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Be kind to yourself. You can do this. Remember when you stopped before and had a few days under your belt? Remember how empowering that was? You can and will feel that way again. Those smokes you’re reaching for won’t do it. They have done nothing for us all of these years. But getting some time away from them? Ahhhhh. That’s a good feeling. You are building that feeling moment by moment. Focus on the gain. You aren’t missing anything.
Have a good day. Be in the moment and enjoy the feeling of letting go. You got this.
thanks lore - i appreciate the response . today is the only thing i have to deal with - feeliing strong and happy that i don't have to reach for that imaginary pack . is it only in my mind that i really want to smoke otherwise the physical withdrawl has been minor so far.
"smoking does absolutely nothing for you" per allen carr
so why do it?
i am an addict and will always be so. i need to accept that and move on..
I remember reading Carrs book a while back "the nicotine monster" dying slowly, but only to awaken if we have one cigarette. so true. It is true to look at smoking as an addiction but I would also say a habit, the hand to mouth, the deep inhaling we do with cigs, and the socialization we get from other smokers. I think I have wrote it in the past that when we quit smoking and become non smokers, we have to literally reinvent ourselves, cause our identity was tied that image of smoking and now we have to create a new image in our mind and life.
Habit and addiction; they go hand in hand. We are powerless to both. I loved many things about my smoking. It gave me something to do when I was bored, I enjoyed the commonality with other smokers and the ritual of lighting, drawing and exhaling the smoke. Lots of other pleasures that I would like to forget.
Yes, it is a challenge to reinvent ourselves since we have been playing the same old game for all of these years. It feels clumsy after finishing a meal and reaching for my pack but it's not there. Oh, that's right "Ï no longer smoke" is the phrase that I repeat in my mind. As if I have to re-convince myself that I really don't want to smoke anymore.
It is really no big deal, just don't take that first puff, tuff it out and the feeling will eventually go away. Stay strong and keep your commitment clear in your mind. You are doing this for a very important reason. You!
Hello Andrew... Hello everyone....
I did not end up quitting the nicotine lozenges as I had hoped to and proudly exclaimed. I wish I could say more. I am disappointed in myself. I am going through a lot of adjustments in life. But Andrew.... It is great to hear that you have a few quit days under your belt!
Yes, habit and addiction go hand in hand. I have both when it comes to the lozenges. Habits can be changed and broken. And addiction can also be broken once we KNOW that we are and that we do not have to remain addicted. It is the difference between believing you are addicted and believing you can break the addiction. We have to make that choice in our heads.
I know I am... i don't know really. I can be free of nicotine... Have been for months, sometimes years.... But then something happens and I become addicted again. I will continue to keep you all posted.
Keep on keeping on!!!
Thought of something JUST NOW and would like to share! We are not addicted to nicotine. We are addicted to the feelings nicotine gives us. We are addicted to the relaxation, the stress relief.... And as Alan Carr states.... We are addicted to the IMAGE that goes hand in hand with it. We fall prey to a belief that it is glamorous or cool to smoke. Or we fall prey to thinking of cigarettes as our friend. We are addicted to addicted to addictive thoughts. But before we have these thoughts, we have feelings and emotions. These we CAN and must control if we want to change addictive thinking. How do we change our emotions? We stay busy or we must learn to just shut them down. We need to break free of the IMAGE. Or at least I know I have to. It gets me all the time. I hope this post helps out!
You think that the only thing that can give you relaxation and stress relief is the nicotine. Nicotine is a poison. In small doses, it effects the endorphins in your brain to create dopamine (the pleasure chemical in your brain). Exercise can do the very same thing. Actually, so can chocolate. There are hundreds of other ways to create relaxation and stress relief. Floating on water! Petting a cat or a dog. Simple mindful meditation, in haling and exhaling deep breaths.
What you need to do is find the replacement/distraction (the GOT TO) that is adequate and available to you and you need to choose that GO TO instead of popping nicotine lozenges (or smoking cigarettes). It is YOUR CHOICE. You decide not to commit murder, not to lie, and not to put things in your mouth. Make the choice and stand your ground with yourself. Three days and the nicotine is out of your system. Three weeks and the habit is replaced with a new habit. Three months and its history.
So, what is your GO TO?
Good to hear from you. Sounds like you are dealing with the same old stuff, Yea I can releate to your situation. I have been smoke-free for 5 days now. I too am using lozenges to ease the cravings.
I know you are dealing with a lot of stressors in your life. How is your new job going? Stay focused and you WILL overcome this in due time.
I found a substitute for the lozenges. It's called Nicotine pouches.they are little pouches with some kind of organic material laced with nicotine. They come in different flavors and are placed in your mouth between the lip and gums, and have a lifspan of 20 minutes or so and deliver 4mg of nicotine very quickly. I find them to have a slight "charge" much like taking long draws on a cigerette. Just a suggestion. It's still nicotine and does not help with addiction, but is an effective source of the drug.
Fourtunatley I have not suffered any significant withdrawls, I believe the pouches have been helping and I also eat 4 or 5 lozenges a day. Unfortunatly we will be addicts for the rest of our lives but hopefully we can eliminate the physical need to smoke. We are on our own when it comes to what you call addictive thinking. I've always said that it is easy to quit but difficult to stay quit.
No sense in being disapointed in yourself. That only harbors self doubt and affects your self esteem. Tell yourself that you are worthy of this effort, give youself credit for continuing to fight. You will be victorious in time. just don't give up and go easy on yourself. You are doing the best you can for today.
Again, good hearing from you. I look forward to reading your posts in the future.
Thank you for your words of encouragement Andrew. The pouches you mention, sound a lot like the lozenges I am using. I do believe I can quit completely, if I choose to, ad you say, STAY quit. It is wonderful that you have five days of quit success under your belt.
I find that what helps me most to quit or at least lengthen the amount of time spent between sucking the lozenges, is staying busy. Keeping my mind clear and sharp and focused on getting things done, rather than giving leeway to ruminating over a lozenge. Once I hit a patch of laziness, I give my mind license to daydream about sucking on a lozenge. Once I daydream about a lozenge, I contemplate on it, I ruminate and focus on sucking the lozenge. Before I know it, I convince myself that I miss lozenges and need one at that very moment.
So one of the keys for me is stay busy and keep my mind clear and fresh! I hope this suggestion helps both of us out. As always, I wish you the best!
The 'Habit' we are talking about is no different than the habit of crack addict putting a pipe to their mouth, or a heroin addict who swears they love the ceremony habit of the needle preparation and puncture. Nicotine is just more readily acceptable and available. It's not a habit, it's connotation. The link between circumstances under which the drug is delivered (after meal) , and delivery method, (cigarette) . An animal figures out that when it is thirsty, it can go to the brook nearby and drink water, which would quench its thirst. It's not a habit, it is survival learning mechanism. And guess what, nicotine hijacks your brain part that deals with learning to survive, so that it views nicotine satisfaction on the same level as getting drink and food.
A habit is eating a toast for breakfast every day, or being late.