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More8/17/19
Hang in there, Robin. I lost it days before 9 months on a previous quit, too. Looking back, it seems like one of those times when my brain and body were going through cessation changes again. Overall, though, I felt so much "better" and thought it would be ok to smoke. WRONG. I'm in there with Liz...I still feel "something missing" and don't yet feel like my old self. I still feel like my "quit self", which gets on my nerves occasionally. I finally realized that with all things--if I wanted to get good at something, it took practice. Cessation is no different.
For me, some of the mood stuff was there anyway--I just used smoking to numb it. Menopause, kids, work stress--who wouldn't want to smoke, eat, drink wine, or get crabby as hell! The smell and the cough are strong memories that are keeping me quit. I had a cough and shortness of breath during allergy season that was SO scary.
Hang in there!!!! I'm finding these cycles are temporary and they ARE cycles. It's taken me a while to accept/tolerate the downward mood/want-to-smoke cycle. If I hadn't blown it before, I would be at more risk right now. I notice that I avoid stress and people when I'm on a downward part of the cycle, and my family has had to adjust. At the end of a tough day(s), I just tell them I'm sorry but I can't cook or whatever. They've gotten used to it. Kind of the same at work...I avoid the phone and stressful people as much as I can during a downward cycle. Eventually, I come around and hit the upward part of the cycle. That's been my experience so far. I bet Andrea knows what I'm talking about.
I've wanted to quit my job at least twice since I stopped smoking, wanted to quit my husband, and fantasized about a different life. I keep coming back to the place where I love my life. I can also now look at a pizza and not want to eat the whole thing. Just one piece.
I also saw a 65-ish year old woman blow past me on a hiking trail recently. It pissed me off that I ever smoked.
8/17/19
I get it
i am still my ‘quit’ self too.
i feel impatient but have committed to giving it a year to settle. I believe it is worth it. It sheeeeeeeit!!!!
8/17/19
I do know what you're talking about, Jean. You describe it so well. Thank you.
8/17/19
Thanks, Andrea. Sounds kind of wordy, now that I'm looking at it, again...but geez. Cessation can be such a beast.
8/18/19
Hi Jean!
I have not been posting much but do read! I am glad to hear you are doing well! I am doing better than the last time I checked in!
8/21/19
Congratulations on SEVEN MONTHS, Jean!!!
Another month down the road. You're doing great!
Have a wonderful smoke free evening!
Hugs,
Andrea