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September 2022 Ex-Smokers    Quit Buddies Unite

Started Sep-2 by Denim50; 2603 views.
Marjorie1244

From: Marjorie1244

Sep-6

Hi Douglas8845,  thank you for your encouragement,  wow havent you done great , I am in my 4th week , have good and bad days , I do a day a time at moment and agree it does get easier but not easy . Marjorie1244 

Hi Majorie,

That is awesome that you are in your 4th week!  Keep up the great work and let us know if we can help you along the way.  One day at a time is absolutely the way to go!

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Douglas8845

From: Douglas8845

Sep-8

Hi Marjorie,

You've reached four weeks and must be thinking "damn, this quit is real..." I remember being at that very spot.  "It's real, what was impossible is actually happening..." I was going to protect this quit with my life.  And I'm still quit.  I used to think that i was an addict in remission. The reality is different. I'm not an addict, I never think about lighting one of my Marlboro 100s red with my trusty Zippo  lighter. The smell of lighter fluid is unforgettable,  but I never think about it.  I never dream about smoking.   Now i think, "! was a smoker, now I'm not." I enjoy coming here, it keeps my quit fresh, reminding me of my victory over nicotine. I am a nonsmoker, but i never take my quit lightly or for granted.

You're doing this Marjorie, protect it with your life.

A big congrats for doing the impossible.

Best

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Sep-20

Hi Douglas,

Always happy to see you on here! I wrote something the other day and tried to cc you but it seems there is a limit to how many folks can be cc’d. I got a very reassuring and supportive reply from AnnieXS which was incredibly helpful and validating. 
 

I’m about 2 and a half years and chugging along really well, with huge eternal thanks to this Forum. The last week or so I’ve been hearing that little addict voice with its subtle, seductive lure of rationalization. It sucks! Big time. Sorry to be so blunt, but there really isn’t a way to sugar coat it. It plain and simple outright sucks. 
 

Im not sure if you saw my post. I don’t want to be redundant and rewrite everything; it is under the Quit Support tab titled “Mind games”. I feel a ton better for sure with Annie’s reply. I am curious though if you recall at what point you realized you weren’t an addict in remission any longer? I’m still waiting for that total acceptance I think. Maybe I’m afraid of it…? I do think I’m not quite ready to let my guard down completely. I say that because of the mind games that have been going on in my head lately. Something else I just realized is I almost just wrote “the mind games I’ve been playing with myself lately “. I stopped myself from writing that because really, on a conscious level, I am not purposely having those thoughts! Which makes it even more frustrating really. The thoughts I’m having seem to just come right out of the blue. Now in my rational state I understand they are my thoughts in my own mind somewhere and whether conscious or not I am the one having or creating them. But it pisses me off to have to take responsibility for something that is happening in my lucid and sound, wakeful state without my wise mind’s permission! Ugh.

Ok…so I just realized I just wrote a whole bunch of what seems to be circuitous natter and kind of lost sight of my question joy. Well, you’ve been here since I was a newbie and are probably used to that from me, haha. I think basically I am very interested if you recall a specific kind of timeline over the last decade where when you look back you see definite kind of milestones? I would imagine that becoming a kidney donor to your brother was a huge factor in a lot of your thoughts in many areas of your life, but probably a lot for the smoking too? Was that a point where you just knew “I’m done forever and I don’t ever have to think about smoking again”? 
I want to be at that point. I want the deep, unwavering belief in myself as a nonsmoker. I thought I had it but that seductive little voice lives…..

Thank goodness I don’t have smoking dreams at least! My heart goes out to folks that have those. 

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tonypfan

From: tonypfan

Sep-20

Hi Denim:  Am having difficulty negotiating thus website. I’m trying to locate a post I sent to ALLariund Sept 18, or thereabouts. It was about my moment of reve. Can’t find it. If you find it can find it please forward it to me. Thank you. 
anthiny

tonypfan

Loreficent

From: Loreficent

Sep-20

Hi Anthony,

As much as I love this Forum, it is clunky. Not sure this will help, but I’ll tell you one thing I have to check when I’m looking for something. You maybe already have done this…

At the top of the list on the left where it shows “Discussions” there is a little sub folder that has a drop arrow right below the word “Discussions”. Set that drop arrow to “All” and it opens all the folders of topics.

If you remember what folder you posted it in that may help you find it. Good luck!

Douglas8845

From: Douglas8845

Sep-20

Hi Lore, 

If I were to think back to the first few years of my quit I would say that up until the end of the fourth year the solidity of my quit wasn't yet a reality.  There was no question that i had quit. However, occasional thoughts would sometimes creep up on me, seemingly out of nowhere, suggesting that it was ok to consider having a smoke. After all i had clearly become a successful quitter.  These thoughts were very persuasive and therefore very dangerous.  When they occurred I would remind myself of how hard it had been to quit and to stay quit.  I would think of the huge regret those who had thrown away their quit for "just one" felt. How they loathed and despised themselves for such a miserable reward. 

Most who had quit confessed that when they lit the first smoke it tasted awful, how it made them dizzy.  Many would  light a few more to confirm how awful cigarettes were. Then they would tell themselves that they would finish the pack and return to their nonsmoking life.  By then the damage had been done, they had willingly fallen into the powerful grip of nicotine addiction again.  Having "just one" is like lighting a stick of dynamite and playing with it.

I can go on and on about this. The bottom line is, I knew I had a simple decision to make.  I could smoke zero cigarettes, or an endless  stream of tens of thousands of Marlboro 100 reds.  I chose Option 1,

One more thing: I have never met a former quitter who was glad they gave up their quit to become smokers again. Not one single one.

Don't  over think it, the choice is clear, just don't  smoke.

Anne2020

From: Anne2020

Sep-20

I would add that, I have friends that, even after 20 years quit, they tend romance that one smoke.  I think I do that as well from time to time but I know that it is a wolf is sheep's clothing. 

Not smoking is a conscious choice we have to make everyday to maintain our non-smoking lifestyle, everyday.    

    

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BenNetty

From: BenNetty

Sep-20

Thanks my quit day is sept 21, I will be checking in often for support.

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