tonic for the mind and soul. Right! Fun to have someone half around the world to share it with too! I think you are 8 hours ahead of me? Yes, I’m in Portland, Oregon. Yes, it is close to Seattle, about a 3 hour drive. I lived in Seattle for 10 years and went to University there. It’s a wonderful city! I’m happy you got to visit. It’s changed a ton since then. That is back at the height of Grunge Era for music. Where you there for a bit? What time of year? Portland is a very similar city in many ways. There was much more foresight and planning that went into Portland as opposed to Seattle and the city proper has had very strict urban growth boundaries from much earlier on than Seattle did. The mass transit here was also quite a bit further ahead in planning and implementation over Seattle as well. Seattle has caught up quite well with transportation, but, is still trying to play catch up with the urban sprawl, which, in many ways cannot be done really, and it has really detracted from the city in many ways in my opinion. Still, if one can afford to live in Seattle proper, it is very lovely and there is no need for a car at all. Portland does get a bit colder in Winter and hotter in Summer than Seattle as well. My stepson lives in Seattle so I’m still there every couple of months and will always love it, but, Portland is definitely more livable for me. 
That is probably way more than you cared to hear!joy

Ive got a pleasant interruption that I’m going to tend to and will write more soon! blush

Ok, back now...  So...the moon plays with things for you? I think there is something to that. It seems to have an effect on lots of folks. 
For the NRT though, I agree with you. You’re not smoking and that’s the focus. Do you go down in doses on the lozenge like the patch? It sounds like you have many wonderful things to not only distract yourself now, but that will be there for some time, like your guitar and boat, and those will be things that you will enjoy more thoroughly in so many ways when not also dealing with the distraction of “where and when is my next fix”, right? And it’s wonderful too that Mike is supportive and encouraging. Wise too from the sounds of it as he knew enough that you would have to come to terms with it on your own. 
Ive got to be off now and get to bed. I hope your Sunday is calm and relaxing Suzy! And if not...well, get yourself some more lozenges or gum and know that soon things will turn. No need to focus on being disappointed in yourself about that. Focus on the other positive things you already spoke to noticing. The NRT will work itself out. 

Talk soon!


From: Loreficent


Hi Katie,

Oh, that will be wonderful to have the garden lunch with your folks! I’m sure they are beside themselves looking forward to it.

Thank you for sharing your story Katie, and I will write more properly tomorrow as I had intended to tonight, but I’m out of time for now unfortunately.  Will fill you in on the things you asked very soon. 

Mmm...yes she will be 18 one day, and it will still be grand, I promise! For now...wow...20 months is a very busy and demanding age, and oh such great fun! I’m surprised you have the time to write and give all you do here, but is sure is wonderful for us!

Talk soon!

Hope your Sunday is the best!


From: KatieKat84


Hi Suzy,

Mike sounds like a brick - just what you need to keep your anchored in your quit. Has he ever been a smoker (I’m assuming he doesn’t smoke now)? Quitting is the best thing you can do for yourself and your relationships, it means you can prioritise what really matters to you rather than having part of your mind thinking about smoking.

Re the NRT - please don’t beat yourself up about the lozenges. Absolutely the most important thing is that you’re not smoking and taking all those horrendous chemicals into your body. I was thinking though maybe it would help if you had a more structured plan for tapering the nrt, not something you’d have to stick to rigidly but so it’s not completely dependent on how you feel day to day? Otherwise you can sort of end up doing a quit within a quit, which could get pretty tiring. And you’re doing BRILLIANTLY in your quit, it doesn’t seem right you should be disappointed with yourself about the nrt.

I was on patches for 8-10 weeks I think, and used the inhalator on top of that for the first few weeks. I got some stop smoking support through my gp surgery and they made the plan with me on calendar. It just helped to take some of the decision-making out of it.

Hope it doesn’t sound like I’m telling you what to do! Everyone’s quit journey if different and it’s important to do what works for you. It was just a thought I had as an ‘outsider’ perspective.

Ooh I’m honoured the shoe horse will become part of the boat artwork :) would love to see a pic!

I also have so little concept of what it means to age, and what the menopause actually entails! It’s kind of bizarre how little attention it all gets in mainstream arts/media etc. I’m sorry the hrt has had its downsides for you. Are there other options you could try?

We’re having a bit of a hard day as our daughter is a bit poorly - I think it’s the after effects of her MMR booster she had the other day, poor thing. Had quite a disrupted night, and the clocks changing hasn’t helped. Hey Ho, I’m sure she’ll bounce back in a day or two.

My local lido reopens tomorrow - I cannot wait to feel that cold water on my skin!

Wishing you a lovely weekend Suzy!

Katie x 

4th March 2017


From: Suzy2018


Thanks for the encouragement, Anthony - with the quit and with the music - and I'm looking forward to making a joyful noise on the guitar one day.  I suspect that Mike and the neighbours are looking forward to that day too, probably even more than I am.  

More photos please, any time you like!  Don't feel pressured - you've got enough going on at the moment what with getting ready for the op - but they are just so peaceful and lovely and you've definitely got a talent for it.  By the way, I read something somewhere about hip replacements - can't remember exactly what it said, but the gist of it was that it's the best value operation there is in terms of improving quality of life.  You'll be hiking up and down hills and taking photos again in no time - and not having to stop for breath either.

