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Smoke Free Warriors 2018   Quit Buddies Unite

Started 7/31/18 by slowblumer; 279081 views.
Rassister

From: Rassister

Jul-14

Hi Brian and Denim,  

It was nice to hear from you Brian.  I am cc email to Denim.  Could one of you please forward on to cyndi as well?   I have not been on the forum for so long.  I did see a post from Gloria.  I think that I did reply.  I , like you do not think of those smokes anymore.  I’m happy to hear that you have retired and are taking up some new outlets in your free time.   I am so excited that you will be going to Iceland.  I have some friends who went there and said it was amazing!   I don’t know if they went when it was dark!   Hi To Denim.  I hope you are doing ok and enjoying some good times this summer!  I know it has been sooo long since I have reached out to others.  It is embarrassing and I apologize.   It appears to me that every time I think that things are improving and things will get easier, another surprise pops up to send me down a different path!   I resigned from my job in May2021.   I did make it to the last day!   In June, my lease ran out and I moved to Maryland to live with my son and his family until I could get my act together.   I was there for five days and am now in New Jersey living with my brother  and sister in law who are both 79.  He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer and my sister in law has Alzheimer’s.   It is quite a mess but the good news is that so far my brother is doing well with his treatments.  He will have surgery in late August or early September.  My niece will come here and relieve me in August.  I need to establish residency in MD ( get license, find doctors and hug my grandkids) before I return  in September.  I can’t imagine what I would do if I was still smoking!!!!!  So nice to hear from my non smoking buddies on this forum.   Enjoy the rest of your summer and your trip to Iceland!   
  

CC to Denim50
CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Jul-14

Hi all!!!  Good to hear from you for sure!!!  I feel bad not getting on here as much too, Marilyn.  Life keeps getting in the way.  Brian, I am so jealous of your trip to Iceland.  That sounds so amazing and beautiful.  You are going to have to post some pictures when you get back for sure.  Glad you're enjoying your retirement and golfing too.  Marilyn, I understand about thinking things will get better and another challenge pops up.  Hopefully things will settle for you soon.  Wow so much has changed for you in the last 3 years...it's crazy!  Denim, hope all is going well with you and hope to hear from you soon!

As for me, life has been super super stressful.  My mom fell and was put in a home in Alabama in February so they finally decided it was right to move back to Ohio.  So Gary and I went down there in March to help my dad start cleaning all their stuff in their trailer and get it up for sale.  OMG!!!  They are borderline hoarders!!!  Maybe not even borderline...lol!  There was SO MUCH STUFF in that trailer it was craziness.  In a week I donated over 50 garbage bags of stuff and threw out another 80.  My dad rented a storage unit.  Didn't even feel like we touched the surface by the time we left.  My parents literally aged 20 years since we last saw them in October.  I don't even know what happened.  Then we had to figure out how to sell everything (lot, trailer, shed building, etc.).  To make a long story short, my dad found a buyer (so lucky) and they were suppose to close 5/20 so we planned to go down 6/8 to get my mom out of the home and move them back.  What a nightmare!!!  The home was supposed to be doing rehab with her (we couldn't visit because of COVID) and when we go to get her to drive back to Ohio, she can't even stand on her own.  We dropped her in the parking lot in Kentucky and some poor young guy had to help us get her in the car.  It took almost an hour.  It was nothing short of a miracle getting all of this done and getting them back up here.  We're still dealing with so much stuff every day and she really needs in-house care because my dad is not able to handle her.   They are living 1 1/2 hours away from where I live so that doesn't help much (yeah...that's where they wanted to go).  I'm going in next week to meet with a new doctor since they obviously can't communicate their needs.  I have used 2 1/2 weeks of my vacation time so far this year with no vacation. 

Next is my husband who is losing weight and bloated and weak for no reason.  He got his covid vaccine in May and also our dog attacked him in bed (for no reason) and he got 10 stitches.  Since then, either one of those things or some other health thing is wearing him down.  I suspect liver problems because he drinks every day.  We have an appt on Friday with our doctor and I'm going to lay out everything (and he's not going to like it).

Still not smoking though....I've def thought about it lately but I don't want to go back there.  I think about you guys all the time and our first year together.  I'm really happy we stay in touch...even if it is every 6-7 months.  It's really nice to hear from Molly, Gloria (sorry about your dad), Lori, JR and others too!

Sorry for the long post.  Hugs to you all and let's try to keep in touch more often.  Happy Summer!!  Hugs!

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-14

Brian,

Hope you don't mind me replying to your post.  It's so good to hear from all of you quit buddies. Today seems like having a family reunion.  I didn't know you had retired so wanted to say a big congratulations on retirement.  

