About Smoking Cessation Forum

Hosted by Terry (abquitsmking)

Formerly known as the About.com Smoking Cessation support forum, this community is open to all who are recovering from nicotine addiction.

  • 5136
    MEMBERS
  • 274586
    MESSAGES
  • 8
    POSTS TODAY

Discussions

March 2021 New Ex-Smokers - Start Here   Quit Buddies Unite

Started Feb-28 by Terry (abquitsmking); 38186 views.
oxanquits

From: oxanquits

Mar-14

Hi Suzy, congrats on your day 7 now?! I am on day 3! But it would be hard without this forum. Today I had another trigger finding out about some issues of my brother, nothing really bad, but made me stressed. Then I came here and read that you had similar kind of stress lately and didn't give up, this helped me a lot, thank you for sharing.

oxanquits

From: oxanquits

Mar-14

Nope62 said:

We all have stress in our lives. But smoking will not help that stress. Your mind might be telling you that a cigarette will relieve your stress, but your being lied to by that nicotine monster.

Saving this for myself grimacing

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Mar-14

Good morning Oxana, what a beautiful name by the way!

Glad to see you still here! You are doing a very kind thing for yourself and you deserve to be an ex smoker. You’ve had plenty of time as a smoker, as we all have who are here, and now it is time for a 180° degree turn toward a healthier, brighter, likely longer future. For some reason thinking that earlier on helped me. I’d get a tsunami crave and close my eyes and take a deep deep breath and see myself in my minds eye slowly turning toward the beautiful sunshine and going in the other direction. I’d stop at 180° and stay there for a moment, basking in the sun, soaking in the sounds of life and breath and thank myself for allowing myself the kindness, and above all for giving myself the gift and the chance to carry on, leaving the old way behind. Visualization helped. Actually stopping in the moment and reigning my mind back in from the tangent that it at times was quickly starting to go off on, and seeing it as just that, an irrational tangent that one small piece of me was feeling a need to fill. I’d tell it that it couldn’t have the nicotine for fulfillment and that this wasn’t deprivation, but a choice and I gave it other choices. Perhaps nice cold water drank slowly and focusing  on the feeling of the swallowing, perhaps a quick hand rub which kept my hands busy, sometimes a little whiff from a bottle of essential oils I carry, sometimes brushing my hair and focusing on how nice it smelled smoke free...something that stimulated one of my senses. Sometimes just walking and taking in all the shades of green, the color of life and growth, noting the shades and subtle differences and likening them to myself; my moods, my renewing body. 
Yes, there are moments we can work ourselves into a snit and quickly become overwhelmed with a false feeling of deprivation. Each and every time you walk through that and don’t smoke, each time, we get a slight bit stronger. At first we don’t feel that or notice. But trust yourself! You above all others. Believe you are doing it because right now you are doing it. You’re living it!  Don’t focus on hoping to, or that you want to, or anything...just focus on that moment, on what you ARE doing, riding this big strong wave and there you are, right on top, head always above the water, riding the wave in to shore. All waves end at the shore somewhere. All of them. Some become part of a bigger wave, and that’s how they make it in, but...they all land on shore. In that moment...you are just riding the wave in, all along knowing the destination. We all know how to do this, we just need to allow ourselves to do this. Give yourself permission not to smoke to make it. Keep walking with yourself. One foot in front of the other, one at a time. We are walking with you on our own parallel journeys. Let the momentum build....

CC to JatchatSuzy2018
Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Mar-14

Meant to cc you on the above as well...

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Mar-14

Good morning Debbie, welcome back!

Nice to see a fellow Oregonian here. I’m in lovely Portland which seems to be just bursting forth these past few days with a beautiful Spring of a week, yes? So many things suddenly bursting forth with their new colors and growth, just like you! Yay! 

Mercy (mercy164)

From: Mercy (mercy164)

Mar-14

Hi,

Nice to meet you. It has been beautiful.  We have had a helluva winter so I am welcoming the lovely weather with open arms. Are you born and raised in Oregon? Good to know you're right down the road so if I start yelling and pulling my hair out you might hear me and help! Lol. I get a bit emotional time to time when quitting.

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-14

Hi Oxana, and thank you!

I smoked until last Sunday night and it's still only 9.30pm Sunday here, so I'm thinking I'm still only on Day 6 really. The full celebration will be tomorrow, but I AM quite proud of myself already - lots of sh!t hitting the fan, and somehow I still didn't smoke.  I think without this forum I would have, and it's a bit of a mystery to me really.   I know I could smoke  if I wanted to, but I already feel connected to you and other people here, and it makes a real difference.  I hope your brother is ok, and that you are too.   Whatever the issues are, smoking wouldn't solve them - only delay them for a bit and damage your health in the process.  Hard to believe I know, and that's the big struggle for us all - but I do really believe that that's true.

Take care, and I hope you stay strong and that we talk soon.    In the meantime, congratulation on three days - that is huge, and well done you.

Suzy

Suzy2018

From: Suzy2018

Mar-14

Thank you, Lori - that is beautiful and helpful. xx

Cazza2468

From: Cazza2468

Mar-14

Yay Suzy

1whole week done and dusted. Time to move onto week 2.  You are doing a marvellous job.  I am going to be right here yelling from the bleachers as you keep on conquering this challenge 

missus caz

Nope62

From: Nope62

Mar-15

 Congratulations on your one week quit! Don't you feel just a little better?

You have a great attitude and that goes a long way on this journey!

Take Care!

TOP