Thanks for the  positivity too - liberation from bondage is exactly what quitting smoking is.  I've been a bit wobbly the last couple of days, so it's really good to hear.



From: Suzy2018


Hi Lore,

I love hearing about Seattle and Portland, don't worry about that!  I also thought it was a beautiful city, and we were actually really impressed with the monorail!  If Portland's transport system is better than that it must be amazing.

We were there for a fortnight for work, and I think it would have been May or early June 1988.  People from the company we were working for took us to Pike Street Market (?) which was also amazing - I remember every kind of fresh fish, and just a real bustle and life about the place.  We also went up the Space Needle - had to, even though I hate heights - and to a tiny little cafe which specialised in baked eggs.  It was called Ma somebody's, and it was so popular they were queuing down the street.  I also remember a trip to see a sort of wind sculpture in Oregon somewhere - it's all a bit hazy from 30+ years ago, but there was a group of metal flagpole-like structures, and when the wind blew through them they seemed to sing.  Maybe I imagined it, but if you know where I'm talking about, please say.

Yes, the moon does seem to affect me, but I might be imagining that too!  I don't think so, but I'll need a few more months of logging moods alongside lunar cycles before I could say for sure.  It's not like I turn into a werewolf or anything - I just seem to get a bit edgy and hyper and start thinking that gin at 4pm is a fine idea (which, sadly, it very rarely is).

Thanks for reminding me of all the positive things happening, and I hope you have lots of positive things happening too. I'm also very intrigued by your pleasant interruption, and can't help wondering what it was...  Obviously no need to say if it's private!

Hope you have a calm, relaxing Sunday too, and talk soon.


From: Jatchat


You're welcome Suzy,

Anything I can do to help, though I had a few nicotine urges this morning but as quick as they come they went, DELAY is a good one Delay acting on a urge.

Anyway go in for a skin check today at 11 AM, that should  be fine.. other than that a blank canvas, hope all is well in the UK

Kind regards



From: Suzy2018


Hi Katie, and I'm really sorry to hear that your daughter's been poorly.  It's in a very good cause - vaccination is a modern miracle as far as I'm concerned - but it's so hard to see them unhappy and not be able to do much to make it better.   I really hope she's back to her normal fizzy little self soon, and that you all get a better night's sleep tonight. 

Yes, Mike is a brick.  He is kind and lovely and clever and funny, and I feel as if I must have done something REALLY amazing in a previous life to deserve him.   Then again, our friends tell me that he's a millstone round my neck - sometimes even an albatross (they can be very unkind!) - and that he's lucky to have me.  Our friends are lovely too, btw - they just tend to have a dry sense of humour; at least, that's what I tell Mike relaxed.  We are so looking forward to seeing them again, and to hugs and parties and all that stuff which we used to take for granted but which seems so very precious now.   

Mike doesn't smoke at the moment - he quit about a month before me - but we both have lots of triggers to come.  We used to smoke on the boat, for example, but the good thing is that neither of us want to do that again.  It'll still feel a bit weird I'm sure, but we're pretty determined, both of us.  And if we don't buy the wretched stuff and put it on the boat, we can't smoke anyway (unless we feel like a late-night cold-water swim, which I have to say is quite unlikely). Glad your lido is reopening tomorrow.  Let me know how it goes?

I agree with you completely about structuring the nicotine withdrawal, and you're definitely not telling me what to do.  I wouldn't mind if you were, but you're not.  I think I just thought that I could get by with a bit of gum and then go to the patches, but I don't really like the gum so my nicotine levels really plummeted, and then I started getting horrible cravings and thinking of reasons why I really ought to smoke.  It doesn't help that my toothache is back with a vengeance (which made the gum even less nice to use).  I think the tooth is broken and will need to come out.  The way I'm feeling at the moment I'll be really grateful to be rid of it, but it's another thing I could really do without at the moment, and another sign that I really am starting to get old!  So I won't beat myself up about the NRT for now, but it IS something I want to address soon.

Ageing - how weird, but how wonderful too.  As Freddie Mercury said, who wants to live forever?  But I would still like a bit more of this beautiful ride, and I'd like that time to be as healthy as possible, too.  It's more than time I quit poisoning myself, and - slight wobbles aside - I AM really glad, pleased, proud and amazed to be nearly three weeks free.   I didn't think I could do it, and you really have helped so much!

Here's a photo of the horseshoe buoy (and Mike!).  You have to imagine the bracket between 'sea' and 'horse' and the lettering is definitely a bit amateurish, but it's legible and I'm still really pleased.  If I'm drowning and someone throws it to me, I won't complain.  No actual horseshoe yet, and looking at it I'm not sure that either it or a seahorse logo will work, but if I don't put a horseshoe on the front of it I will definitely put a little one somewhere to remind me of you.

Hope you have a lovely weekend too.

Suzy x


From: Suzy2018


No, HERE'S a photo of the horseshoe boy.  I am officially old AND technically challenged...


From: Suzy2018


You really do help, Anthony!  Another really lovely photograph, and I hope the skin check goes well.

All fine here - another smoke-free day. x


From: Loreficent


I think these are my favorites so far. I can just close my eyes and transport right there and...ahhhh...absolutely breathtaking. I can only imagine what these views would be like in person Anthony. They are truly a breath of fresh air in and of themselves. What a wonderful moment you must have had taking that all in! And with a full, deep clean breath to boot! Mmmm. Thank you so much.