My next door neighbors went to Iceland a couple of years ago for their honeymoon.  I thought that was an odd place for somebody in Tennessee to go on a honeymoon but recently I saw a show about Iceland and they were covering some on the city you are planning to go to at Christmas.  That should be a fantastic trip! And as always you can't go wrong on a trip to Las  Vegas.  Gloria was planning to go before the pandemic hit and I hope she gets to go eventually.  We had a group that went to Vegas twice while we were working together but that was in the 1990s. I won $6000 the first 24 hours and when we touched down at home the next week I still had $200 of it in my pocket. LOL Hey, at least I was playing on their money most of the trip. 

I'm planning to work about 5 more years if my health holds up.  I got a pacemaker last year in February at the start of the pandemic and it made me feel better but it has slowed me down somewhat.  We had been doing a lot of cruises over the past 10 years because we get them free through the ship casinos but this pandemic put a stop to the Cruises for now.  Even if they allowed them to start back up I'm not sure I would be comfortable getting on a ship with that many people yet.  

Glad to hear you have been getting plenty of golf time in your retirement. Also glad to hear you are still going strong in your quit.  I really felt bad for the folks who were struggling to quit last year through the stress of the pandemic.  It's hard enough quitting without a stress like that added to it.

I hope the second half of your summer goes as good as it sounds like the first half has been.

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-14

Marylin,

Gonna jump in here and reply to you too.  I was actually thinking about you yesterday and wondering if you were still on the forum.  It's amazing how so many of us have been successful with our quits from just a few months apart in 2018.  Sounds like you have really been on the move lately but I hope you will be able to get back to where you want to be and get settled in.  

I think of all of you who were so instrumental in helping me with my quit on a regular basis.  Just seems like time is flying by and without realizing it...a few months have gone by and I haven't even checked the Forum.  I've been checking back in some here lately.  Overdoz and Anthony have been posting in this month's July quit chat.  I really admire both of them for refusing to give up on their quit.  That takes stamina and determination.

It's been a treat to read your post. Hope things settle down for you soon.

JR (DPartonFan)

From: JR (DPartonFan)

Jul-14

Cindi,

Gotta jump in here and say hi to you too.  Sounds like you have really had a time getting things arranged for your parents.  Hope the doctors can figure out what is going on with your husband.  It's scary to have symptoms like that a not really have a clue what is causing them.  I agree that you need to let the doctor know everything that is going on so they can maybe get it figured out.  

It really is easy to remember that old friend the cigarette when we get stressed but so thankful that we have been able to break the addiction and realize what a dangerous friend we had.  I was saying in a post the other day that smoking seems like something I did in another lifetime.....in another galaxy, far, far away. LOL  But sometimes people do start back after a long period of quitting and so I just keep reminding myself to be aware of how easy I could go back to smoking in a stressful situation.

I hope the situation with your parents gets better too.  Hang in there and keep in touch especially if you just need somewhere to vent frustration.  

Rassister

From: Rassister

Jul-14

Hi Cindi,

I have read your post multiple times today before replying!  Just when I think my life is a total mess, all I need to do is turn the page and read someone else’s story!   It is hard to imagine what you have been through and continue to live on a daily basis.  My heart goes out to you on this journey. You have tried for so long to have your parents move closer to you.  I hope that the community that they now live in has a senior support services center that can assist you with finding them care and medical help.  It sounds like independent living is no longer an option.   In two short days you will have to find out what is happening with your husband.  From what you posted, it does not sound good.   I want you to know that I will be thinking of you and hoping that YOU will be able to find assistance for both your parents and and your husband.  I don’t really think of cigarettes anymore to calm me down but I sure do continue to need help with calming down and focusing on what I need to do.   The last three years have been a real test for me both emotionally and physically. I do try to take some time” for me “every morning (about 30 minutes) to decompress and focus on the day ahead one hour at a time!  Take care of you first so that you can tackle all the mess that keeps coming your way.   I just want you to know that I will be thinking of you in the weeks and months ahead.  May you find the support you need and peace in the fact that you are doing what your are able to do.   Hugs, Marilyn  

Rassister

From: Rassister

Jul-14

Hey JR,  

what a treat it was to hear from Brian, Cindi and then you today.  We did hang together in 2018 and I will forever be grateful for this gift of freedom from  the nicotine and the smoke!!   
it sounds like you have had to fight your medical battles this past year with your heart. I see that you are still working and doing well I hope.   I did not know that I would be caring for my brother and sister in law right now but I know that I am where I am supposed to be.  My support is very much needed and appreciated.   I have to admit that I could no longer work due to the stress of my job.   I was unable to teach my special needs students using a computer.  I am 62 and I really do believe that I was not able to provide the quality education that they deserved.  Now, I am ok.  I no longer want to teach after 38 years.  I want to life a life that is meaningful.   I am doing that now and have no idea where this journey will take me.  Thanks so much for reaching out and saying hello.  Wishing you good health, peace and happiness my friend!!!  I love Dolly too!  I miss Kenny Rogers and Carrie is my inspiration

all the best

Marilyn ,     

CindiS319

From: CindiS319

Jul-15

Hello my friends,

Marilyn I'm so sorry you had to read all that multiple times.  I didn't mean to unload on all of you.  I'm dealing with all of it and I guess it's just something unfortunately we have to do when our parents are aging.  I will let you all know how it all turns out and trying to spare you the details.  A really funny story about all this -- my dad is a retired Cleveland police and a tough guy all my life.  Since March, I've pretty much been taking care of all his details and keeping him in line.  Whenever someone asks him something (including my mom when she was in the home), he'd say "You'll have to talk to my lawyer".  My mom asked "Who's that?" and he'd say "Your daughter!"  Poor guy made some really bad decisions that I had to back out or take care of...so now he refers to me as "his lawyer".  It's actually pretty funny if you knew my dad.

Regarding my husband's health...you reap what you sow.  He drinks, smokes and eats horrible..so what do you expect?!?  I'll do whatever I can to help him but he pretty much made his bed.  When the doctor told me, you keep smoking, you will will die earlier than you may want.  Guess what?  I quit smoking.  Was it hard?  Hardest thing in my life, but I did it.  I'm sorry but I don't feel sorry for him.  He knows what he does.  And I am going to throw him under the bus to his doctor on Friday.  I am not his nursemaid...I have enough on my plate.  Sorry if that sounds hard.

Anyway, so good to hear from all of you today.  It brightened my day so much!!!  Miss you all and hoping you are enjoying the Summer so far.

Denim50

From: Denim50

Jul-15

Gloria, 

There was quite a bit of time that my presence here was hit and miss during the last year and a half, due to personal reasons. However, I’m back regularly now and trying to lend a hand, as we were given one. 

I’m sorry I’m so late responding. I’m also so sorry to hear about you Dad’s passing earlier this year. I know how difficult it is when parents pass. Caring thoughts are with you. 

I’m also sorry to hear about your ankle and that it was still mending in June. I hope it is fully recovered by now and no longer bothersome for you. 

I’m sending you a pm. I hope you get it. I have no idea why but a few haven’t gone through. 

It’s been a extremely hot Summer lately but I’ll not complain after last Winter’s cold. I hope this coming Winter will be a bit milder, fingers crossed anyway. 

A friend of mine and her mother both caught COVID-19. Thankfully my friend recovered. However, her mother passed on unfortunately. I’m not sure of anyone who hasn’t known someone that’s had it. Now there’s that new Variant going around. I’m starting to wonder at this point if it will ever truly go away, but I do hope it will eventually. 

Can you believe it’s been three years for everyone this year? Three years seems so amazing from where we all started just trying to make it to one, much less three. Two more years and we’ll be swapping our key for wings at five years. So happy we all road the roller coaster together. 

I want to post to the others too, so I’m going to go ahead and post this to you. I was going to write everything here and cc it to everyone but it won’t let me cc it to that many names, so I’m writing quick notes to everyone individually. Talk more soon.  
 


 

Denim50

From: Denim50

Jul-15

Hey Molly, 

As I told Gloria, for a while I was on and off the forum for personal reasons. I missed quite a few post because of it. However, I’m here regularly now trying to offer a hand as one was given to us, thankfully. I’m also trying to catch up on messages I missed. Speaking of our quits, can you believe we all celebrate three years this year? It amazes me. So glad to have ridden that roller coaster with all of you. Wasn’t easy when we started out but together we did it. Even harder to believe, can you imagine in just to more short years we’ll be exchanging those hard fought for keys for wings?  

I hope your boyfriend’s health has been improving since your last post about it. How is he doing? How are you? I hope you both are well now. 

I was sorry to hear about your fur baby passing. That’s a beautiful picture you posted though in memory. I hope there’s something that can be done to help your other fur baby with the degenerative disk disease. 

I’m also sorry to hear about your friend passing on. A good friend of ours died last month too. It made no sense to me, he went in the hospital for hernia surgery and didn’t recover from it. 

I hope you’re enjoying the Summer. I’m hoping to make at least one more trip before the Fall sets in. 

I’ve got a couple of projects I’m trying to get done around here too, hopefully also before the Fall. 

I don’t want to cut this short but I’m trying to post quick notes to everyone here, to respond, keep in touch, and say hi. I’ll try to write more later though. Talk again soon.  

 

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